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“I’m not perfect, I’m just forgiven” is the most enabling statement ever made!

Christians often attack atheist for not having morality. Yet I hear “I’m not perfect I’m just forgiven”. If one is simply forgiven for their wrong doings then there is no accountability what so ever. It is the doctrine that all sins are forgiven that enables believers to do anything they want despite morality.

I am an atheist. I do not believe in an after life or forgiveness from a magical god.
I am fully accountable for my actions and expect consequences for my actions. I have only one life and I have to do it right. Whatever wrong doings I do I have to live with and be cognizant that after I die my actions may still affect others.
The Just forgiven philosophy is the exactly the opposite of accountability and justice. Justice simply can not stand up to being "just forgiven" for your wrong doings.
Just being “just forgiven” requires no remorse, justice, morality, humanity or a god. It is a cop out that actually encourages self righteous, bigoted behaviors from those who feel enlightened, gifted, or specially empowered by their religion or God to actually judge others.
How does being “just forgiven” make any one or their morality better? How could it?
How can anyone who believes they are just forgiven make any judgments on anyone as they actually profess with this moral standard a complete lack of morality and standards?
I am told to believe that Jesus already died for my wrong doings. Then this is not Justice but a license to do more harm without consequences. Preachers and theologians try dance around this by saying that we should try not to sin but we are covered if we do. Again this is not forgiveness but an enabling teaching in which any horrific action or behavior can be forgiven, again and again. This is not loving at all. It teaches no justice, and places the burden of guilt upon those wronged for NOT forgiving their rapist etc. If Jesus died so that rapist can be forgiven and enabled to continue their behaviors and hurt other people, I want no part of it. There is simply no incentive for people of this belief system to actually improve themselves or to stop hurting other people.

DavidLaDeau 8 Jan 2
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Whenever I hear someone say that, depending on the situation, I like to ask a few questions.
"Forgiven for what?"
"By whom?"
"Were you specifically told you were forgiven?"

Personally, I don't believe in "forgiveness".
I think it is nothing more than feel-good bullshit designed to let people off the hook for shitty behavior.
I definitely don't believe it's going to make me feel better to forgive someone else.
I'll either get over whatever was done, or I won't.
Most people, if they know they've been forgiven, usually do whatever it was again. If they're made to know it was unacceptable and will not be tolerated, they're less likely to repeat the offending behavior.
That whole "3 strikes" bullshit is just that, bullshit.
You get ONE.

Believers are delusional to begin with.
They believe they get infinite chances to fuck up.
I like letting them know they are mistaken.

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The look on the face of a godbotherer when exclaiming "God has forgiven me" is answered by "maybe but I haven't!" is priceless.

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With all the arrests of preachers lately that's pot calling kettle black

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Nobody is perfect, and striving to be so can really destroy your life, especially if you expect perfection of others.
"Forgiven" ??!! By whom? I forgive myself on occasion, or ask forgiveness from the actual wronged party if required, Period.

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Thank you so much for that first sentence. I've been looking for the right vocabulary to effectively explain what you describe, and "enable" is the perfect fit.

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I am a more ethical person now, as an atheist, than I ever was when I was religious. 🙂

Why? Because in religion I was taught to listen to church leaders and obey them without questioning anything. As an atheist, I question everything. Do my actions harm others? If so, I must change my actions. Do my actions do good to others? If so, I must strengthen them and do even more good.

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I watched the Netflix documentary on Ted Bundy (who had been raised as a Christian and his family attended church regularly). Before he was put to death, he was visited by James Dobson who made a public statement that he thought Bundy seemed to be truly sorry for what he had done.

So, according to his statement/assessment, Bundy may have sincerely felt some remorse and asked Jesus to forgive him.

After he was put to death, one of the people involved in the process, I don't recall if he was a police officer or prosecutor, stated that he hoped Bundy was in Hell. Well, according to his beliefs, as I am sure he was Christian, if Bundy asked for that forgiveness-- he is not in Hell--he is now in heaven. And, if any of his victims had not asked Jesus to be their personal savior; well--they are the ones currently in Hell.

