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Do you consider age, look, culture and educational back ground make a difference when you Building Relationships?

Miloo 6 Apr 1
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The more good looking a guy is, the more of an idiot “I” become. Stammering, yammering. I have often said, “If I act like an idiot around you it’s because I think you’re hot.”

But other than that, not necessarily. Age doesn’t matter as long I remember that there are a lot of topics we’re going to see differently just because... I think that having friends from the many perspectives of life is really good for us. It broadens our viewpoints, and give us more understanding of each other.

I used to hang out a one of the most popular Starbucks in the Seattle area... right downtown, and I met people from Asia, Europe, the Middle East, Central and South America... and while we had wildly different views on life, we had a lot in common as well, and I learned a lot about how other live.

It’s been my experience that the most difficult people to hang around are people who “think” they’re smarter than everyone else..

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I'm not being diplomatic. It depends on the type of relationship.
I have friends from all sorts of backgrounds.
I've tried romantic/sexual relationships with men from various background, and those
who didn't have at least a similar educational background never lasted very long.
They lasted longer if the sex was good, but sooner or later, people have to get vertical
and have actual conversations. If I can't have even a basic conversation about most topics
with someone, it's not going to last.

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Yes, they do. The degree to which they matter depends on the individuals involved.

Deb57 Level 8 Apr 2, 2018

that all i hope for everyone to let the individuals cases involved with each and every one of us no need to stress on our differences we need to work more to fiend common space between us.

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They shouldn't but they do.

that's the ugly truth we face it every day on life.

yes life is a bitch so make the most of the special times

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Yes, a older person has for the most part more life experience. There are times when someone older had basically done nothing or a younger person has gone through a lot, but normally that is not true. Looks if you like it or not always come into play, if you are not attracted at all then it's going to be hard to build a relationship. Although I think the more secure a person is with their looks the more attractive they are. I know really ugly (physically by common terms) people who always attract very attractive people. I know a guy that was seriously injured in a fire and always has a pretty girl at his side (he's not rich either). Culture can be one of the hardest to overcome because your actions are a result of it. My brother is Asian adopted and ended up marrying a adopted Asian girl because he could understand the white culture or the Asian culture because he is a part of both. Education is probably the hardest to adjust. I don't mean level of education, but overall intellect. If you can't carry a conversation then the relationship is done. I do think it can work with any of these sometimes it's a little harder. To me communication is key.

@Fulishsage

Dear Mr / Lason

First of all ( Nice picture with the baby really adorable) 😉

can't agree more with most of what you said however allows me to disagree with you about putting (Age) as a Standard measure for maturity

Believe me when it come to life experience and forming your own perspective about life
it's not always about age here it's Just ( Number Figure).

but when you put ( Education and Culture) as a important element and playing main role of forming us from perspective to overall intellect. am all with you on this but depending on how you think and the way you talk and express your self not how much schools and certificates you have and able to offer upon request,

However, I consider myself as exception for most of this, cuz am not like the most of the people I've lived with.

am always different since day one and it's painful to live and hard to explain

So, all am trying to say is just give the people chance to try don't dived them to categories and classified them according to education, looks, work, rich, eastern, western young, or old
give your self a chance you might be able to surprise your self with the out comes.

Don't refuse without giving a chance.

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For a romantic relationship? Yes. Too young and I can't relate. I need intelligence and at least some kind of education in a partner. If they're from too different of a socioeconomic background, again, I can't relate. And even though I don't have any business having standards when it comes to looks, I can't completely do away with them.

Dear Friend
before everything love all of your wide eye and makeup look,
really suit you and for clarification I didn't mean any thing by this.
am totally aware that am not your type 😉

First of all, Thanks for sharing with us,

I know you are trying to be moderate just in between everything, hope to read what i wrote above about how ( I Look to The Age Issue), but I Feel you are kind person open to accept everyone and i hope to get what you looking for very soon
u seems such a nice person with a kind heart.

Best Wishes for You

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No, unless you're talking about a marital relationship. In the case of marriage, age is a practical consideration, but even that isn't a real stumbling block unless the age difference is extreme. Educational background is not important but intelligence is to a degree in regard to compatibility.

am all with you but when it comes about to age difference I don't want to take form people the right to choose and follow their heart to feel free, loved, happy and accepted regardless of what others might think. There is so many reason to start Relationships with a person
just open up cuz life is too short to let it goes from your hand felling that you are tight with other opinion about you.

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Yes of course. It has been shown over and over with only a few exceptions that people are going to be interested and sexually attracted to soneone they may relate to. Color,age and educational background will not play as big a part as how culturally they are in tune.

After reading some of the comments I see that my idea of culture is not the same as others. For example a very artistic personality would be unlikely, in my opinion to be happy with someone very pragmatic.It would take a large adjustment on both sides to work.

@Angelface

So basically you take all your impression of what others think about us and you see that any other example is just
an exception, and am totally respect this.

but, allow me to tell you, what i have seen many times and experienced myself more than once,

That what makes you think, their perspective are right and others not more an exceptions

It Is the matter of How hard they believe in each other.
How they willing to work together to make this happen
To prove to themselves before everyone,

that they are fact and what happens between them is more than
an idea or a fairy tale story or just a theory.

they show us it's a fact, it's exist, it's real on the ground reality and that is the only thing it matter when we talking about any sort of relation.

