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Sorrow has reared its head in my life. Our dog passed over the rainbow bridge today, and our hearts are broken. The sorrow will eventually dissipate, replaced by smiles whenever we remember a silly, cute, or loving thing that he did, but that is yet to come. I choked up and cried when we returned from the veterinarian and I saw his tennis ball by my chair. Time is our greatest ally in this. Thanks for listening. Peace.

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I am very sorry for your loss. Dont rush to put the belongings away. I put my 16yo dachshund to sleep a few months ago, and we are slowly putting his stuff away. It is hard.
They are wonderful life partners!!!

Zoohome Level 7 Dec 7, 2018
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Thanks for your kind words. I'm slowly getting better, more accepting, but mist still enters my eyes sometimes. His bed and toys are still out. We don't have the desire to put them away yet.

@tioteo exactly. That's part of grieving.

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we lost our English Mastiff last week. I am still upset over this. she had been a great dog for over 10 years. I still look for her sometimes.

Dale2006 Level 5 Dec 7, 2018
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I understand. Our critters are such an important part of our lives. My sympathy.

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Go and visit the humane shelters for Dogs,get a new one,not as a replacement,but another life you've saved they are so appreciative of your love.

Mike1947 Level 7 Dec 6, 2018
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That's in the future, probably spring. We definitely believe in adopting.

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Take some comfort in knowing you gave your dog a loving home, and, hopefully, a full lifespan. So many will never get that.

ofbhbofg Level 1 Dec 6, 2018
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Thank you for the kindness. We loved him for well over 15 years, but he gave it all back.

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There is no upside to losing a beloved family pet! NONE!

Imatheistically Level 6 Dec 6, 2018
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True. Time will help. Thanks.

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Been there. Hugz

Lucy_Fehr Level 7 Dec 6, 2018
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Thanks for the thought. We miss him, but time is our helper.

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So sorry for your loss.... our fur babies are the world to us, aren't they? what was his name?

aintmisbehaven Level 5 Dec 6, 2018
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His name was Stubby, because he has a very short stub tail. He was half Pembroke Welch Corgi and half miniature Australian shepherd. We'll get past the immediacy of the heartache, but it will take time. Thanks.

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As an animal lover with a German Shepherd 10 years old I cry with you. Sassy's time is coming. My daughter is taking her and I will be 3 hours away. RIP.

sassygirl3869 Level 9 Dec 6, 2018
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Good wishes for you. We love our furbabies!

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Oh, so sorry...the Only thing wrong with dogs is their short lifespan

AnneWimsey Level 8 Dec 6, 2018
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12 years I guess,for most Dogs,the Saint Bernards and the Great Danes,maybe 7 years,but my late wife's Aunt in Washington State had a small Dog for 22 years,unheard of, but it was deaf and blind when it passed away.

@Mike1947 true, that the smaller ones have longer lifespans

@AnneWimsey my dachshund cut me short. He was only 13 when I had to make the call. They will live longer for you... suffering but they will. (If possible) it is our responsibility to let go.

@Zoohome I have in a box,all the Dog collars of the Dogs my late wife and I had together, and information about them,taking them out once in a while,memories of when they were young and full of energy,not thinking of their later years,too sad to go there....

@Mike1947 that is nice! I want to do something with their tags. The two boys went thru so much with me - many chapters in life.

@Zoohome Maybe a shadow memory box,pictures,Dog collars,and their tags?

@Mike1947 nice idea! 🤗

Thank you. A number of good ideas generated here.

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Sorry for the loss to your family. 😞

Lutherzme Level 7 Dec 6, 2018
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Thank you. We are getting better slowly.

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I'm so sorry Tio. Been there too many times.
(Hugs)

Dandewine Level 6 Dec 6, 2018
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Thank you. We've been here before also. It's tough, but we'll get through it.

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Condolences sent. I've lost many dog friends over the years.

ronnie40356 Level 6 Dec 6, 2018
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Thank you. You know what it's like.

@tioteo Yes😐

@tioteo I have a little chihuahua right now that's nearing his time. He's 14 with heart problems, diabetes, cataracts and takes medicine for seizures. I'm hoping he lasts till after the new year.🤐

@ronnie40356 I hope so, too.

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many of us have been there and share your feelings. It is so difficult and then a couple years later another dog enters our life and we love the new as much as the past.
One saying I love is that loosing a pet is as powerful as loosing a family member only this one you really love.
I am on my third dog and she is just as cute as the others but with a love that is so worth the investment of me into the relationship. They only live a decade or a little over and that is the gift we must realize is the special one.
Best to you and soon another set of wet sloppy lips will cross your own with a smile.