The thought of the VICTIMS being believed to go to hell while the perp gets a get out of Hell free card is sickning. I do mean physically.

Did you mean a’living hell,’ for some of the victims. Some were murdered and some survived! I did see that ‘doc’ but long ago, and do not recall details.

@DavidLaDeau Yes, it is very twisted.

I know some who would get around it by saying that no one that evil would ever be truly sorry. Well, how would they know?

And, their theology says that if they truly repent they will go to heaven. But, even if such a person could not be truly remorseful and ask Jesus for forgiveness, their theology also says that good people, who spent their lives helping others, but who never believed the Jesus story, are in Hell right along with the serial killers, Hitler, etc. So no matter how one looks at it, their beliefs are messed up.

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You make some excellent points. The "forgiven by Jesus" thing is nothing but a crock and allows for just about any "forgiven person" to harm anyone.

When I hear that I ask, "Forgiven by who? If it's not the person you harmed then what good is it? Sounds more like a cowards way out of addressing someone they've harmed." The response is usually something about Jesus letting them into heaven, and that's the important thing, but I point out that they have still harmed someone and that getting forgiveness from Jesus who you didn't hurt for something you did to someone else, is dishonest and IMO worthless. Also, forgiveness to "get into heaven" isn't actually forgiveness for your actions, it's a loophole to a better afterlife no matter what you've done.

Thank you for helping me to develop my thoughts further. Now I would add that "just forgiven" is to relinquish reponsability.

Your response reminded me of how mystified I was, during my ‘religious years,’ when people responded to Jesus with complete conviction...like they knew him personally (another reminder of people saying, ‘I have a personal relationship with my Jesus)!’ Now, I am suddenly thankful that I felt out of the loop, ashamed and embarrassed back then! When I hear that now, I feel uncomfortable...and start to wonder about their trustworthiness! I work to keep an open mind, but my past experience has tainted my trust factor!

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I agree with every word there, David. The "just forgiven" angle is a license to continue doing as you want. It teaches you nothing. Over the years I have developed a word for church. I call it "crutch" and it appears that is exactly what it is.

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I always hear Christians speak about morality and hold the Bible up as the standard for morality. But is the Bible the standard of morality in our modern culture here in the USA? I say NO...the Bible is not our standard of morality.
The God of the Bible endorsed slavery....we do not practice slavery.
The God of the Bible endorsed genocide...we do not.
The God of the Bible treats women as second class citizens....we do not.
The God of the Bible endorses a Monarchy....we are a Democracy.
The God of the Bible endorses death for Homosexuals and Heretics....we do not.
The God of the Bible is prejudiced against the handicapped....we make every effort to accommodate the needs of the handicapped.
I suppose if I thought a little more I would think of more immoral practices of the God of the Bible

...then Jesus came and changed all that! He he he...

Jesus was a sinner....@Freedompath

@nicknotes wasn’t everyone in the Bible a sinner? Now the New Testament, claims Jesus ‘was without sin!’ Do you have some first hand knowledge that could dispute this?

@Freedompath The Christian claim is that Jesus was a sinless perfect sacrifice to remove sin.
1 Peter 2:22
22 WHO COMMITTED NO SIN, NOR WAS ANY DECEIT FOUND IN HIS MOUTH;

I think Jesus was a sinner and therefore not qualified to fulfill the Christian dogma on purity.
John 2:14-15
And He found in the temple those who were selling oxen and sheep and doves, and the money changers seated at their tables.
And He made a scourge of cords, and drove them all out of the temple, with the sheep and the oxen; and He poured out the coins of the money changers and overturned their tables.

Those that sold animals were providing a service to those who came a distance and needed an animal to sacrifice in the temple.
The money changers changed money for people who came to worship and pay the tithe and only had foreign money.
Their functions were legal and sanctioned by the levitical priests.

