On a first date:
Should you be honest on a first date or pretend you are what you think the other person may be wanting so you can have a relationship?
Should you ask questions you want answered or play the game until you get what you came for?
Should you ask questions whose answers are important to you about money sex religion politics?
Are you serious? The answers to your questions are no, no, and yes.
Let me ask you a few more questions.
Do you want a relationship based on lies and bullshit? If so, pretend.
And, "play the game until you get what you came for?". If all you want is to manipulate people into having shallow sex with you, then pretend.
Be honest, all the time. No pretending anything. Why on Earth would you want to pretend to be anything for someone else, if that anything isn't who you really are? That makes NO sense and WILL come back to bite you square in the ass later on. Do not misrepresent yourself, under any circumstances. No game playing. It's immature, and if you're just playing the game "until you get what you came for", you're not only dishonest, you're an asshole.
You ask the questions that are important to you. About anything. Don't be a schmuck.
I am honest, I am who I am and what I am. I'm too old to play games. I don't want to waste time cultivating a relationship with false pretenses. I ask questions I want answered, and I ask about the important stuff. Usually I will know most of the important stuff before we meet in person.
By the first day, I would have already known about money, sex, religion, and politics.
Yes, I would be honest on a first date and would expect the same. A person who pretends to be what the other person may be wanting sounds manipulative, and a disaster waiting to happen. I don't want to be pelted with questions.
I want a first date to be fun. Well, all dates, of course, but how we play and feel comfortable together on the first date will generally determine (for me, at least) it there's going to be a second date.
I am 67 and divorced after 30 yrs. Hitting the dating scene recently from dating sites, I make it a point to tell the truth , be open and straight from the go. I'm burnt out from marriage to try and create a false profile I most likely wouldn't recall. It's really a lot easier to date be honest, your at ease with yourself and can let your personality shine thru. If it doesn't work out now then it never would have worked out making up stories.
I always find honesty is the best policy. Before I meet someone for the first time I already know about their attitudes about money, sex, religion and politics. I need to know their values to see if we are compatible. Life is short and fleeting. Visiting fellow site member after talking on phone for weeks.
I think you should be honest, but you don't have to trot out your whole history right away (unless directly asked, then don't lie). Many of your questions will be answered, even if not in detail as the date progresses, so no need to push right away. Just be honest & be yourself.
My style was always to engage in general conversation. If the person seemed interesting, I might pursue other issues like the person's opinion on issues. If the likes and dislikes were similar enough, I would attempt to continue the relationship. The probing questions came later.
Damn - you're a boomer too - I would hope you'd have the answers to these ...
If one chooses to be a game player, they're likely to turn off just about any sincere person out there.
Every combination of people is a whole new pairing. How the interaction goes will be different for different people, depending on what's important to them, and what they seek from the potential relationship. Then - what level are they hoping to take it ? Lots of variations out there !
I say just be the best version of yourself you can be. Be as charming and attractive as you can be, but don't try to be someone you're not. A first date is like a job interview: put your best foot forward, but don't lie or you'll get fired for false pretenses.