As an RN who’s had to endure more than enough of this disgusting behavior. You are not in the wrong here. He continued to take advantage of a situation. He overstepped the professional relationship with the moment he made an inappropriate comment and touched you in an inappropriate way.
Whether he is married, single or engaged does not factor into the equation.
You’re trying to rationalize his irrational behavior. The guy is a pig, it’s not complicated.
Has anyone else noticed this behavior? The last thing you want to do become a subject of gossip.
When you do report, you go directly to HR.

There’s plenty of advice already posted. It sounds like you’ve already told him you’re not interested in anything more than a professional relationship. The next inappropriate contact must be reported to HR, although I understand that women’s complaints about harassment often are discounted and you have to be prepared for an inadequate response. . He’s putting you in an uncomfortable position. Protect yourself in anyway you must.Find allies at work. Keep his texts as evidence.

let's keep this professional...........

You don't need to overreact, and if you do he may well accuse you of misconstruing him being friendly. I think you know what you need to say - in a nice way tell him that there are professional boundaries you would like to stick to and some of his comments have caused you embarrassment. That should probably do it without too much awkwardness. If he ever says he would like to know you better than just as a work colleague, that's your chance to say "Great, how about introducing me to your wife and kids?".

whatever happened to free love ?
Like free stuff, it's part of the new leftist tradition of sharing everything that ain't yours

Let this guy know emphatically that you do NOT seek relationships beyond professional interactions with married men. Especially at work. Inform him that all communication between you moving forward will be work related and professional or you will escalate the matter to your HR department.

He sounds horribly manipulative and dishonest. The fact that he's as willing to hurt his wife by cheating speaks to his gross lack of character. I wouldn't want to even be friends with this creep. I pity the poor woman he tricked into marrying him. I'd give him exactly one warning to back off before reporting his behavior.

I would suggest that you be absolutely honest about your feelings and explain to him the situation just as you did on here. If he doesn't respect that, then he is not a good person...you can't blame him for trying, but you can blame him for persisting..

I would do this.... Have a conversation with him in private. I would tell him that you are uncomfortable with his advances and don't really want to be the "bad guy" but will go to HR if he continues. If he tries to play it off as "one friend complimenting the other" then tell him you are uncomfortable with his compliments as you see it as more than that. SHUT HIM DOWN!

I'd also unfriend him (or whatever you call it) on FB. All he is going to do with that is fantasize anyway...

You have to tell him he's making you uncomfortable and to back off. Directly.

I'm sorry to hear that you have to endure that?. This type of guy will not understand normal communication - you'll need to do something dramatic for them to get the hint. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS LETTING THEM DOWN SOFTLY. They're on the predator spectrum.

The next time something happens, please start to cry - you don't have to be loud or hysterical just visibly disturbed - then walk away without saying anything. When you return to your station, avoid him, try to stick with someone else. He will seek you out and ask what's wrong or what he did. He knows, but he'll ask. Use that as your ONE time explaination that the style of communication you've been experiencing makes you feel very UNSAFE and that you can only tolerate professional communication from him. If he starts to downplay his actions, mention that you've reviewed HR policies and you will seek HR AND law enforcement help the next time he does any flirtatious action. He'll try to downplay the situation maybe make you look silly, but hold to your guns. "You have no idea what I've been through! This is a place of work, so I expect to be provided a safe work environment or I will take action."

Unfortunately, this kind of guy is like a puppy dog. You can let him down softly with a head rub. You pet him even once and that'll get his tail wagging. From now on, he's permanently in the dog house. If you are the type to care about his feelings, think about the 'confusion' you could be putting him through, if you don't take quick and decisive actions (AKA playing games). Block him on Facebook immediately. Don't stare at him, don't comment on his jokes, don't compliment his work ethic - he has already demonstrated he's not good at determining what is too much, and he will reciprocate too far. Whatever delusion he has in his mind will fade, but know this - the second you slip up he'll be back in fantasy land. SHUT IT DOWN. Your eyes should exude blizzards.