He drove the money changers out of the temple by beating them with a "scourge of cords." Assault and Battery.
He poured out the coins of the money changers and overturned their tables. Destruction of Property.

Wasn’t this behavior by Jesus a sin?

Jesus also sinned by not marrying.
About 6 times in the Bible, God affirms the commandment…"Be fruitful and multiply,
and fill the earth” This one of the 613 laws in the Torah that all Jews were supposed to obey.

Sin is a transgression of the Law.
1 John 3:4
4Whosoever committeth sin transgresseth also the law: for sin is the transgression of the law.

Since Christians believe that Jesus is a king he was REQUIRED to obey the Law.

"Now it shall come about when he sits on the throne of his kingdom, he shall write for himself a copy of this law on a scroll in the presence of the Levitical priests. It shall be with him and he shall read it all the days of his life, that he may learn to fear the LORD his God, by carefully observing all the words of this law and these statutes, that his heart may not be lifted up above his countrymen and that he may not turn aside from the commandment, to the right or the left, so that he and his sons may continue long in his kingdom in the midst of Israel.” Deut 17:18-20

Jesus also affirmed the requirement to obey the law.
Matthew 23:1-3
1 Then Jesus spoke to the crowds and to His disciples, 2 saying: “The scribes and the Pharisees have seated themselves in the chair of Moses; 3 therefore all that they tell you, do and observe.

Jesus never married, he broke the law, therefore he sinned.

Jesus sinned against his brothers
Read what Jesus said speaking to the multitude and his disciples.
Matthew 5:22 (New American Standard Bible)
22"But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother shall be guilty before the court; and whoever says to his brother, 'You good-for-nothing,' shall be guilty before the supreme court; and whoever says, 'You fool,' shall be guilty enough to go into the fiery hell.

Notice how Jesus condemns those who are angry with their brother.
Notice how Jesus particularly condemns those who call people "fool."

Now let's look at how Jesus behaved in Matthew chapter 23.
Jesus became angry with the Scribes and Pharisees calling them hypocrites seven times. Technically all men of Israel were his brothers. [Deut 3:18] He was angry with his brothers.
"" You fools and blind men! "" Matthew 23:17
""Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs which on the outside appear beautiful, but inside they are full of dead men's bones and all uncleanness. "" Matthew 23:27 IMO a major insult.
"""You serpents, you brood of vipers "" Matthew 23:33 Now Jesus is really getting angry and laying on the insults.

You be the judge.
Did Jesus follow his own advice or was he a hypocrite?
Did Jesus follow his own advice or did he sin against his brothers?

Jesus lied.
Luke 13:31-33 (New American Standard Bible)

31Just at that time some Pharisees approached, saying to Him, "Go away, leave here, for Herod wants to kill You."

32And He said to them, "Go and tell that fox, 'Behold, I cast out demons and perform cures today and tomorrow, and the third day I reach My goal.'

33"Nevertheless I must journey on today and tomorrow and the next day; for it cannot be that a prophet would perish outside of Jerusalem.

The Pharisees warn Jesus that Herod wants to kill him.
Jesus tells the Pharisees to tell Herod that he would be in the area casting out demons and curing illness. [A lie]
But Jesus journeys on that day to avoid Herod's murderous intention.

Jesus deceived people with some of his teaching.
Mark 4:10-12 (New American Standard Bible)

10As soon as He was alone, His followers, along with the twelve, began asking Him about the parables.

11And He was saying to them, "To you has been given the mystery of the kingdom of God, but those who are outside get everything in parables,

12so that WHILE SEEING, THEY MAY SEE AND NOT PERCEIVE, AND WHILE HEARING, THEY MAY HEAR AND NOT UNDERSTAND, OTHERWISE THEY MIGHT RETURN AND BE FORGIVEN."

Was Jesus deceiving some people by teaching in parables that they could not understand so that they would not be forgiven and saved?

