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I just finished 84 days at St. Joseph's Recovery Center in Parkersburg, WV.. I have over 100 days clean and sober. People are always saying you can't do it with out God but I have done it. I find more strength and courage within myself. I have endured having my right leg amputated, twice, once through the knee and a second to amputate my knee. I received my third prosthetic leg September 19, 2019 and I'm already walking with it. So, people you can do the twelve steps of AA/NA/HA or whatever "A" you choose by simply exchanging the word "God" with "My Higher Power".

jimmie3286 4 Oct 6
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Good for you!

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I commend you, your strengths and your efforts.

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Good for you, Jimmie! Yeah, the whole god thing is for the gullible. Obviously you have more sense than most. I encourage you to go inward to find your own strength. The Zen Buddhists call it the "god within" which, when discovered, gives you inner peace and joy. No belief bullshit required.

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All right! You keep rolling your way, jimmie, it looks like it's working!

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Don't worry about what SOME people say about god! I'm ten years sober without AA. God has nothing to do with it.
BUT AA DOES identify and codify several true things about quitting, like hitting "rock bottom" and deciding for yourself to quit. No one can do that for you.
For some people, especially at the beginning, AA can be a support group helping to reinforce resolve. Things like that.
But the god trappings are just window dressing, and have nothing to do with being a non-drinking person.
I quit because I finally realized once and for all, after a lifetime of starting and stopping and starting, alcohol had ruined my life and would continue to do so unless I stopped. Seems simple, but until you finally believe that down deep at your very CORE it does no good. AA thinks that "core" is religious conviction, but it isn't, so, if anything, AA's Christian cult nature ruins or at the very least dilutes it's power to help.

I had gone way beyond just drinking alcohol. I realized my drug abuse was just as bad as my alcohol abuse. After many years of abuse I decided it was time for me to live. Alcohol and drugs had consumed my life with no regard for family. I am happy to say I am free of the chains of drugs and alcohol.

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What an accomplishment Jimmie. You are an inspiration to those behind you!

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Nice job, just wonderful. Don't forget, the real power in the universe is you.

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Bravo! Stay with it, man!

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Atta Boy ! Enjoy your road to further strength and wisdom !

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Yeah, I quit drugs over 20 years ago and started enforcing a 3 drink limit on myself 10 years ago. When I was looking to quit drugs I went to a couple of NA and AA meetings. I couldn't take the higher power stuff and the serenity prayer. After continuing to struggle I ended up moving away from that scene. I did continue drinking like a fish and had it get me in trouble several times (arrested for PI 5 times during those years). Then I met my wife and she never got into drinking. She challenged me to quit and I did for about 6 months. But it was hard in social settings so I decided I would try to limit myself to 3 drinks. And that was years ago. Of course I'm older now and have much more self control. But I could never do any 12 step program.

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My addiction was/is food. When I left the church that I had attended for over a decade, I weighed 250 pounds. While in the church, I had tried various methods of losing weight but if I managed to lose any, I gained it back. Other people in the church were obese, as well, and also tried various methods to lose weight. One woman said she "Dedicated every bite of food" she took to god, but she was still fat.

When I left Christianity, I lost 100 pounds; in part, it was because I was able to let go of the guilt that Christianity piles upon people. I have kept the weight off for 21 years. I have gained some at times, yes, i.e. the time I threw out my scale because an expert said scales were a hindrance, not a help. Well, not in MY case.

The women whom I knew in Church have not acknowledged my messages to them on FB, but through mutual friends, I have seen pictures of them; they are still obese. Their dedication to Jesus apparently is still not helping them.

I give you a lot of recognition for doing this. I am reaping the awards of not paying attention to what I have been eating for the past fifteen years or so. I am tired of weighing almost as much as a baby whale, three hundred pounds and have to loose this for my health. I am trying but it is hard. I am addicted to sugar, sweets and have to get past this.

