I would just be open n truthful and tell this person in no uncertain terms your beliefs preclude u from any relationship with a married person

***I am sorry that you are being sexually harassed at work...I talked my girls who have been in similar situations, and Wee think this character is taking advantage of your sensitive, kind nature...He has no concept of Love & Romance(he is sexual preditore ), and perhaps you ought to use social defense; and straight him ought since he is clearly violating your social boundaries.....Look him in the eye and say " you are not type - now back off, or I will take action "...Women who are shy and sensitive are often prayed upon by sexual aggressors who see your nature as a weakness... He has history with his sick, behavior problem.... .......I noticed you write and think well, and I would Love to, perhaps, have on going discussion with you because you are interesting....Have an awesome day/night.....Bye for now, Ron...

A really good burn. "Your pants are gonna look great when your wife throws them into your yard after I tell her what you just said to me, bitch!"

Yikes....worked in the OR for almost 20 years and I've seen plenty of bad behavior. Usually doctors and nurses. Skipped the Christmas parties because we couldn't bring a date and the open bar was a recipe for Monday stories. Harassment was everywhere. Not OK. Today is a different day. My advice...you already told him strait that you are not interested.....F' off....he didn't listen...go to HR. Maybe that we prevent him from harassing a new nurse or tech who is less savvy in negotiating the social minefield we both know the OR often is....

Be polite but you must set the boundaries. Tell him his behaviour is making you feel uncomfortable and it is totally inappropriate in the workplace. YOU Have done nothing wrong at all but I know this situation still makes us women feel guilty. We women all know how he will react " oh I was only joking. Can't you take a joke?'. Then you say "well lets ask your wife how hilarious she finds it".
Maintain your dignity. He knows he is out of line.

I'm not attacking you. But this culture of putting ourselves (women) last in these matters makes me sick. Please try not to worry about "creating tension"! You did not create it. He did. You are only responding to his actions. None of this is your fault. You may tell me you don't feel it's your fault, but by your very statements, you're automatically feeling responsibilities for HIS BEHAVIOR. Ugh!!!
It's not up to you to make this all nice.....

@Allikat tell your story, girl

I started working for a company that was contracted into another bigger company and we were maintenance as well as the company has their own maintenance group only men and my contracted in company was all women I started working and a man in maintenance saw me and liked what he saw he was singing Hot Pockets as he walked by me every time and I didn't think anything of it every day I worked with these woman I talked about my boyfriend this man continued to try to talk to me and the same as you I thought that he was trying to be friendly and I was trying to be friendly back he started to kind of hit on me and in front of my old co-workers He Slipped me a piece of paper with his Snapchat name on it I stupidly added him and he told me I had a nice phat ass. I told him thank you but I wasn't interested and I went to work the next day and told two of the girls about it and they told me he was married and had three children I didn't know any of that because he had taken his wedding ring off since I had shut him down he he gave me the cold shoulder and acted very butthurt so I thought I was going to be left alone little did I know that hit had very much hurt his ego he continued to sing Hot Pockets while he was around me and I was wearing a pair of workout leggings just like you and the man was walking behind me one day and the locker area and started making butt squishing noises at every step I took I was mortified and decided that myself I would confront him and I did I told him that it was rude and I was embarrassed by him making those comments at me and the I did not deserve to be treated that way he apologized and I walked away from him to my locker he followed me to my locker continuing to try and apologize as a compliance manager overheard all of this and stepped in between us and stopped everything that was happening I spoke to this manager in private and I told him everything that had happened and that I didn't want to create problems with either working environment and that I would not report this incident little did I know that he would be talked to and told to leave me alone a week after he continued making hot pocket comments and then the week after that as I was cleaning the floors he decided to stop the dirt off of his boots before he went into the locked off area of the building I had had enough and decided that I was going to make a report and I was going to tell them everything from the very beginning I was told by this company that there was nothing that they could do they would tell him to leave me alone again and that I could change my entire schedule so I would not be in as much of an area that he would be in but in the end there was nothing that the company could actually do about it please be very cautious of what you do outside of work things can go badly I put in my two weeks and they only let me work two days before they told me that they wouldn't need me anymore I made a mistake and I'm paying for it don't make the same mistakes

We're all human. We all make mistakes and sometimes take things too far. Sometimes, we're a little overly driven to compensate for things that are lacking in our lives and some may not have a good example to follow. Maybe we're just in a bad place and are making some bad choices because our judgment is impaired.

A couple of good suggestions in the comments. Especially BeccaVa. Some things to consider: How will management respond to a complaint? Who does management favor more: you or him? How have they handled other complaints? Have other complaints been filed for this guy? Also, what's his wife like? Is she a willing participant? Are they swingers? Or would there be hell to if she found out?

Whatever you do, how you respond makes all the difference. Be direct, blunt and assertive to the source of the problem. Not easy or fun, but necessary. If that doesn't work, find out what does and approach it in a strategic, thoughtful and measured manner to resolve the problem quickly and efficiently. I used to get angry when I had to deal with other peoples problems but then I learned I just had to get better at dealing with them because they never go away.

Hope this helps.

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