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you're not the one creating the tension. there is no polite way out of this. here is the proper plan:

1. unfriend him on facebook.

2. tell him not to touch you on the shoulder or anywhere else, ever again.

3. tell him that you will not converse with him except as business requires. follow through and pretend he has not spoken if he makes things personal.

4. report him to highers ups if he doesn't back off.

5. report him to police if he stalks you.

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What a slug. The administrative route is secure, but can make certain situations worse. Be clear that you're not interested. Don't entertain flattery. If you're trying to be conversational, maybe bringing up his family with questions that force the embarrassed idea of answering for his wife might help, but doubtful. I chuckled at the comment of getting a dick pic for his wife. I don't know. Maybe give him a warning that if he doesn't stop, you're going to report it. At least that's up front, giving him the choice to back off our face consequences. Also sends the message you're not to be trifled with. But you have to follow through. Document everything. Any way you handle it, be careful. Sometimes things don't turn out like you expect. A situation I was in, my employer reprimanded me because I spoke back. Anywhere else in public, it would have been a crime. Nothing like blaming the victim. Even in a corporate setting with harassment policies. Outside work, the law applies, inside.... who knows!?

Tell him you are interested in getting his dick picture to show his wife how he hangs out at work ! Then call his wife and get her to deal with him !

Tell him you are not interested. Make sure to include that his comments while flattering, are making you uncomfortable. Be honest with him. Tell him you would like to keep the work environment professional. If he cannot stop the compliments then I would consider unfriending him on Facebook. Keep all interaction with him work related and be up front when he tries to be flirtatious.

If he knows that you're currently separated, then he could, consciously or subconsciously, see you as an easy target. You're in one of the most vulnerable places of life right now. He can either respect that and try to be supportive, or try to take advantage of it. Sounds like he's doing the latter. Lot's of good advice in the comments, I agree, report him if it continues.

This is harassment and against the law in the workplace. Report immediately to Human Resources.

If you have any of this communication from him in FB msgs, elsewhere, save all of it. In at least 2 safe places.

You have to be firm with someone like that and politely inform them you are not interested in such discussions while on the job or even after your shift ends. If he persists in the advances, I would go to the human resources department (assuming your place of employment has one that is) and report him. I dealt with a similar circumstance with a female employee years ago that wouldn't let up and went to HR to report her for harassment. When situations like that come up, you can't be afraid to speak up, as it wouldn't be your fault any of that happened.

In my experience, this is a male, who allows his ‘sexual attraction free reign!’ If he puts ‘it’ out there and someone ‘bites,’ then it was all in the game! But, this is a dangerous game as people can get hurt or loose their job, it is not worth taking part in! I would state my position clearly and let him know that you are not interesting in playing games! Let this person know, that this is not fun, to you! If it continues, i would report it to your supervisor one time and if it continues, I would file a complaint.

Be strong, firm, open, honest, and serious. It's tempting to try to get along, but if he doesn't respect your feelings, then not taking him on will make matters worse. Go to your supervisor, go to HR, go to your EEO Rep, and tell them now to protect yourself.

I agree with everyone else. Warn him to stop, and if he persists, take it to HR. I’d avoid being alone with him whenever possible. It makes me feel bad for you. Nothing like unnecessary stress. All the best, however you handle it. ??

By not "being clear with him" of YOUR intentions, he keeps following his. You haven't told him "no", you're "not interested". If you create tension in him, so be it. It's your sanity (and your image at work)... that's at stake. They all know about him...

And: it is always good form to be applying for new jobs. If for no other reason than to know what you are worth.

Start talking a lot about this great new guy you met, and how you think you are falling for him. Total lie, but he can back off gracefully.

I'd be straight with him, without threatening to escalate it. File a complaint only if he doesn't back off after you've told him.

You are being sexually harassed. Save all communications, and take it to HR.
He is the one creating tension FOR YOU. Don't be concerned with how this will effect him. HE is the problem. HE is making it "weird". Hoping it'll go away isn't going to happen.
If you don't have an HR department, take it to your supervisor, and to his supervisor, if it's not the same person.
He is making your work environment uncomfortable.
Do not accept blame for something that is NOT your fault.
Don't worry about how this is going to effect him. He isn't remotely concerned about how it's effecting you.
Good luck.

I would tell him to be respectful. And, if not, file a complaint.

I would suggest that you be absolutely honest about your feelings and explain to him the situation just as you did on here. If he doesn't respect that, then he is not a good person...you can't blame him for trying, but you can blame him for persisting..

Well he's definitely trying flirt, I suggest just keeping your distance. It would probably be the best way help end things and not cause any problems

Report him to HR immediately. His behavior is unacceptable.
Make out reports for sexual harassment.
They need to put a stop to this.
Your workplace is toxic and hostile.
NO means NO.
Stop means STOP.
Don't remain quiet...you did nothing wrong.
STOP him. Speak up.

Sounds like hes just another sexual predator, who's bored with his wife and seeking a bit of fresh, tell him to fuck off orat least get a divorce first

I’m sorry you are struggling with this. He’s being an ass, and you owe him nothing. He is sexually harassing you and you should report him. Unfriend him on Facebook. He is being disrespectful to you and likely knows he makes you uncomfortable.

His marriage is his business. Admittedly, that's pretty tasteless if he is cheating, but they may have an open marriage - so, don't judge too harshly.

In the final analysis, it's about what you want. Since our culture agrees that men have to be the ones to express interest, he is doing what everyone agrees he should do. If you aren't interested, then tell him. Say simply "I don't want to confuse you here; I'm not interested in dating you. You're a good guy, but I don't want to date you." It'll suck and his ego will take a hit, but he is the one that brought all that into work. If he can't be professional after he gets shot down, then he shouldn't have brought that into work.

If he doesn't take it well and it becomes a problem at work, then go to HR. He has to go.

Own the situation and this should go away fairly quickly. Silence is compliance, so you'll need to speak up and express what you want. Often that is adequate. If it isn't, then go to your employer. If the employer is any good, then it'll get dealt with quickly.

Just explain if this doesn't stop that you will go to his wife with your complaints