@dalefvictor Losing weight was not so hard, in truth; it is keeping it off that is hard. I lost 50 pounds more easily that I can lose five. It takes constant vigilance. I do not keep sweets in the house--except dark chocolate which I eat everyday, but only an ounce. I do not keep trigger foods such as chips in the house, either. I eat lots of fruits and veggies and no cows or pigs. If I were willing to cook, I would have more variety, but I do not want to cook, so my diet is boring, but it helps me to not overeat. I also exercise.

@Gwendolyn2018 How do you not cook? I mean that means you eat in restaurants, that is my downfall. You must have better choices that I.

Hat's off to you Gwen. You are more proof that God has nothing to do with what we want. It's all up to each individual to achieve their goals. I bet you feel better about yourself and are much healthier. Keep up the good work, you look great.

@dalefvictor When I say "cook," I mean using a recipe. I will make pasta on occasion or cook chicken with nonstick spray, but I do not cook like I did when I was married.

, @jimmie3286 Thank you! And what you write is spot on. When we take responsibility for ourselves rather than putting it on a deity--or blaming others--we can better achieve the goals we want to reach. I have had the weight off for over 20 years, and I am quite healthy--much more so than I would be if I had not lost it.

@Gwendolyn2018 I know what you mean about recipes, I do not use them either. I figure taste while one is cooking and go from there. I do not use salt or sugar for spicing food.

@dalefvictor I don't mix things when I "cook." The only sugar that I have in my house is for the hummingbird feeder. I use lite salt.

@altschmerz It is the carbs, almost everything I eat seems to have some sort of bread with it, then potatoes and pasta. I love salads but they do get tiresome if that is all one eats.

@altschmerz Avocados and olives have good fats, though.

@altschmerz, @dalefvictor I do not eat many carbs but mainly because they are high in calories.

@Gwendolyn2018 There is a Thai Place near work and I think I will start to get food there for lunch. I have not found a less than great Thai food place, same with Vietnamese, but there are none here. Portland is full of both.

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Congratulations. But actually there is no power higher than you! Give yourself all the credit!

I do give myself and the people at St. Joe's, they were wonderful. I went through 10 surgeries and lost my leg by myself so staying clean and sober shouldn't be any harder.

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You are so strong and inspirational ....I salute you.

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Well done, brilliant work!

A friend of mine cold turkeyed alcohol and cigarettes at the same time about 20 years ago.

He didn’t need god either. Just personal resolve

You two are a shining example of what can be done without metaphysical forces guiding you if you don’t believe in them.

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Good on you.

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I am super happy for you. Please keep it up and live a happier life.

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Congrats. You are strong. You are making this change. Give yourself a pat on the back , not some man made supposedly super being. You rock!

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Congradulations. Keep it up!

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Congratulations, man!!! One of the guitarists of my former band has been almost 5 years off the booze. He's atheist, I think. You're no less than him, if he could make it, you can as well.

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Congratulations!

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Awesome! You’ve done it, and you can keep doing it! Very happy for you and the better life you’ll be able to live sober. 💕

I get to spend tie with my grandkids now.

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My Dear Jimmie...I am so proud of you for this accomplishment......Big hugs for you.... because I know it is very hard to do!! My son has been clean for 16 years . Now !! Also without "god" ! I wish for you and your family...lots of Love...
Thank you for your story...it will help many more 🤗🌼✌️🙂🌹

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This year is my 30 year sobriety anniversary. Whenever I heard the word god in AA, I would think "Group Of Drunks" and that was my higher power. They were sober drunks, but drunks nevertheless. I haven't been going to meetings for about 5 years, but I still count October 2 as my sobriety date.
Congrats on your 100 days sober. It's a great life without drugs and alcohol.

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Fantastic! Keep on growing!

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I thank you all for your responses and support. Each one of you touched my heart.
Thank you,
Jimmie

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Addictions in any form are a battle. I'm thrilled you found what works for you. Stay with it. You've already proven you can do it.

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