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Hey everyoneone, I’m so lonely emotionally.
I just feel bad.

Julius9811 5 Dec 26
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You just did something good for yourself, you expressed yourself, you're telling us something about you, about what's going on with your life. That's a good first step.
I had some moments of sadness and loneliness in my past and I found myself some help to pull me through. I took some time to know a bit more about myself, about what I need to be happier. I made some plans, I went out and did something with my life.
I hope you'll figure your stuff out and get better soon too.

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Hi Julius ,
When I feel lonely and lost I listen to this simple funny song ? I hope u find your grapes or your lemonade . Don't quit asking and don't stop offering .

got any grapes?

@glennlab ??? who knows what's in the store Mr Glenn , who knows ?Is worth trying and is worth offering . Some days we are the duck , some days the man behind the stand .

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I understand. Be good to yourself. Funny books and movies help you laugh.

"Calypso" by David Sedaris is hilarious!

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Hugs don't be lonely, come and have a chat

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The loneliest I have ever felt, deep, aching, and going on for decades, was when I was married to 2nd hubby....."such a fine man", i was unable to even articulate what was wrong. Made me nasty, too.
Now I know the difference between lonely & alone,, and do not look for validation from others.
This is, by far, the happiest time in my 70 years.....
My best advice: Get a dog, immediately, preferably untrained so you have to pay a lot of attention!

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The natural tendency here is to tell you to connect with more people but that only serves as a band-aid because those people can move away, pass away, choose to go offline, develop different tastes and different world views. After which, you'll find yourself right back in the same situation. This is a self issue as in you're not going to find relief simply by meeting people. Do things that raise your self-esteem, if you have a poor posture - change it. If you want to become healthy - do it. If you have hobbies or interests that you're not pursuing - get out of the house and do it. You'll encounter people to interact with along the way but you won't be emotionally dependent on them. If you're looking for support or validation from other people you'll almost always be disappointed - it has to come from within and one day you'll find something (not someone) that makes you passionate enough to get out of bed in the morning and then you won't be lonely anymore. The advice that I am giving you is the what I did to turn my life around from being a person that slouched when I walked down the street and looked at the sidewalk vs. the other people passing by. It required taking baby steps but eventually I got to the point in my life where I am comfortable in my own skin and perfectly content to do my own thing and if that means doing it alone because others don't share the same interests - I'm OK with that too. I love ancestry, I love metal detecting, I love researching abandoned homes, and not many in my family have the same interests but that doesn't stop me from doing these things.

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I'm sorry, Julius. Sometimes this time of year makes it even worse--not only the holidays but the lack of sunlight. Taking my dog for a long walk helps me, although sometimes it's hard to get motivated to get going. I hope you feel a bit better soon. Do try going outside for a nice walk.

Carin Level 8 Dec 27, 2018
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Loneliness is waiting for someone to care. It may be a certain someone or just anyone. I'm learning to be that person for myself but it is not easy. I, like many others, just want to be loved.

Nardi Level 7 Dec 27, 2018
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Julius i was feeling this too earlier this week ..Sunday. I hope you find a way to cope. It sucks.

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It can happen from time to time in life, even in a relationship. I have been riding that train awhile myself. It will not last forever, unless you are just completely unlikeable. 🙂

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We all go through this at times, no matter if we have families, friends or a partner. Try to reach for someone to talk to, It doesn't have to be a "best" or "good" friend, just someone to talk to will make you feel less isolated, I think?

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The worst part for me is not having a person to talk to, at times I am so very lonely

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I know just how you feel,especially during this time of the year so 've my girlfriend died earlier this year.Do not fear these feelings,however this site has many people who are empathetic,and willing to listen.

Damn autocorrect?

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I am saddened to hear this, friend. But if you feel lonely, that's just the way you feel. Honoring those feelings and being aware that they exist is all a part of what it means to be self-aware. I don't have any magic words that will make you feel less lonely. I wish I did, though, because having felt the way you do now, it's not something I would wish on anyone. We are here for you.

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While chatting online might not be as satisfying as face-to-face interaction, it might pass some of the time when "the lonelies" are the worst. (You might want to ignore the trolls though. They are not interested in actually helping and likely have issues of their own thatvyou might wantvto steer clear of).

Zster Level 8 Dec 27, 2018
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I think we all have those times - I know I sure do !

If it lasts more than a couple days - maybe talking to someone ( in person), will help. Otherwise, I've found that getting up and out -to do just about anything other than moping, helps !

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Look for beauty in nature. Find something to laugh about. Life is good when you keep your eye on the good stuff and keep developing your sense of humor. If you are going through a rough moment, just remember that the sun will come out tomorrow. Hugs.

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Are you sure your not dealing with depression? I struggle with depression and I have experienced times when I'm with friends in a crowd of people and still feel isolated and alone.

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Loneliness can be horrible - it drains you.

I hope you find a way through it to contented companionship.

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Get over yourself and then we can talk.

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I feel very much the same way as you do Julius. I find it particularly haunting that we're the same age.

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Come help me build my house.

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