To show desire for dating or community on your profile?
I have waffled back and forth on this since I started. The problem is both are kind of applicable. I am here for the community but if I met a person and we became friends and later wanted to expand on that I would be open to it. I just am not actively looking for a partner. No huntress mode. lol
There's not enough options, I guess or too many. Is this something that others have difficulty with?
I am in the same boat. I tried the open to dating thing, but found it overwhelming. I ended up opting for community and removing most of my profile statement. I agree with others here, that looking at the person’s profile is essential. Compatibility is everything...otherwise being single is better.
Same. I handled it by saying here for community, but added, come say hello if you think we're kindred spirits. If you say "community" I guess your profile doesn't show up in searches of "open to meeting..." Ok with me, I'd rather people decide based on my posts/comments.
I suppose I'm here more for a like-minded community. If I was to strike up conversation or meet with a lady, that is something to be open to. But this doesn't seem to be so much a "dating" site as it is a community for those who question or a skeptical of the existence of an omnipotent deity. If that's all this site ever is for me, I can live with that.
Good point. IMO, most of life is fluid and the sooner I realized that, the better my personal peace became. I think that we sometimes mix up compatibility with chemistry. Likes and interests are not the same, IMO, than chemistry. I have had the most intense connection with a few, and I mean few, women that I had very little in common with (measured by interests and activities). So, on a site like this, or others, if you connect with someone, that's very cool, but seeking companionship using a silo approach might not work.
Very good points you raised.
I'm here for both, so in my status I say that I'm interested, and if anyone shows up who I connect with, that would be great. But I also don't have much in my bio more than talking about being curious (which I am right now, about other people but also about myself), and when I'm ready to put myself out there more I'll probably update my bio and be more active and responsive about meeting people and dating. Seems to work for me... And if nothing more materializes even after that, I'm okay with it. Gotta live your life the best you can whether you're in a relationship or not.
there are some odd anomalies - for instance if looking for friends: men/women/trans/etc. why is the last option 'other' and not 'all'?
With children - why 'sometime' which many people are reading as 'sometimes' (ie. don't live with that parent?) instead of 'maybe have children later'.
And too few options frequently in the choices.