Here is something to consider....
John 7:2-10 (New American Standard Bible)

2Now the feast of the Jews, the Feast of Booths, was near.

3Therefore His brothers said to Him, "Leave here and go into Judea, so that Your disciples also may see Your works which You are doing.

4"For no one does anything in secret when he himself seeks to be known publicly. If You do these things, show Yourself to the world."

5For not even His brothers were believing in Him.

6So Jesus said to them, "My time is not yet here, but your time is always opportune.

7"The world cannot hate you, but it hates Me because I testify of it, that its deeds are evil.

8"Go up to the feast yourselves; I do not go up to this feast because My time has not yet fully come."

9Having said these things to them, He stayed in Galilee.

10But when His brothers had gone up to the feast, then He Himself also went up, not publicly, but as if, in secret.

Didn’t Jesus lie to his brothers?

Jesus Violates the Sabbath Day

Chapter 5 of the Gospel according to John tells the story of a man who had been sick for 38 years [John 5:5]
The man was lame and lay on a pallet. [I suppose it was a like a litter?]
Jesus said to him, “Get up, pick up your pallet and walk.” [John 5:8]
Immediately the man became well, and picked up his pallet and began to walk.
Now it was the Sabbath on that day. [John 5:9]

Since it was unlawful to work on the Sabbath, [Exodus 20:8-11] we have several violations of the Law. Jesus healed on the Sabbath and Jesus caused the man to carry his pallet on the Sabbath. Jesus caused this man to sin and thus Jesus violated the law. [Leviticus 19:14]
By causing the man to sin he put the man to shame. [Leviticus 19:17]

The Jews find out and confront Jesus. [John 5:10-15]

John 5:16-17 (New American Standard Bible)
16For this reason the Jews were persecuting Jesus, because He was doing these things on the Sabbath.
17But He answered them, "My Father is working until now, and I Myself am working."

Jesus flat out admits he was working on the Sabbath. You have to realize that the lame man had been sick for 38 years. Couldn’t he wait one more day? It seems like a blatant attempt to instigate a fight with the Jews. Jesus wronged his fellow man by his speech. [Leviticus 25:17]

According to the Law, Jesus was a sinner.

God demonstrates how important it is not to work on the Sabbath with the following story.
Numbers 15:32-36 New American Standard Bible (NASB)
32 Now while the sons of Israel were in the wilderness, they found a man gathering wood on the sabbath day. 33 Those who found him gathering wood brought him to Moses and Aaron and to all the congregation; 34 and they put him in custody because it had not been declared what should be done to him. 35 Then the Lord said to Moses, “The man shall surely be put to death; all the congregation shall stone him with stones outside the camp.” 36 So all the congregation brought him outside the camp and stoned him to death with stones, just as the Lord had commanded Moses.

If the man gathering sticks on the Sabbath was EXECUTED for working on the Sabbath, the sanctity of the Sabbath must have been important. Jesus didn't think so.

But it is incumbent on all under the Law to obey the Law
Leviticus 19:37 New American Standard Bible (NASB)
37 You shall thus observe all My statutes and all My ordinances and do them; I am the Lord.’”

The Law had one standard for all. No one was to get special treatment.
Leviticus 24:22 New American Standard Bible (NASB)
22 There shall be one standard for you; it shall be for the stranger as well as the native, for I am the Lord your God.’”

Jesus was a sinner

If your pre-teen son left his family, and was away for three days, and he didn’t tell you that he was leaving or where he was going, would you punish him for being disobedient?

Would you consider your son’s behavior rebellious and not honoring his mother and father?

Examine the following situation from the Bible.