@Miloo Okay, I have absolutely no idea of what you are talking about. By culture, I meant people on the same level as you. For example, if you are really into Jazz, country music might or might not be your thing. Or if you like cities, small towns or country living might not be your thing. Beards or cleanly shaven might or might not be a plus in your culture. Evidently, I have not only stepped on someone's toes, but I have also stomped on them. Please enlighten me on what you are talking about?

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Definitely. My ex didn’t value knowledge or education and it became a significant conflict in our way of viewing and interacting with the world. Age probably matters less the older you get, but being in a different stage of life certainly creates complications. Differences in culture can be overcome, but is something you would have to be so aware of, I think it could be exhausting.

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I think aspirations and desired lifestyle trump all of those. If you want to change the world a relationship with someone who just wants a quite life isn't likely to work. If one person's world revolves around football and the other is right into the arts or science still likely to be a problem.
And if the great outdoors is your thing the other person has to be fit enough to keep up.

There has to be something in common but age, culture, look and educational background don't really capture those things, though I must admit to having a prejudice against career military men as their outlook seems to be so heirarchical and ordered (I was married to one for 20 years) and I'm more nonconformist.

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@Bierbasstard welcome!

@Miloo Thanks, I am humbled by your words. As for if it works, I am proof that it does. This was my invitation to my second husband. It worked for 10 years, then we grew in different directions. That's life. The only constant is change. People change, and that's okay. Just learn to recognized when it's time to cross over the bridge to a new chapter or to remain in the same situation with a crutch. I say cross as many bridges as you need to to achieve your own personal happiness. It may sound selfish, but love yourself first then the world will love you back. Sending you love today and always. Stay positive.

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Nope, I care more about the person's character.

and am sure that the person's will care more about you than any other thing else. 😉

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Of those listed, only age strikes me as something that could be a deal breaker.

Age is just a number figure we didn't defined ourselves by number.
but am totally respect your opinion.

thanks for sharing with us MR @BrightTyger979

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Yes, all of that; but, most importantly, gender. At least if you're meaning (romantic) partnership type relationship. If you mean any kind of acquaintanceship/friendship, then, those factors would be less important, at least to me.

believe me, it makes a huge differences with any sort of relationship
even on-line chat, for example here
i have meet many people refuse to even talk based that am from middle east country
so what's bring me here from the first place 😀

so apparently that those factors is more important in personal than in public

@Miloo, yes, what you say is typically true. The anonymity of the disembodied Internet interaction allows people to do and say things they often would avoid, or eschew, in person.

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Friends no. Romantic relationships yes to an extent

Education means nothing to me as long as you have a stable career or are working to one. The ambitious man is a bonus. Age I'm pretty staunch on. I want someone no more than 10 years older and no less than 5 years younger. Culture would be difficult but not something I dislike being different from mine as long as it is not a repressive and sexist one. I have some issues with people who come from a very high energy loud touchy culture (ironically since I'm from a big southern family, but then I think that's why) looks...ah yes I admit to being a tad shallow though my standards have dropped significantly.

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Not to me.

Honesty, integrity, humility, kindness, compassion, intelligence--those are the attributes I value. Culture and education may (and usually do, to some degree) influence these, but they don't have to have a controlling share.

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If she has that sparkle of humour and intelligence in her eye, then everything else is secondary. It doesn't have to be romantic, just that connection. And if she makes me feel clever and funny - well, then, that's the deal sealed, isn't it?

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All of it yes - though it can vary greatly from one person to the next, as each person comes with their own particular "package" of traits, along with strong and weak points.

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Age and culture No, because as long as you are alert and interested in others ,no problem. I think educational background is the widest gap to bridge mainly because going through the systems you get so many different 'languages'. I mean that for instance I have never had any sort of background in mathematics or logic etc and couldnt easily connect to someone of that ilk. In the same way there are many many people who come on a person centred counselling training course and never get it ( In my experience teachers are especially unable to disconnect enough from their teaching style in order to get different skills).

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Kinda? Someone can be a great conversationalist, but have no chemistry in person. Sure, all that stuff matters, but nothing in stone. It’s just easier if you have anatomy in a similar scale and have similar interests and background. I’ve noticed the same is true for my dog. That being said, a clone of myself would be boring. Being too similar might make it easier to communicate, but it can also be boring. I’m small, wirey and cerebral... I seem to get along best with women that share those qualities... but I’ve had good times with ladies that were a bit taller than me as well. Can’t do the overweight thing though, even if they are smart and otherwise cute, a lot of extra weight is a big turn off... unfortunately a common trait of a lot of smarter folks, in my observation. All that sedentary activity. I guess I prefer those that enjoy physical and mental activity with equal vigor?

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They can make a difference in terms of how much common ground you start with, but it is only useful if you are seeking out alignment. It’s not useful when seeking out relationships of diversity. You only learn new things from diversity.

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i prefer someone my own age , education but still love meeting anybody up close and personal. just met a couple last night very in love with a 23 year age difference !!!

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Culture and age are most important to me. I married a man in his 40s when I was in my 30s. I felt like we had such huge gaps in interests that we just couldn't overcome. He honestly expected me to quit my job and let him support me just so I could be available when he felt the need to do something.

one bad experience isn't enough to be reason to lose hope in people
cheer up may be that happens to meet the right person who deserve the real you.

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Yes. Of course—I’m human.

Actually i didn't got what do you mean by Human ?

We all human and we all full of differences so we didn't suppose to let this differences prevent us to feel happy regardless any other thing ?

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All of the above.

what about all down 🙂

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I consider all of them but if it feels right and that special something seems to click, you can throw that all out the window

follow your heart and throw what others think from nearest window

you are the one Mr`@ollieberry 😎

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