Melanie was trying to trap him into being a father, even though he had made it clear he did not want that.

But, why would he have asked that in the first place if he knew his dip stick was snipped?

Still. "I have it all taken care of" He heard that she was also not interested in having children at this point.

When actually "taken are of" to her, was to make him a father against his wishes.

If she'd have said, "No" to being on BC he probably would have said he'd had a vasectomy.

Yes, he should.

Snafu ever deceiving each other

Sounds like neither one was completely honest.

Yeah, the question looks to paint the woman in a bad light. But it is also ignorant of the facts about birth control.

1. Melody well could have been taking birth control for a number of years and quit. The fact that she did not tell Dan she could get pregnant later in their relationship is a bit problematic but no more so than Dan’s original lie of omission.

2. When first asked, Melody could have had a birth control implant. There won’t be any pills.

3. Or she could have been on birth control and Dan never noticed.

4. Or, Melody could have had an IUD.

So, it is entirely possible that Melody was on birth control but that there could never have been any birth control pills.

But, there is an upside, Dan now knows that Melody has probably been faithful to him.

Yes, Dan should have been honest about his vasectomy up front. He had reason to expect that she would want children in the future.

I've had a vasectomy, I would have to say that I would be upfront and honest about it.

Not unless she asked.

Yes, he should have by saying "...I don't want to have kids, so much so that I had a vasectomy X# of years ago." But that's neither here nor there as Melody was obviously trying to deceitfully have a child with Dan the whole time, so she has no moral leg to stand on regardless of how the scenario plays out from here, basically making his not telling her sooner a moot point of contention.

Dan should have told her about the vasectomy, but was up-front and honest about not wanting to have kids... a vasectomy is a simple/obvious way for a guy to make sure of it.

On the other hand, Melody knew Dan didn't want kids, and actively tried to have one with him anyway... for years.

Long term, how does reproduction thru deception compare to reproduction thru force?

And it's a situation you see/hear in real life, quite often... girlfriend is on birth control early in relationship, then stops without telling partner. It's a fundamentally life changing event for both, and the children.

Does Dan not want kids because of simple financial concerns, or is there a family history of genetic problems? There's probably a good reason he doesn't want kids... good enough to take serious action to prevent it. And she didn't even discuss it with him.

Not really a dilemma. No marriage and no kids seems to cover it ... for now

No.....she lied to him about pills his lie of omission fits their fornicating lifestyle

Of COURSE he should have told her! She clearly implied she might want to have kids, and thus deserved having the option to choose another partner who might share her desire to have kids.

Yes, he should have told her.

Like a radio talk show woman bar hostess talks about how she cheated with black bartender and was pregnant by him or white fiancee was going to wait for delivery in case baby was mixed race

He should have and she that she wasn't on birth control if she wasn't.

Yes. Important information when you get tonhaving sex