I just finished 84 days at St. Joseph's Recovery Center in Parkersburg, WV.. I have over 100 days clean and sober. People are always saying you can't do it with out God but I have done it. I find more strength and courage within myself. I have endured having my right leg amputated, twice, once through the knee and a second to amputate my knee. I received my third prosthetic leg September 19, 2019 and I'm already walking with it. So, people you can do the twelve steps of AA/NA/HA or whatever "A" you choose by simply exchanging the word "God" with "My Higher Power".
Good for you, Jimmie! Yeah, the whole god thing is for the gullible. Obviously you have more sense than most. I encourage you to go inward to find your own strength. The Zen Buddhists call it the "god within" which, when discovered, gives you inner peace and joy. No belief bullshit required.
Don't worry about what SOME people say about god! I'm ten years sober without AA. God has nothing to do with it.
BUT AA DOES identify and codify several true things about quitting, like hitting "rock bottom" and deciding for yourself to quit. No one can do that for you.
For some people, especially at the beginning, AA can be a support group helping to reinforce resolve. Things like that.
But the god trappings are just window dressing, and have nothing to do with being a non-drinking person.
I quit because I finally realized once and for all, after a lifetime of starting and stopping and starting, alcohol had ruined my life and would continue to do so unless I stopped. Seems simple, but until you finally believe that down deep at your very CORE it does no good. AA thinks that "core" is religious conviction, but it isn't, so, if anything, AA's Christian cult nature ruins or at the very least dilutes it's power to help.
Yeah, I quit drugs over 20 years ago and started enforcing a 3 drink limit on myself 10 years ago. When I was looking to quit drugs I went to a couple of NA and AA meetings. I couldn't take the higher power stuff and the serenity prayer. After continuing to struggle I ended up moving away from that scene. I did continue drinking like a fish and had it get me in trouble several times (arrested for PI 5 times during those years). Then I met my wife and she never got into drinking. She challenged me to quit and I did for about 6 months. But it was hard in social settings so I decided I would try to limit myself to 3 drinks. And that was years ago. Of course I'm older now and have much more self control. But I could never do any 12 step program.
My addiction was/is food. When I left the church that I had attended for over a decade, I weighed 250 pounds. While in the church, I had tried various methods of losing weight but if I managed to lose any, I gained it back. Other people in the church were obese, as well, and also tried various methods to lose weight. One woman said she "Dedicated every bite of food" she took to god, but she was still fat.
When I left Christianity, I lost 100 pounds; in part, it was because I was able to let go of the guilt that Christianity piles upon people. I have kept the weight off for 21 years. I have gained some at times, yes, i.e. the time I threw out my scale because an expert said scales were a hindrance, not a help. Well, not in MY case.
The women whom I knew in Church have not acknowledged my messages to them on FB, but through mutual friends, I have seen pictures of them; they are still obese. Their dedication to Jesus apparently is still not helping them.
Well done, brilliant work!
A friend of mine cold turkeyed alcohol and cigarettes at the same time about 20 years ago.
He didn’t need god either. Just personal resolve
You two are a shining example of what can be done without metaphysical forces guiding you if you don’t believe in them.
My Dear Jimmie...I am so proud of you for this accomplishment......Big hugs for you.... because I know it is very hard to do!! My son has been clean for 16 years . Now !! Also without "god" ! I wish for you and your family...lots of Love...
Thank you for your story...it will help many more
This year is my 30 year sobriety anniversary. Whenever I heard the word god in AA, I would think "Group Of Drunks" and that was my higher power. They were sober drunks, but drunks nevertheless. I haven't been going to meetings for about 5 years, but I still count October 2 as my sobriety date.
Congrats on your 100 days sober. It's a great life without drugs and alcohol.