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Is a married human being happier than unmarried one?

delilah 5 Apr 14
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Personally, I am happier being married. Of course, some of that happiness is because I was FINALLY 'allowed' to marry the man I love. More to the point, I am content. It's cliche, but I got my 'happily ever after.'

So, you're in an "open marriage"?

@Condor5 I am. ?

@BearsNPenn, well, that sounds enlightened.

@Condor5 It doesn't work for everyone. But he and I have a very clear understanding about what we can and can't do.

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....hahaha, that's like asking, "Is a bird that can fly happier than one than cannot?"

@LetzGetReal touche...but I did once know a penguin who tried and tried, refused to give up hope, until one day he flung himself over a freeway overpass and, no wait, that was my friends uncle Pete, never mind....

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Living with your best friend, someone who has always got your back has huge benefits, living with your worst enemy on the other hand is sheer hell. I've known people with long and happy marriages (30 years+) and that is hard to beat, but not all marriages are like that and marriage itself is not for everyone.

Kimba Level 7 Apr 14, 2018

@LetzGetReal I tend to use the term married fairly loosely in relation to this question as basically long-term monogamous (or not by mutual consent) relationship between adults usually involving cohabiting. My godparents ( who as far as I know are atheists the whole christening thing was to shut my mother up) lived together 25+ years before they actually married (not a church do) after they'd been in a car accident (realized it made the legal stuff simpler), they were still together in there 90s, three bedrooms: his, hers and theirs.

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Though I need to be back with my ex like I need a hole in the head, nevertheless I miss the anchor that being married provides.

godef Level 7 Apr 14, 2018

@LetzGetReal Yeah, not really what I meant.

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i'd say it depends upon the human being in question I live with my best friend but we have separate flats in teh same building, I cook and sometimes clean for him and he looks after out finances and does the thinking and research about what to buy etc. we see each other at least twice a day so we have time alone and time together it works nicely.

I could live with that.

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Insufficient data. Does not compute.

Ha ha ha.... I stand correct... Brilliant minds think alike !!

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I think being happy is something that you allow yourself to be.
People in good marriages are probably happier than most single people and are probably way happier than people in bad marriages.
As for the single people they'll have to learn to be happy with themselves first.
Marriage isn't a pass to happiness.
Also human beings aren't designed to be ridiculously happy all the time.

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We are responsible for our own happiness. We can allow others to add to it or take away from it. It's our choice.

Well said

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It all depends on who you are married to. If you wife is a b then so will your life. If you have a good wife then your life will be better.

I agree. If your husband is an ass, life will be hell.

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It depends. Married people can be happier. So can single. Sometimes marriage is more stress. Imagine this scene from the past. I see this man with his arm around his wife as TV shows are discussed. He says "as for me and this house nobody here watches 90210." That's interesting. He has his hand up his wife's ass like a puppet. I'm sure it was a stressful relationship in a stressful household. I say this and I have never personally watched 90210 myself. It's just that who are you to speak for other people and what they can watch on TV?

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Leave the word married out and use having a bond with someone would be more appropiate I should think

Marriage is religous invention during the dark ages so that men could control the inheritance of women. There is not basis for tieing 2 humans together by means of a piece of paper.

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There is no pat answer to that question. It depends on the personality of the person(s) and on the quality of the specific marriage.

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Probably depends on the state of their marriage.

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I have been really happily married, and really unhappily married. I have been really happily single and somewhat unhappily single.

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Some are and some aren't.

Happiness is nto a destination to be reached, but rather a manner of traveling. (I tried to do a quiock look up to see who originaly said this, but we'll hae to say it is anonymous)

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I know I am, and try to make sure my wife is also. I have read men do much better in a marriage than women and live longer.

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Brian Cox: Eric, are you an optimist or a pessimist?

Eric Idle: I'm married.

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Depends on individual person.

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Depends on the Human.

Coldo Level 8 Apr 14, 2018
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I'm probably in the super minority, and don't wanna be 'that guy', but I don't really don't believe in marriage. I see it as an ancient way to denote property. Not that I'm against committed relationships.

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I was happy in and I'm happy out. It"s all attitude.

BillF Level 7 Apr 14, 2018
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Possibly...until the married one becomes widowed. Then the unmarried one remains in contentment.

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It depends entirely on the person and the situation. I was very happy in my marriage for many years, and very upset and unhappy for quite a while after it ended. I'm the type of person that needs others in my life. But I am learning to be happy alone, and it is making me "grow up", so maybe someday I'll see it as a good thing.

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I was more motivated to go out with friends when I was single. I also made more of an effort to get out and meet new people. I was happy doing those things, but I am happy being married too. There are pluses to both lifestyles.

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