Luke 2:41-49(New American Standard Bible)
41Now His parents went to Jerusalem every year at the Feast of the Passover.
42And when He became twelve, they went up there according to the custom of the Feast;
43and as they were returning, after spending the full number of days, the boy Jesus stayed behind in Jerusalem. But His parents were unaware of it,
44but supposed Him to be in the caravan, and went a day's journey; and they began looking for Him among their relatives and acquaintances.
45When they did not find Him, they returned to Jerusalem looking for Him.
46Then, after three days they found Him in the temple, sitting in the midst of the teachers, both listening to them and asking them questions.
47And all who heard Him were amazed at His understanding and His answers.
48When they saw Him, they were astonished; and His mother said to Him, "Son, why have You treated us this way? Behold, Your father and I have been anxiously looking for You."
49And He said to them, "Why is it that you were looking for Me? Did you not know that I had to be in My Father's house?"

So what do you think of Jesus’ behavior?
Did he honor his mother and father?
Was he disrespectful, rude, and rebellious?

@nicknotes I guess that you have it figured out! That was too much like a long past Sunday School lesson, that I have little interest in, now and was always suspect of!

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Just an excuse to do whatever they please.

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I have always hated this pronouncement, about ‘forgiveness,’ as ‘I am not perfect,’ but I have ‘been washed in the blood of Jesus, and saved.’
This type person, is really not connected to his own nature! It is no wonder he can make such a statement! His imaginary ‘savior’ has taken on his ‘sins’ for him...(his bad behavior that he doesn’t understand about himself). No wonder these personalities go ‘haywire’ when brought to account for some error...who has the ‘right’ to expose this person to his ‘erred’ behavior, that he has never had to worry about, due to his faith.
In my experience, this kind of religious indoctrination brings on a kind of sickness, especially for the less informed and less educated! Life is not a memorization exercise, of reinforced ancient scripture, spouted from some pulpit on a regular basis...in order to give a person ‘a sense of place’ to belong in this world! And, if his life doesn’t work well in this life, he is assured that ‘if he believes’ ...the next one will ‘have streets paved in gold’ and there will be ‘no more suffering!’ Subduction at it finest...

So well said that I might have a secret crush on you now! Shh, don't tell anyone.

@DavidLaDeau ...well the secret just escaped!! Thanks though!

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This is a major part of the magical delusion known as religion. It's like a drug for the mind.

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Of course theists are every bit as capable of misunderstanding doctrine as atheists are. Why wouldn't they be?

skado Level 9 Jan 2, 2020
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It's the perfect cop-out.
It makes normal human behavior a 'sin,' of which they are 'forgiven.'
It makes immoral and criminal behavior 'normal.'
It makes virtuous behavior irrelevant.

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As a refugee from that belief system I can tell you that there are incentives (mostly negative) to improve yourself or refrain from certain actions. Threatened punishment up to and including eternal perdition, for example. Not all Christian sects believe you can't lose your salvation. The ones that do believe that, will consign you to second-class citizenship in the meritocracy they envision in heaven. There is of course just garden-variety social pressure including the implicit (and sometimes explicit) threat of losing your place in the only community you've ever known, and possibly even in your family. For real harms (e.g., criminal activity) and imagined ones (being gay).

Of course none of this actually changes or improves anyone, and it really just devolves into concealing your real self and your actual desires from others.

Most evangelicals would tell you that god wouldn't forgive a rapist for the purpose of absolving their continued raping. Repentance without change isn't real repentance and so there would be no actual forgiveness. Forgiveness, they say, is not "a license to sin".

Of course in practice this is mostly bullshit (though most ordinary pew warmers DO try to be good people, that's probably what they'd do anyway). There is no more goodness in Christians than can be explained by the encouragement and support of any social system without resorting to supernatural claims. But for all that, I can assure you that your average Christian lives in some level of fear of doing or believing or thinking the wrong thing. I certainly did, all the time, despite my get-into-heaven-free pass.

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Self-righteous, holier than thou arrogance, & the sitting on pedestals attitude really stinks.

