Interesting, mostly highly judgmental reactions. So many reactions that immediately assume that anyone looking for a relationship is looking to have sex. I find that really extremely weird. Are people really that way ? I have never understood that. Than again I am definitely not one of the boys.

Life is what you make it!
...Sounds like you're failing.

Please leave. I am sure you will not be missed, and there will be one less man. It works for you, and it works for us. Win/Win.

Try church!

really? i see lots of women here. of course i'm not looking for women (or men). thing is, this isn't a pickup place. i mean i suppose you could try to use it that way but you're going to encounter a lot of people who will be smartass with you for trying. the community is a good way to get to know people safely without committing to so much as a "well i MIGHT be interested romantically" -- just like real life (outside of bars). this place is the opposite of a bar. here you can talk to people and NOT be mistaken for wanting to jump right into the sack. there are conversations going on all over the place, and both men and women are participating in them. you wanna just hang out in the parts where singles are looking for each other without getting to know each other? yeah you'll see a lot of guys there. you wanna actually get to know someone? you do know people fall in love at work and at the gym and in the park and wherever, ANYWHERE, better than at a bar, right? so you put yourself into the most bar-like part of the site. of course that's what you'll find. try the actual community.

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Also, you're not the first man who joined this site and started complaining that there aren't women lined up hot and ready to sleep with them. You just joined a little while ago..

And you seem to be blaming your failure to find someone on things besides yourself.

I met someone through this site after about one month. You've been here less than that and I haven't seen any of your posts. And I know for a fact there are many women here looking for a good man.

Well, with that attitude, it's probably not going to get much better for you.

Wow...wow that just is not the case. Why don't you dispense with your desire to 'get with someone' off the bat and join the conversation. What is it you want?

I don't know much about the dating etherspere but what I do know is that everyone loves a good complainer. It's a proven aphrodisiac and gets the pity genes turned on. I would suggest broadening your search parameters. I'm currently getting quite flirty with an 83 year old Pygmy from the Congo. So .....I geuss you could say things are getting pretty serious.

yep.

Not sure what to tell you partner. Good things come slowly. Be yourself and be patient. At bars, I'm happy with cold pinot grigio, some space at the bar, and a good game on the tube. Everything else is a bonus. Here, I like the company of non-believers, the ideas put out by those with politically similar attitudes, and the opportunity to reach a new savvy audience that has not heard or seen all of my material before. It's all about expectations.

A lot of us here don't view this as a dating site so much as a agnostic/atheist site.

It is a "sausage fest", but many of us are here for the atheism. I for example, find this a nice place to be because I can talk about whatever without being proselytized or blessed or prayered-upon

The site is what you make it. Thankfully the person who introduced me to it warned me not to expect it to be for dating but more for community. It just doesn’t have enough members yet to truly be a dating site (depending upon where you live).

I would suggest you join some groups especially geared for singles. See if there are any groups specific to your state or region. Enjoy the discussions and have fun, if nothing else at least you don’t have to worry about being preached to!

You need to go to better bars. LOL

Ok...but at least you aren't being groped by drunks, choking on cigarette smoke, or incurring an astronomical bar tab. So, it's at least a little better than bars....am I right?

It's actually a reflection of the real world...

This is not primarily a dating site and you have been suffering under a misconception if you think it is. Quite a large number of us are here for purely social, intellectual or community reasons.....! Maybe a purely dating site will be more fulfilling for you.