What a waste at least she's gone. Bruh one thing I've learned in my life is there are no baptists that don't plan to try and convert you. Ever. My Missouri family pull this BS every few years. They give up...wait a while....then "god sent me a message that I will save you!!!!"

It was futile from the beginning bruh.

Sorry for the hurt, but it is better to be true to yourself than to fake your way through life. Maybe you will find someone that likes you just the way you are here at agnostic.com. Best wishes.

I'm sorry, I know this break up must be painful for you. If you are wondering why or her answer makes no sense...I was raised Independent, Fundamental Baptist & there is a ton of pressure on women to not be "unequally yoked" (being with a non-believer) because...once married, if the non-believer husband tells the wife she is not to go to church, as a good, christian wife, she must be submissive to & obey her husband, if she wants to please God. In order not to be separated from her "church family & the house of worship", she will cut herself off from "worldly things & people". I would love to say I'm joking...

You may be better off in the long run. Trying to change someone to fit their idea of what is "right" is just plain arrogant and self centered. Either you love someone they way they are or you don't. That's not to say we can't all change and self improve--but that is up to the individual, not the partner. How about she stops going to church to fit in with your beliefs? I imagine that wouldn't go over too well--and her trying to change you shouldn't either. If she wants you to be something you are not, then she doesn't love you.

Maybe she should have thought of that 1.5 years ago.

Sorry about that, but good riddance, she obviously doesn't respect your non belief

Her loss...

If it's a deal breaker for her she should've saved you the time. Sorry man.

she didn't understand at all then.

I spent 6 years in a marriage to learn that fundamental differences rarely form a solid foundation for a relationship. It hurts to give up or lose something enjoyable and familiar, but I have to believe that we are opening ourselves to the opportunity for greater fulfillment and realization of our true selves in the future.

Sorry to hear bro. Her loss. If that's the reason she gave you then she would of realised that from the start. Sounds like she wanted to see if you'd change for her. Good on you for staying true to yourself.

I can't see this working...UNLESS, this person is sitting on the fence about her religion! If she is steeped in that religion, she will be tormented by your atheism. She may 'work,' on you to change and you may never go in that direction and it will tear you apart, trying to love someone and accommodate some Idealogy...your own and the person you love! Over time, this is bound to tear you all apart! You must choose, but oil and water want mix and wishing it so...will never work!

You will eventually find a woman who shares your same world views.

Sorry, guy. But you can't change anyone, they can only change themselves, & even then, you can't force yourself or another to 'believe'. This was bound to be a problem, unfortunately. It sounds trite & flippant to say so, but, really, this is probably for the best. Now you are free to find someone that matches you better. Best of luck!

That sucks. I'm so sorry.

I'm sorry about that loss.

You can't change crazy. On edit. That is why I am grateful for this place. I am not entirely certain I want to get into a relationship again. But I know, for a certainty, I do not want to even date a religious crazy. I was a trial member of another Atheist site but it was fairly expensive for the premium services, which was the only way you could really communicate.

When I was younger I thought I could change men too. I learned a hard lesson you can't . Anyway start over for the better.

Be grateful this came to light now. The push to convert is most likely only one thing she wants to change, and bring your age change is not likely to happen. I found a deist and we match up well. Will have been together 25 years next month without one push on my religious views.

That sucks. I'm sorry that happened to you.

Sorry Brad. I was dense enough to go down that road with the same results as yours. But at least I did get some good sinful and shameful sex out of the relationship, not to mention one great cat that outlived the relationship by 16 years.

I feel like it’s wrong to say”you’re better off “ but that’s how I see it. If she wanted to change it probably wasn’t going to stop with church going.

So what`s the problem? You've had a lucky escape. She's wasted your time, but onwards and upwards - don't waste any more on her.

I am sorry you are hurting, but I don't think it will ever work out if her goal is to change you. It's a shame it has taken her this long to realize how strong your opinion about this is.

Women, sadly, often think they can change men, whether it is an alcohol or violence problem, or whether it is beliefs. It takes a long time for them to learn, often with sad consequences. The best thing for you to do is walk away and hope for better luck next time.