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Many religions allow a man to have more than one wife. In the old testament one reads of many men with multiple wives, concubines and slaves for the purpose of sex.
Since what's sauce for the gander is sauce for the goose, surely women who profess to those religions should themseves be allowed multiple husbands and lovers?

Petter 9 Apr 9
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If women were "granted" the same "rights" as men, religion might just be a bit more successful! ?

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The way my world is going, my retirement will be me and a bunch of crazy old hippie ladies touring the country side in an electric Kombi. Maybe we will time share in various nursing homes? I can't imagine any sex but it does seem to be heading towards one male and a few females. Just have to fight over the keys to the van I guess.

I suppose women do tend to outlive their husbands. Meaning the remaining men are much in demand, even if there isn't much left in the tooth-paste tube area.

The way things are going you will be lucky to be allowed to daily do 20 klms on your gopher or electric bike.
I also notice that sex researchers now class hugs and cuddles as full on sex for the over 70's...bit of a problem for all those still with fully working arterial and nervous systems!
I loved the Indian couple who had their first child after five decades of marriage when she was 70 and he 79 -
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@FrayedBear I don't know about 20klms, sounds a bit much to me. I am off to work soon, that is only 2. Pain in the arse 2 nights back, 350 klm round trip for dinner. I was partly hoping for an offer of a sleep over. Oh well.

Was watching a doco on Centenarians. One old bloke was complaining that he couldn't get it up. The interviewer asked when that started. His reply "About six months ago." So we've hope yet.

@RobAnybody Yeah, I need my sex drive lowered, most days it's all in my head.

@Rugglesby Lol

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Religion is "man made"

So shouldn't modern man modify it?

Yes but it suits them

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If women profess to those patriarchal religions, then they wouldn't desire the opposite.

Likely a different answer for folks who profess adherence to a matriarchal or egalitarian religion, but that's not what you asked.

An excellent point, with one caveat. Provided the women who profess to that religion are not doing so under duress. The crucial word in your post is "desire", which is often suppressed under fear of the consequences.

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Joseph Smith's wife told him this once but it didn't work so well. She thought what is good for the gander is good for the goose.

I presume Joseph thought otherwise - "What's yours is mine, what's mine I keep."

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Marry as many men/women you want, regardless of your gender. Get married to a duck or tire iron for all I care.

A good attitude. 🙂

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I don't think I could handle more than 1 man at a time! That's a big enough challenge but kudos to a woman who tries it!

Some manage quite well - but they aren't members of a religious sect.

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Where are women portrayed as the equals of men in these religious texts?

The societies that created these works were patriarchal in nature, and sons inherited the wealth of their fathers. Wealth, power, and prestige were not passed through or to daughters. Women were property not property owners.

The reason why women were required to be faithful to one husband was so that men could be certain that any child born to his wife, concubine, or slave was his, and any who received wealth from him was his legitimate heir.

Those societies were often at war, and lost many of their men in battle. Polygamy would have presented a way for them to maintain their populations and take care of women who were not permitted to support themselves.

JimG Level 8 Apr 9, 2018

But we live well beyond that era, in a time where gender equality is important. Therefore, the question still stands.

@icolan Because times, and therefore your reasons for inequality, have changed

@Petter I am pretty sure misogyny hasn't been eliminated from religion. I get that the conditions that made those practices practical have changed. Religions are very stubborn about their doctrines.

Actually , there were women of wealthy families who were granted money , property , the incomes from those properties , and power in their own name , during the Medieval period . I'm sure you've heard , for instance , of Ferdinand and Isabel , Queen Mary , Queen Elizabeth , Catherine the Great , etc . Families with connections to the Royal families would often include money , property and it's income in the woman's name to improve the chances of marrying women into political marriages , but were concerned that the politics could change , and they did not want to lose those resources if , for instance , the new husband chose to back the wrong group .

@Cast1es Those women were exceptions - and they still weren't free to have multiple partners, which is the theme of this post

@Petter I was responding ti JimG's post .

@Cast1es Ah! There was no @ symbol of course!