Women hit on me all the time. One student told me she loves me. I just ignore the passes and move on with my life. They are adults, they know it's not appropriate. What else can you do about it? There's nothing to say. Since I ignore it, they know that I'm not interested and the passes stop after a while.

HR and wife, contact both. It is disgusting behavior and should not be tolerated.

Can you talk to your HR/office manager? This is sexual harassment. I would had probably be on the samesituation, because Ibehave like you do. Then, I get to a point I become distant and cold with the person. If you don want to talk to HR or tell him to step back, then unfriend the guy from fb and avoid dealing with him for a while. He will get the hint.

If you are around him for any reason, keep an eye on your beverage! He appears to have no boundaries and may be targeting you because you do not speak up...the fact that You felt "embarrassed" by his mentioning your perfectly legit workout wear troubles me!
The correct, fair thing to do is tell him, Once, in short, pithy words, 2 simple declarative sentences max, that you do not desire this type of attention, and that if it continues you will go to HR. (Your posting here, BTW, should be a "proof", if HR asks, so good going!)
Do Not answer His questions, wheedling, etc. after saying your piece! Jjust walk away after delivering this message, as staying/listening will allow him to spin another web around you, and give him more excuses to harass you. And make no mistake, this IS workplace harassment!!!

Report him to hr. He is violating company policy. On a first offense (of this nature, anyway, I have fired first offenses that were more overtly sexual) they will usually council anonymously. Remind him of policy, explain that there "have been complaints" and put a record of it in his file.

Meet it head on.. tactfully let him know that his behavior makes you uncomfortable..you have every right a work environment of harassment... he is seeing how far he can go with you...let him know if he cannot control his behavior then you will have inform Human Resources of the situation... it’s always best if you have witnesses, but that is not always the case, nonetheless, don’t let this grow and really get out of hand... you know being in the medical profession “ the best cure is prevention “ ... best wishes.....

That's tough. You should be yourself, no more no less. And tell him straight out, you have other interests, sorry pal, but that's how it is.
If he keeps it up......shift supervisor needs talked to.
Good luck.

Takes courage fist, get him have a coffee break and tell him like it is, platonic is as far as it goes and what he is doing may have to be addressed as harrassment.. You like him as a person but am not interested in establishing a relationship of non platonic nature.

No whether or not he has an 'open relationship' or just cheating on his partner/spouse NO man has a given right to accost ANY woman what-so-ever.
To my mind, he's just being a dirty filthy perv and needs to brought into line asap.

Just explain if this doesn't stop that you will go to his wife with your complaints

57 comments and counting. Maybe someone already said this. Why can't you tell him to his face you are not interested and be done with it? Harrassment continues then plan B but until then....

His marriage is his business. Admittedly, that's pretty tasteless if he is cheating, but they may have an open marriage - so, don't judge too harshly.

In the final analysis, it's about what you want. Since our culture agrees that men have to be the ones to express interest, he is doing what everyone agrees he should do. If you aren't interested, then tell him. Say simply "I don't want to confuse you here; I'm not interested in dating you. You're a good guy, but I don't want to date you." It'll suck and his ego will take a hit, but he is the one that brought all that into work. If he can't be professional after he gets shot down, then he shouldn't have brought that into work.

If he doesn't take it well and it becomes a problem at work, then go to HR. He has to go.

Own the situation and this should go away fairly quickly. Silence is compliance, so you'll need to speak up and express what you want. Often that is adequate. If it isn't, then go to your employer. If the employer is any good, then it'll get dealt with quickly.

I’m sorry you are struggling with this. He’s being an ass, and you owe him nothing. He is sexually harassing you and you should report him. Unfriend him on Facebook. He is being disrespectful to you and likely knows he makes you uncomfortable.

Sounds like hes just another sexual predator, who's bored with his wife and seeking a bit of fresh, tell him to fuck off orat least get a divorce first