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To show desire for dating or community on your profile?

I have waffled back and forth on this since I started. The problem is both are kind of applicable. I am here for the community but if I met a person and we became friends and later wanted to expand on that I would be open to it. I just am not actively looking for a partner. No huntress mode. lol

There's not enough options, I guess or too many. Is this something that others have difficulty with?

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I am in the same boat. I tried the open to dating thing, but found it overwhelming. I ended up opting for community and removing most of my profile statement. I agree with others here, that looking at the person’s profile is essential. Compatibility is everything...otherwise being single is better.

LB67 Level 7 Mar 13, 2019

I flip back and forth depending on my horniness level 😉😈

hippydog Level 7 Mar 13, 2019

IKR!!!! Ha


Yes, I am here in the same capacity. I go back and forth as to whether I should state that I am looking to date or here for community, on my profile.


I suppose I'm here more for a like-minded community. If I was to strike up conversation or meet with a lady, that is something to be open to. But this doesn't seem to be so much a "dating" site as it is a community for those who question or a skeptical of the existence of an omnipotent deity. If that's all this site ever is for me, I can live with that.

I asked once if anyone ever got a date though this site, and it seems by the replies I got that there have been weddings children and all sorts. I assume therefore that if you click on the communtity in your bio that the whole dating thing takes place on another level, perhaps by email, that you just don't see.


Not me. I joined for community.
I'm single and fully expect to stay that way.
I am not relationship material and I am completely undatable.

KKGator Level 9 Mar 13, 2019

Made me look, lol! ♥

..have really enjoyed your shit around here, though smile009.gif

@PalacinkyPDX I'm glad you were entertained. smile001.gif


@MrBeelzeebubbles Have some more!

Me too .

@PalacinkyPDX it certainly bought joy to the small kids visiting us during Halloween.


Good point. IMO, most of life is fluid and the sooner I realized that, the better my personal peace became. I think that we sometimes mix up compatibility with chemistry. Likes and interests are not the same, IMO, than chemistry. I have had the most intense connection with a few, and I mean few, women that I had very little in common with (measured by interests and activities). So, on a site like this, or others, if you connect with someone, that's very cool, but seeking companionship using a silo approach might not work.

Very good points you raised.


I’m officially whatever. If she taps me on the shoulder, then OK.


I'm in the same boat. I take it as it comes (or doesn't). Life is good with a partner or alone. I choose to not settle (it's been a looong time) but I won't take anyone who is incompatible.

strgazr63 Level 5 Mar 13, 2019

near as I can tell the site is mostly about community rather than dating but it does seem happen from time to time


Same here. Since I'm not currently in a position to date while recovering from cancer, I'm just enjoying the conversations, but a serendipity would be welcome.


Overthinking is not your friend....if you put "here for community" does that Exclude anyone?!?


I'm here for both, so in my status I say that I'm interested, and if anyone shows up who I connect with, that would be great. But I also don't have much in my bio more than talking about being curious (which I am right now, about other people but also about myself), and when I'm ready to put myself out there more I'll probably update my bio and be more active and responsive about meeting people and dating. Seems to work for me... And if nothing more materializes even after that, I'm okay with it. Gotta live your life the best you can whether you're in a relationship or not.

bleurowz Level 8 Mar 13, 2019

There's not enough people even remotely close enough to me to bother trying to use this community for dating. I just peak in to see what's up every now and then

But one might be worth checking out?


No difficulties on my part, thankfully! I joined for the community, but I am single and would like to have some gentlemen friends. I have met up with a few people from this online community, and have enjoyed meeting them!

Rustee Level 7 Mar 13, 2019

Yes, There should be more options or even both (community and dating) I want friends, Both male and female . I would also like a date...

I like this response best.


Do what I do.
"Here for community"
"Open to meeting women"

Petter Level 8 Mar 13, 2019

I don't have an issue; am here for both.


I’ve thought about the same topic. After a recent fiasco regarding another member, I want to be cautious but I don’t want to seem standoffish. Does that make sense?

One simply writes this in their profile.


there are some odd anomalies - for instance if looking for friends: men/women/trans/etc. why is the last option 'other' and not 'all'?
With children - why 'sometime' which many people are reading as 'sometimes' (ie. don't live with that parent?) instead of 'maybe have children later'.
And too few options frequently in the choices.

Allamanda Level 7 Mar 15, 2019

Yeah me too. I have open to meeting all genders because friendship would be great as well as dating if that worked out but the way that section is set up does appear to be one or the other rather than both

Lucy_Fehr Level 7 Mar 14, 2019

I would like to find like minded people who are nearby. Dating would be an added perk.

JZBEE Level 3 Mar 14, 2019

I agree...friends can become more or less (I guess). But, people do need to know where things stand.


So many of the technicalities around here are news to me smile001.gif But I agree with you totally.

Varn Level 8 Mar 13, 2019

This is why I added "Here primarily for friendship and community, but should I meet anyone with whom I feel a connection, potentially more" to my profile. Unfortunately, since so many people don't actually read profiles and just fire off salvos of PMs to anyone who shows up as open to dating, I still get lots of those!

Jnei Level 8 Mar 13, 2019

I’m always a bit saddened to hear that. Here’s a thing though: if you’re a chumfy ginger fella here for community you get absolutely none of that!

You could change your profile!

I wonder if anyone else feels as though looking over someone’s profile is too personal..? I figure, if ‘we’ keep bumping into each other in a positive way around here, let’s talk. Profiles-smofiles smile001.gif

@PalacinkyPDX’s just me, being embarrassingly honest.. It’s like, that’s their business, not mine ~

@Varn I never feel that way! I get personal and read their comments/posts. I check out their groups too! If they are active in certain groups, I pass!


I'd like to do the dating site of things, but the low density of UK users makes this unlikely.

Same for me in Hawaii, not many members active in my state, let alone my island. While I might be open to dating at some point, I would rather just share community with others, comment and post, learn, grow and reflect. And if someone really piqued my interest, I might adjust my status accordingly.

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