That was a running joke on the sitcom "The Office" for years. It's an established bit of pop culture like "Where's the Beef?" was in the 80s. Nothing offensive about it.

I worked in a shipyard with 20,000 men for 13 years...i have NO idea what the problem was...did you think the remark was off-topic? Why Not turn it into a joke to embarrass the fool? Something like, "how would You know?" I find these things to be Teaching Moments!

It never is ok to be offensive, it is just bad manners and ugly. I am forever speaking to usually men and the younger generation about this. Women are not bitches but ladies and men are not bastards but gentlemen.

Youth can be impetuous in its inexperience. Maybe the kid learned something. You never learn a thing unless you fuck up, and then realize you fucked up.

The key is your last papragraph. In a more intimate group it could fly. As it was, it was inappropriate.Lesson learned I hope young man.

It is a sign of age, I feel the same way. It's kind of embarrassing to see the generation that people of my generation raised. It's difficult for me cause I was raised that public displays of rude or crude behavior is a sign of being extremely low class. How you present yourself in public matters only to us old farts I guess.

i was at a party once a million years ago. i was in my 20s, and the partiers were both younger and older than i. we were standing/sitting around in small groups, talking and listening, and some guy was talking to the guys in the small group in which i stood, and said something he apparently thought was too rough for mixed company, because he immediately turned to me and apologized. my response was "damned right, fuck that shit, there's a goddamned lady here watch your fucking mouth." my point was that if he cared THAT much about offending people -- anyone, not just women, in ANY way -- then he should have watched his mouth. if he didn't care, then he should not have apologized. i've seen it too many times not to find it hypocritical... on TOP of the fact that he just assumed that a female would be shocked, SHOCKED, i tell you, at whatever it was he uttered. so it was, for me, a double whammy.

in your situation -- haha, it might or might not have gone over my head, as i haven't heard that exact version. (i'd have recognized something closer to "said the whore to the john" ) how he said it might have given me the clue. had i caught on, i probably would have said something and who knows -- it might have been gentle or it might not have been so mild. i like to think i am not totally predictable!

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Ya gotta go with the flow... as you did..

Every generation encounters the passage of time and politeness the same way
you just did. It's kind of awkward being the one out of place in the room, I agree. More than once, I've overheard the ladies in the lunchroom at work saying things that would make a hardened veteran blush. Take that any way you like.

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The phrase "Said the actress to the bishop" is a colloquial and vulgar British exclamation, offering humour by serving as a punch line that exposes an unintended double entendre. An equivalent phrase in North America is "that's what she said".[1] Each phrase is an example of a Wellerism, exposing a second meaning of what precedes it.

I think social norms are meant to be challenged, especially by youth. When we just accept the "rules" because it's how things are done, we stop advancing. If the norms are reasonable and beneficial, we discover it quickly by crossing the lines.

See I like rude jokes.....but I also enjoy being offended????? tricky