@Petter I was replying to JimG's post , which does . And , if e ler Daddy.
arned form heread any of the history books about the first Queen Elizabeth , although she didn't have many husbands , she had quite a few , "favorites ." Guess s

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In The Gambia 90% of the population is Muslim and the men can have several wives.

Unusually, though, a woman can have several husbands.

The wife's son and the husband's daughter may not be biologically related to each other yet are still brother and sister.

They have two saying: "Brother from another mother" and "Sister from another mister."

Aha! An advanced, "primitive" society.
I wonder which interpretation of the Quran they use?

It is no longer The Islamic Republic of The Gambia. Under the new president it is The Republic of the Gambia.

I was surprised to find pork sausages, pork chops and bacon on sale in the shops. I asked my friend how they allowed pork to be sold. He said that 10% of the people were Christian and that they ate it.

Actually, I think the fact that Gambians belong to one of seven traditional tribes has a great moderating effect.

@El-loco .. and the other 90% were too polite to refuse a bacon sandwich!!!
Many African societies are able to rationalise extremely well. It's just a shame that so many are totalitarian to the point of dictatorship. (I grew up in Kenya and lived in Uganda for 5 years during the time of Idi Amin.)

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Mormonism doesn't work that way does it? They have sister-wives but there is no sex there.

Sex with one's sister is forbidden!! 🙂 🙂 🙂

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Even most professional sex workers, would rather have other jobs...why in heavens name would women who know the art of satisfying love making, want to spoil it and turn it into robotic behavior?

Co-habitation is not exclusively concerned with sex - merely the freedom to indulge in it as desired.

@Petter I just don't see much co-habitation taking place between the sexes out here...unless sex is envolved!

@Freedompath Once a King, always a King. But once a Knight is enough! 🙂

@Freedompath Once a King, always a King. But once a Knight is enough! 🙂

@Petter ha!ha!...'Knights' were lucky to pull themselves up to the campfire!

@Petter Actually , the title of the book was , "Once a King , always a King , but once a Knight , is never enough ,"

@Cast1es ...always striving, I guess...I remember I gave away my book...'When all you ever wanted is not enough,' don't remember the author, I wished that I could have read it again (along with the hundred other ones)! Lol

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Have you ever wondered what happens to all the extra males in those religions?

Either take themselves in hand or take each other, in hand or otherwise!

Those were violent and warlike societies. The surplus of females was normally due to male casualties in battle.

@JimG No, I'm talking about current polygamist societies. They kick out the extra boys.

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No..it ain't in their books o' beeleeifs..an womins ain't gut nothing to speak on it..cuz Jazuuuz..

Careful. The wind might change whilst you talk like that, an' then you'll allus talk in "bible-belt".

@Petter lol..I lived for 20 years in the south..so yes I know the ignorance of the bibble belted hypocrites..

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I've had devout Christians tell me with a straight face "The old testament doesn't count."

Except, of course, where it does. Such as in the myths of Adam and Eve, Noah's Ark, the Creation, et al.

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They sure should, and that would make things interesting...

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"should be allowed" LOL! I reckon one core intent of most religions is the subjugation & control of women. besides, the shoulds in this world have never worked on the long run; too much pressure.

It's time the "shoulds" were given greater authority - and enshrined in the laws of the more enlightened states.

i don't agree, @Petter. the single one authority i wholeheartedly embrace is the self.

@walklightly Self is all very well, but remember, "United we stand, divided we fall."

@Petter, yes, true - & we can only unite after having been individual, responsible, sensual & sensible beings, not a nameless & uniform goo. goo doesn't unite.

@walklightly At my age I've been everything - I think!!

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If my opinion matters...I approve of women having multiple husbasnds and lovers.

So do I. I'm actually close friends with a delightful "menage a trois" involving a woman, her husband and her lover. They live under the same roof, the men enjoy playimg golf together, and she loves them both.

@Petter Sounds like an exciting relationship. If they're happy...everything is A OK

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Pick and choose as you like. They do... /s

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You are forgetting that these are the same religions that order women to submit to their husbands and to be quiet in church.

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