I had a girlfriend, long ago, who commented one day that she was "...going to make a real Jew out of me." BARF!

Yeah, I had a sweetie like that too. I do miss her. Sorry you had to let that piece of your heart go. None of us can ever escape who we are. Good luck, brother.

Why would anyone waste their time with someone who wants to change them? I never want sex that bad!

It's very sad. At least she was amazing every other way. Too bad she couldn't accept you for yourself.

IMHO ...the "make or break" religious issue in relationships (whether platonic or romantic) is damnation!

Relationships are hard, period. All of them: friends, family, dating, marriage. Add two very different views about religion, and it becomes much more complex, especially if either or both hold very strong views.

But I think similar VALUES outweigh "religion." If the two people share views about basic right/wrong, money, sex, parenting, etc., then religious differences can usually be negotiated.

However, I don't see any way to compromise if one person thinks the other is damned to hell. This is mainly an issue in Islam and certain sects of Christianity (not all, but many of them).

A lot of Christians have a "secret door" in mind, where "good people" of any religion (or no religion) can be "saved" (or, at least, not damned). These are the folks who say, "God looks into your heart."

But many Christians — especially Evangelical and Fundamentalist Christians like Assembly of God, Baptists and Pentecostals — are VERY clear: You can be the nicest, best person in the world, but you STILL go to hell if you die without accepting Jesus.

I can't fathom how a relationship like this can work, because even if there is an agreement to not discuss the topic, one of them is constantly, secretly worried the other will die "unsaved."

And if they REALLY believe that you are going to hell, just for not believing, then it had better bother them a lot. IF THEY ARE OKAY WITH IT (they still think God is Good, All The Time!) ... then they're a sociopath who doesn't really love you.

How about... "Don't try to convert me into believing and I won't tell you what an idiot you are!"

j/k

My ex wife grew up Catholic and that part was never a problem between us. Her father was a staunch Catholic and even he liked me well enough to not say much about it. We even had some very philosophical talks about it, usually while enjoying bourbon.

I'm sorry.

If she tries really hard to convert (change) you then what’s next. The way you dress or what you eat? She sounds controlling. She’s bad news hidden behind a pretty face. She’s not a “live and let live” person.

did you ultimately breakup because you were tired of it? Or did she breakup with you when she realized she wouldn't be able to convert you?

humanist, atheist, agnostic ... bah ... we're all seekers of truth. I believe science and physics are the keys and that there are actual, physical rules of the universe establishing a consciousness. Not gods or any mystical claptrap. Just rules we haven't uncovered yet.

A really sweet hot eh? I was challenged by that in the day. But even when I liked them , I never dated religous people.

The term god-fearing mentioned in other posts is an absurdity. Should not these people love their god? Fearing bespeaks of a relationship of punishment. Is their fantasy being putting them in a strappado? I guess their Jesus disappears before the Old Testament deity. I still prefer the Norse gods. The whole thing is absurd, vile, and loathsome. I could never be in a relationship with religious people.

Sex is an entry drug for religious zelots.

I wish I tried I am one of those people that believe everyone should be able to decide what is right for them but in the end I was not the God fearing man she was looking for. If you ask me I am glad I was not God fearing people believe in violence and oh yeah let's not talk about their idol sitting on his thrown in DC

The minute someone tries to convert me, I'm out.

No possible compromise?