Can I ever be happy again ?
I think that depends on your definition of “happy”
My career is going nowhere (rather ironic for a train driver) I’m divorced, I’ve been single for 6 years, I only get to see my son one day a week... but in some ways I am happier than I was when I was married.
I own my own home. I get to do whatever I feel like doing. The time I do have with my son is the best, we do lots of fun stuff and have great holidays together. No one complains about me playing video games or buying expensive single malt scotch.
Of course it’s not perfect. Yes there is always room for improvement. But I am content because I don’t set goals that are unattainable or based on others. It’s about finding what really matters not what society tells you should make you happy.
Choose happy. What makes you happy, do that. Choose to look on the bright side. Nurture yourself. Count your advantages. If you make up your mind that you will be happy, then you will be happy. If you choose otherwise it will happen. You have to make the decision and then do it.
For the most part I think we create our own happiness or lack there of,. I will meditate about what kind of mood I'm gonna be in. I don't wait for my mood to find me. A good saying I like is think about what your thinking about. If something starts throwing shade on my happiness I notice pretty quick and step back and it usually just takes a minute for me to clear my head and reset. I hope that helps.
I think the fact that you're asking the question is a good sign. I think too often people are overcome with grief or anger (or whatever) and they tell themselves "I'll never be happy again," and then it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I don't think that happiness is simply a choice, because it's much more complicated. Being open to the possibility, I think, is a step in the right direction. Good luck to you.
Happiness is a state of mind (with the exception of some mental illness) and as such is a choice.
Our emotions are valid, but we can choose how we manage those emotions.
Start by asking yourself what makes you happy or sad. If you choose to dwell on the things that make you sad, then you will miss the things that make you happy.
Ignore the things you can't change and concentrate on the things you can. Negativity breeds negativity.
Think positive. It works. It takes time, but you can train yourself to manage your happiness (and other emotions). Talk to yourself - but only talk to yourself in the positive and look to the future not the past.
However, if you are clinically depressed, you need to seek professional help.
You will find happiness again.