This is why I freak out much more often than I used to, right here. I begged these boys to take out the trash 3+ times each and was told by both that they were “fixing to do it” and that “it will get done”. Doesn’t look like it got done to me. The dishes and the table are an every week thing. They don’t understand how much it messes with my OCD & gives me anxiety, even after I’ve physically cried about it before. I started my new job this week and can’t pick up after them anymore. I don’t know what to do. Our lease doesn’t end until December and these guys are two good friends and do help me out with other things at times, but I can’t take it anymore. Have you ever had this messy of roommates? How did you get them to finally pick up after themselves? I’ve tried every angle I know. The last picture I discovered this morning!
I don't know who signed the lease but you say that two of you signed the lease and then your roommate allowed his friend to move in also. To me that sounds like he broke the agreement. Is the new guy chipping in on the rent? Let him take over your obligation and get out. If they are really friends you should be able to work it out.
Stick it in their pillowcase. That's the quickest way.
Time for eviction. They are taking advantage of the fact that need you needed assistance at one time and they offered to assist. That doesn't give them right to abuse their privileges.
Take the trash and put on the boys bed. Take the dirty dishes and put them in their bed.
This is simply unacceptable. Personally I like to keep things clean and organised and if I had roommates I would expect the same from them otherwise it will make my life disgusting !
@1EarthLovingGal I am sure you do
My roommates during my senior year in college were slobs. I finally blocked off the door to my room with a board so the ferret couldn’t get in and kept my door shut most all the time. I let them trash the rest of the house and live in filth as they saw fit. My room was clean, and that’s what mattered to me. Fortunately, I was working at a restaurant at the time so I didn’t even need to use the kitchen, which as you can imagine was a petri dish for the creation of new forms of deadly bacteria.
Roommates are a pain in the ass. It looks like their mommies did everything for them growing up and they never had to learn to do for themselves. Keep in mind as well that being roommates with friends is an excellent way to lose friends I suggest you might want to find a better situation for yourself because this can adversely affect your studies as well as causing you mental issues. Some people never grow up and many of those people are mired in the paternalistic culture...
It seems as though they got used to you cleaning up after them... I couldn't ever live like that... My advice, leave the mess alone for a few days, keep your room clean... And especially, don't wash their dishes... They might get the point when they want to cook and the dishes are still dirty... Or put all that garbage in their rooms...
Personally I live as bad if not worse. BUT it's just me and my dog here now. When I had the kids living at home I didnt let it get this way. Not sure how you address it with adult kids. I think I would charge them money if I had to clean things. Not sure though ... I'd probably just give in and let them do whatever. We're only here once and it's not worth it to fight. I'm a pushover I guess.
@1EarthLovingGal I can understand that. it's hard being a parent.
How about you and the boys sit down together and, on a sheet of paper, divide up the chores. Write down the chore and write down a time limit when it needs to be completed. Write down a name of who is to do the task. Each week you all can agree to rotate the chores so it is perfectly fair. Post the chore list/schedule on the 'fridge or other community space.
Move out and leave them to wallow in their shit - and pay the bills for the clean up
Make them pitch in for someone to come in and clean once per week?
@1EarthLovingGal maybe go the passive-aggressive route, then...dump all the shit on their beds.
@1EarthLovingGal I submit that the one who just got a car is going to have trouble with finances soon as well. Is it possible for you to get out of your part of the lease earlier and leave them with the problems they are creating?... If not they are going to take you down with them...
@1EarthLovingGal If you need help with that let me know...
How old are your boys? Take away their phones and privileges.
Kick them out immediately.
@LiterateHiker i totaly agree with you!!