There are things I really miss about having a partner. But today, I considered things I do not miss about living with another person. Because that's how my mind works.
Here is a partial list (feel free to contribute):
Being awakened from sleep (snoring, tossing, getting up and flopping back into bed)!
Messes I didn't make
Eating my chocolate without asking
Too much talking
Lack of respect
Oh, that is a lot of stuff. And I don't miss any of it, but I feel a little bit bad about the size of this list.
Things I love about being single:
My home is a peaceful, neat, clean sanctuary.
Freedom to do what I want.
Ability to eat, read, exercise, socialize, volunteer, hike and live at my own pace.
Freedom from criticism, anger, controlling behavior, disrespect, messiness and other problems a relationship brings.
Don't feel bad. I think everyone suffers from the Grass Is Greener On the Other Side syndrome. There are downsides to everything.
You say you are an introvert, and particularly if you're with an extrovert, that can be vexing at times too.
My wife is fairly introverted, but less so, and more social, than I. Sometimes she wants to do things that I'd rather not do. I haven't decided yet if that stretches me in good ways or just annoys the shit out of me. Honestly, I guess it does both.
Sometimes these things can be mitigated by thinking outside the box. My wife is a VERY light sleeper (when she manages to sleep at all) and I have a typical 62 year old prostate and go to the bathroom 3 or 4 times many nights. I also snore, so I'm considerate enough to use a CPAP to stop that, but it still makes a nonzero amount of noise, particularly when I take it off and put it on, etc.
Once we got over the guilt and shame of it, this was easily solved by separate bedrooms. I still often massage her feet and neck before she goes to sleep, and sometimes I, you know, stay longer. But I sleep alone. And guess what, we both rather prefer it now. Google it ... a high percentage of couples have separate beds and many have separate rooms. It just isn't talked about. Ask yourself how much a couple really spoons and cuddles beyond the first couple of weeks ... it's not conducive to comfort or sleep. So once the canoodling is over, bid each other a fond adieu. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. One need not fear the end of intimacy or drifting apart just based on that one non-activity!
I felt like I had gotten out of prison when I told him I was out. There is no one to tell me how to do dishes, how to wash clothing, how to scrub a floor. OMG, my head is exploding remember all the instructions I got during a four year relationship. I should have shut the door the first time he told me I had spilled something on my sweater, when he explained "I want you to be prefect." I thought at the time any reasonable person would understand when I replied, "i've lived this long without instructions from anyone." He never did get it, and so I'm out and I feel and willing meet a healthy person.
Even if I found an agreeable human, I'm quite sure I never want to co-habitate with anyone again. Living a few miles apart would be perfect ! Together when mutually desired, then apart for each to enjoy their own blissful aloneness !
The trick then, Is to find another who feels the same way ... ha.
eating whenever and wherever I want, going to bed whenever I want, not checking in, not checking out, not having to hear "oh just one more thing" for the fifth time. trying to fabricate a positive opinion about something I could care less about, I got to say I really like the simplicity.
Some people believe in magnetic attraction, and I think that is part of the problem, because spending to much time with anyone is detrimental, even if it is only within proximity without communication. I have heard that in some cultures, the woman and man have separate bedrooms, but in my mind, as fiercely independent as I am, even that could be a little to close. Most Americans have this idea that it should be otherwise as far as I can tell, they seem to think that they can live indefinitely with someone in close proximity, and that it SHOULD be that way. But you seldom miss someone who is breathing down your neck all the time, or someone who intrudes on your personal privacy, or interferes with your general direction in life.
The noise of sports on TV
Having to defer my priorities behind his
Cooking all the damn time
Hearing the same story for the millionth time
Hearing my own idea repeated as though he thought of it
Doing all that laundry
Tripping on huge shoes everywhere
Having to explain or justify every damn thing I say or do
Going for a glass of milk and discovering the carton in the fridge is empty !!!!!
Being embarrassed by the stupid, tired jokes he tells every single dang waitress
Being made to feel guilty about ... everything
We are Human, with all it's flaws, finding the perfect partner,is a life's search,we all have our idiosyncrasies, toothpaste squeezed wrong, sink cluttered with dishes,dirty clothes anyplace but the hamper,the negative is not having that warm body to seek comfort with,to cuddle on cool days,but now you have a choice; Continue by yourself with maybe missed chances, or compromise with his bad habits?