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Is a married human being happier than unmarried one?

delilah 5 Apr 14
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Personally, I am happier being married. Of course, some of that happiness is because I was FINALLY 'allowed' to marry the man I love. More to the point, I am content. It's cliche, but I got my 'happily ever after.'

So, you're in an "open marriage"?

@Condor5 I am. ?

@BearsNPenn, well, that sounds enlightened.

@Condor5 It doesn't work for everyone. But he and I have a very clear understanding about what we can and can't do.

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....hahaha, that's like asking, "Is a bird that can fly happier than one than cannot?"

@LetzGetReal touche...but I did once know a penguin who tried and tried, refused to give up hope, until one day he flung himself over a freeway overpass and, no wait, that was my friends uncle Pete, never mind....

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Living with your best friend, someone who has always got your back has huge benefits, living with your worst enemy on the other hand is sheer hell. I've known people with long and happy marriages (30 years+) and that is hard to beat, but not all marriages are like that and marriage itself is not for everyone.

Kimba Level 7 Apr 14, 2018

@LetzGetReal I tend to use the term married fairly loosely in relation to this question as basically long-term monogamous (or not by mutual consent) relationship between adults usually involving cohabiting. My godparents ( who as far as I know are atheists the whole christening thing was to shut my mother up) lived together 25+ years before they actually married (not a church do) after they'd been in a car accident (realized it made the legal stuff simpler), they were still together in there 90s, three bedrooms: his, hers and theirs.

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i'd say it depends upon the human being in question I live with my best friend but we have separate flats in teh same building, I cook and sometimes clean for him and he looks after out finances and does the thinking and research about what to buy etc. we see each other at least twice a day so we have time alone and time together it works nicely.

I could live with that.

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Though I need to be back with my ex like I need a hole in the head, nevertheless I miss the anchor that being married provides.

godef Level 7 Apr 14, 2018

@LetzGetReal Yeah, not really what I meant.

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Insufficient data. Does not compute.

Ha ha ha.... I stand correct... Brilliant minds think alike !!

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Leave the word married out and use having a bond with someone would be more appropiate I should think

Marriage is religous invention during the dark ages so that men could control the inheritance of women. There is not basis for tieing 2 humans together by means of a piece of paper.

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It all depends on who you are married to. If you wife is a b then so will your life. If you have a good wife then your life will be better.

I agree. If your husband is an ass, life will be hell.

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We are responsible for our own happiness. We can allow others to add to it or take away from it. It's our choice.

Well said

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It depends. Married people can be happier. So can single. Sometimes marriage is more stress. Imagine this scene from the past. I see this man with his arm around his wife as TV shows are discussed. He says "as for me and this house nobody here watches 90210." That's interesting. He has his hand up his wife's ass like a puppet. I'm sure it was a stressful relationship in a stressful household. I say this and I have never personally watched 90210 myself. It's just that who are you to speak for other people and what they can watch on TV?

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I think being happy is something that you allow yourself to be.
People in good marriages are probably happier than most single people and are probably way happier than people in bad marriages.
As for the single people they'll have to learn to be happy with themselves first.
Marriage isn't a pass to happiness.
Also human beings aren't designed to be ridiculously happy all the time.

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According to a study by data analyst Mintel, 61 per cent of single women are happy being single, versus 49 per cent of single men.

The survey also found that 75 per cent of single women have not actively looked for a relationship in the last year, compared to 65 per cent of single men.

And the proposed reason for this is that for women, being in a heterosexual relationship is actually a lot of hard work, and generally requires more effort and labour than for men.

“There’s evidence that women spend longer on domestic tasks than men and I think they also do more emotional work - so they still do more housework and cooking and things as well as more emotional labour,” Professor Emily Grundy, of the University of Essex

[independent.co.uk]

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Maybe, maybe not.

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Yes and no

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Therapists say so yes happuer peiple married. In my marriage..no..lol.

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They tend to live longer does that mean anything?

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HahahahahahahHahahaha

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Check the post of the married without intimacy for 6 years and get back to us.

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You can be alone and unhappy or alone and happy. You can be married and unhappy or you can be married and happy. If you marry someone who turns out to be unhappy most of the time you have a choice as to whether or not to remain in that marriage.

I do not think that anyone can make another person person happy but he or she sure can make another person unhappy.

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Only for legal reasons. albatross stay with each other for a really long life and don't need someone they pay to tell them they can be together.

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For a while absolutely yes. Now, "for a while" mean different span of time for different couples. It can go for about a day for some, to a life time for very very few lucky ones....

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Not in my case.

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Statisticaly it depends on gender. Married men live longer but married women less

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I'm not married and I'm happy.

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Certainly not necessarily.

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