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I agree with this line: "If one is simply forgiven for their wrong doings then there is no accountability what so ever. It is the doctrine that all sins are forgiven that enables believers to do anything they want despite morality." I had a toxic family member that never took accountability or apologized to anyone that she wronged.... all she had to do was ask gawd and jaysus for forgiveness and all was good. Fck the mayhem and damage she caused to family. glad shes dead tbh :/

I had and still have family like that! A niece that I am fond of...sent me a New Years text...quoting scripture and noting where it is found! That was all, it seemed so sad to me, she has no thoughts of her own to send to me!

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Well said. Thanks for sharing.

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My first wife told me that she knew she was weak and often hurt others but god made her this way and understands so it's okay. The only thing that seems to have changed her is getting older.
The founders of this country was part of the enlightenment movement and followed deism. The basic idea behind deism was that there was a creator who made everything but then that creator left his,her,it's creation to their own devices and does not interfere. What good is self-determination when there is an entity that constantly gets involved?
Great post.

Remember Thomas Paine was an atheist. Some others of our founders only went to church when they had to. Are you sure they ‘believed there was a creator behind everything?’

@Freedompath This was a little before my time so I don't know what all the framers believed. However, deism could fit with an atheists idea as it doesn't specify who is the 'creator' and that creator's influence on others.

Thank you for your kind words.

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That's how they get people to go to church in the Bible Belt, where the biggest sinners in town will attend church, three times a week, convinced by preachers that they can be as sinful as they like, if they attend church regularly. Which is why you'll see the biggest sinners in town (to include wife-beaters, dog-beaters, child-beaters, drunks, and crackheads in the congregation). I have even seen bumper stickers, in Georgia, and Alabama, reading--"Christians aren't perfect--Just forgiven". They have been led to believe they will still get front-row seats in Heaven, provided they attend church.

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The casual attitude to sin is based on ignorance of scripture. In my old religion, the expression "I'm working on it" was the flippant response to criticism. Repentance is not like that at all. It involves heart-felt sorrow for sins committed and a determination to do better. Repentance comes from the Hebrew word teshuvah and the elements involved in it can be easily found on the internet. For those who completely ignore the responsibilities of teshuvah, they are understood as 'the one who has trampled underfoot the Son of God, and has profaned the blood of the covenant by which he was sanctified, and has outraged the Spirit of grace' - Hebrews 10:29.

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I know that parenting is a hit and miss idea and that our parents were not perfect in the way they raised and disciplined us. Some parents tell you that as you get older. It does not stop us from seeing all the harsh and bad things we think they have done in bringing us up. Did anyone ever think that "I am not perfect, I am just forgiven" might be a big thing in religion because we needed this from our parents long ago? We never felt perfect. We never felt forgiven even if we were. In religion you get a second chance at this with your heavenly father. Do what he says and he is the perfect father and not like your earthly one. God so easily replaces the parents.

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What do you expect from a system which claims a God which is both perfectly just and perfectly merciful without ever considering that mercy is the suspension of justice.

You are convicted, I, in middle ages fashion set upon you with Christian zeal and hot tongs.
You scream for mercy.
I suspend your "just" tonging thus showing mercy.
If mercy is truly mercy, then either justice is suspended (you deserved to be so tonged) but I relented
OR
The punishment was itself unjust, in which case justice is both suspended and inaccurate.

I oft address such folks with this . . .

"Not understanding WHY Jeffery Dhammer, kidnapped, zombified into sex slaves, killed and ate 17 people does not make it ok that he did that does it?
To me something was quite broken in that human, right?

Yet Jeffery was a Born Again Christian before he died, forgiven and washed clean in the blood of the lamb. However the 17 victims never got that chance for redemption from the very same God, cause ole Jeff ate them.
Which would make them getting kidnapped, zombified into sex slaves, killed and eaten, all part of God's plan too, so he could save Jeff.

We can EASILY see that as WRONG, morally wrong, ethically wrong, but if you try and say "it's God's Mercy" they you are disavowing the lack of Mercy for the victims, who went through hell form ole Jeff and then get to go to hell itself.
Which would make that God evil."

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Totally agree with your post!

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