@MissKathleen Both of my requirements, and I am a swell guy

@MissKathleen Confidence and at least some self-awareness is not arrogance. I am fortunate to have schooled with, and worked around, many genuinely brilliant people. A constant reminder of my limits. To point two, seeking the right answer, since college life has shown me how little I know, and how much of what I thought I knew turned out to be wrong.

I do however have a good idea of what I want someone to be like if I am going to voluntarily spend time with them to the exclusion of others. I don't judge or think less of someone who doesn't have those characteristics. But I also don't choose to date them. It doesn't work for me.

@Trumpeter

That's the first sensible thing I've ever heard you say.

Those two are both an enormous turn off. I chose Trump supporter over smoker as the biggest deal breaker. It was a close call though.

@RoboGraham

He had said long before that Bernie wouldn't go far. Ask him.

@St-Sinner

Coming in a close second twice in a row while fighting a rigged system, I'd call that far.

@VeronikaAnnJ

It's the same for me.

I don't smoke. No mental illness. I'm not overweight. I'm an atheist. I'm not a Republican. I wear a little make up. I never wear perfume. But, I have LOTS and LOTS of pets. Oh, and I'm not looking for a partner, that too .

@Joanne Yah, I’ve experienced that.. As ‘I get down the list,’ then find out they’re surrounded by cats & dogs… I’ve had both, just one at a time, over a lifetime. Then there’s me … having recently concluded perttymuch the same with regard to no longer looking … yet periodically turned on by some cool attitudes around here ..and wondering how commuting to love multiple states away might work. Gets so complicated, so fast

@Varn I am currently down to two dogs. I also have three cats (two indoor). I just kinda ended up with two of them and one is a from a litter of feral kittens I found and raised and just had to keep one. My other pets are a Green Cheek Conure, four chickens and two ducks. If I ever win the lottery (first I have to actually play it) I will build a huge animal sanctuary and add considerably to my menagerie .

Thanks gor pointing this out. I was not aware of that ability.

It means that if you don't kiss the ass of god, said god will usually kill you.

How about Hitler fearing? If you said one thing he did not like you were not likely to live long. So many pretntded to go along with him. It is the same unbelieveably enough with an imaginary god. Crazy!

However, I do know it was a retorical question.

I prefer the 'stage of life' terminology. My neighbor is 88 and very active. She may look old but doesn't act it.

I was in the process of buying a date when covid happened.

That's because women have standards...

@Cutiebeauty Not all women. Thank God!

@Cutiebeauty Ouch.

@BitFlipper I've been thinking of that myself, but my d*mn standards keep getting in the way.

@Cutiebeauty there seems to be an assumption: if a man can't find a date it's because women have standards. Ok. So if a woman can't find a date is it because men have standards?

It looks like the women have reasonable standards that the men can't meet. And I'll bet the men have unreasonable standards.

Am I understanding you?

@BitFlipper my comment was :
"That's because women have standards... "
All that other crap is coming from you and other comments here.. Also, when you assume, you make an ass of you and you.. Understand? It's no wonder you have issues with the opposite sex.. Meh and oh my..

@Cutiebeauty I see you are unwilling to address my question. It's a double standard, clear and simple.

@BitFlipper
"there seems to be an assumption: if a man can't find a date it's because women have standards. Ok. So if a woman can't find a date is it because men have standards?"

Actually, if a man can't find a date... There are so many reasons why he can't find a date.. Surprisiingly, and pay attention here, it's usually NOT the woman's fault.. As much as you'd like to believe it is... It's the man's fault.. Because.. Well... Women DO actually date men... Who woulda thunk...

"It looks like the women have reasonable standards that the men can't meet. And I'll bet the men have unreasonable standards."

Women do have reasonable standards... And isn't it just bonkers to expect men to meet those reasonable standards? It's crazy right? Standards? That's ludacris! I suppose women should just jump into bed with just anyone.

"An I understanding you?"

I don't think you understand me or any woman...

Did I answer your sarcastic question appropriately?

@CutieBeauty Not quite.
I was making a flippant, 'knowing,' hopefully piercingly insightful remark about WOMEN'S unreasonably sky-high standards. Men's standards, in my view, may be more realistic.
One possible reason for this is women have power in the sexual realm which enables them to leverage that power into a plethora of choices.
When one is poor, choices are limited by what one can afford. Burger King or Taco Bell or Sav-a-Lot?
When one is rich, choices are virtually limitless. A menu might as a result be harder to navigate. So many choices!
Similarly, a strikingly beautiful woman (such as yourself) is in a manner of speaking for purposes of this discussion, "rich." She thus has a much wider range of choices than a less attractive woman. This might result in indecision bordering on the compulsive: what if she chooses, then almost instantly unearths an even more desirable companion/lover (richer, more handsome, more refined, more highly educated and sophisticated, etc.)?
A financially rich man has a similar problem, of course. His 'menu' is less limited the wealthier he is.
All this is of course very simplistic. In the cases of both men and women attributes cannot be measured strictly according to one or two variables. I've just chosen the more extreme and stereotypical ones to make a general point, specifically in the case of women:
who, aware of their leverage in the sexual arena, sometimes use that power to make unwarranted and unreasonable value judgments in other areas. So to speak.
It can get very complicated, too much so to make sweeping generalizations. But that's what people like me do.
(P.S. Consider: if as you say women have reasonable standards men can't meet, doesn't that make them a priori AND empirically UNreasonable?)

@Storm1752 blah blah blah... All things being equal, men chase women

@Cutiebeauty I rest my case. It's been proven both because of this observable fact AND because it makes deductive sense.
I am triumphant.

@Cutiebeauty you stepped around the issue of the double standard. That is my only significant point.

@BitFlipper double standard? What do you mean?

@BitFlipper Yes, what do you mean?
BOTH men and women have standards. Again stereotypically, for men it's beauty, for women, money.
In both cases it's more layered and nuanced than that...many things enter the equation. But both are standards.
What's the double one?
In my case, the standard has only been met a few times. (Not that it's all my choice.)

Remind me to run the other way!

@Storm1752 not to worry

@Storm1752 yo don't measure up

But do you deserve and qualify for what you want ? If you want hot and hung, you better be hot and be able to swallow swords...

@RonKrell you would think fortunately for me that is not a requirement as a rule

Sheesh, Joey, that sounds like a pretty discouraging list and comment. Good luck with that..

you are living in a dream

@TomMcGiverin but he knows himself and what he wants he is rather definite sometimes a hidden treasure is in the fringes fat girls can be fun and you'll never go hungry lol
but I know how he feels I think we all have a list of deal breakers even if we haven't thought about it they are there

@Ninanah Better than living in a nightmare

Congratulations on being clear about what you don't want.