EMC2 Level 7 Dec 6, 2018
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We'll probably adopt again in spring. Thanks.

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Sorry for your loss. My pooch passed away last February & it's still tough. I still haven't been able to put all her things away.

davyjones Level 6 Dec 6, 2018
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His things will be out a long time, even though we trip over them sometimes Reminders of love.

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I understand your sorrow completely, but find your "rainbow bridge" stuff simply maudlin.

wordywalt Level 8 Dec 6, 2018
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In that case, you don’t understand ‘completely’! There’s a time and a place, jesus!!!

Wow, baby, what do you do for fun? Steer blind people toward cliffs?

@ofbhbofg I am a pet lover and have deeply mourned several of my dear companions. I treasure the memories of them. But, I see "the rainbow bridge" as the equivalent of believing in heaven for humans. As an atheist or agnostic, I would think that you could understand that. Why attack my motives?

Let me also add that I have buried two of my dearest companions in my vegetable garden with my own hands, hoping that some of the atoms and molecules that comprised them may become a part of me and my life again.
That is love and respect.

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@wordywalt That’s fine and dandy, but it doesn’t excuse belittling others’ expression of their feelings. Logic has its place, but it doesn’t work with emotions. Your reaction, whilst laudable, is devoid of emotion. Maybe you need to consider that. Irrespective of our lack of belef in a ‘heaven’, there are still cultural ties that we can buy into without losing our integrity.

E.G: I’m looking forward to christmas - I’ll pay no heed to its christian and pagan overtones, but merely its human value. It has cultural meaning for me.

@KevinTwining Your characterization is untrue and derogatory. The pot should not be calling the kettle black.

@wordywalt It’s based on the evidence of your words. Your pot/kettle statement went right over my head I’m afraid.

@KevinTwining It is an old folk statement meaning that one who makes derogatory statements should not accuse another of the same offense. Also, as Hermann Hesse points out, we are all multifaceted, contradictory creatures. It is often when we are forced to face the contradictions that we do not want to face that real growth occurs. Facing such contradictions often makes us feel unformatable,but any real growth is a plus, not a minus.

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I am so soory for your loss. My dog of 16 years passed on May 10th this year. It gets easier & then again it doesn't. This years of first suck. I will be going along fine & grief will jump out & reduce me to tears. May 10, 2019 is on a Friday & I will be turning my application to volunteer at my local shelter on that day. (I'm not ready yet.)

SallyInStitches Level 7 Dec 6, 2018
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We'll adopt again, probably in spring.

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I still miss my 2 cats that died within 6 months of each other 5 years ago. They were so special. Sorry for your loss.

Alimacbean Level 7 Dec 6, 2018
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Condolences to you as well. Thanks.

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Aw that is so sad. My boy is older with health problems, I dread his death.

Holiday Level 7 Dec 6, 2018
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You know the kind of love that we had for our boy. Your boy is lucky, and so are you.

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As others have said, your dog was a family member, so (as @RavenCT said) this is real grief. Give yourselves time and permission to grieve. Every time a pet of mine died, it left a hole in my heart. As you said, it will dissipate eventually and it will be filled with memories. However, in the meantime, there will be many things that remind you of him and it will be painful. Lots of hugs and peace coming your way.

Mofferatu Level 7 Dec 6, 2018
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Thank you. Time will be our best balm for the hurt.

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I have an older dog and her health is on my mind. We're best buddies now so I enjoy that. I'm sorry that your pet has passed, and I'm sure your memories of him are alive in your heart.

jimdaughters Level 4 Dec 6, 2018
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Those memories are very much alive. Thanks for your words.

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I’m sorry to hear about your boy. I hope that when you have memories in the time to come that you will share them here. Peace to you.

orange_girl Level 7 Dec 6, 2018
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Thank you. All the memories are good, and they are starting to make me smile rather than blubber.

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Dozer Dog sends you all a Big Hug!

joe1334us Level 6 Dec 6, 2018
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Dozer, I'm sure you are a fine canine! Thanks.

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Yes my Vets office is terribly compassionate and I never escape wihout someone bursting into tears.

I hope you find some rest tonight. It's always rough in the days leading up to this. And it takes time to ease the sorrow.

Remember that's a member of your family gone. It's real grief. (((tioteo))))

RavenCT Level 9 Dec 6, 2018
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Thank you. As a critter lover you definitely understand.

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Hugs

KissedbySun Level 7 Dec 6, 2018
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Thank you. We're doing better but long from total acceptance.

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Sorry for your loss. 😥

BeeHappy Level 8 Dec 6, 2018
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Thanks, Bonnie. I know you understand.

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