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Well just wanted to talk to yall for a minute. The woman I've been going with for the last 1.5 years has decided that she wants to break up. The reason being she is a Baptist and goes to church, while I'm an atheist she thought she could get me back in church but I have no desire to go to church and I'm not searching for god .

bradholland10 5 Apr 23
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Been there done that myself years ago. It sucks, but I had to let her go. We were so not on the same page....im an atheist, she was a deep believer.....it wasn't working.

You'll be OK.

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Her loss...

Varn Level 8 Apr 23, 2018
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Sorry Brad.

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I've dated Baptist s and they are relentless, brain washed, I think. I find not only the belief system incredible but also the attitude. I know I will not date one again.

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Sorry about that, but good riddance, she obviously doesn't respect your non belief

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If it's a deal breaker for her she should've saved you the time. Sorry man.

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she didn't understand at all then.

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I spent 6 years in a marriage to learn that fundamental differences rarely form a solid foundation for a relationship. It hurts to give up or lose something enjoyable and familiar, but I have to believe that we are opening ourselves to the opportunity for greater fulfillment and realization of our true selves in the future.

Susu Level 2 Apr 24, 2018
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Sorry to hear bro. Her loss. If that's the reason she gave you then she would of realised that from the start. Sounds like she wanted to see if you'd change for her. Good on you for staying true to yourself.

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I can't see this working...UNLESS, this person is sitting on the fence about her religion! If she is steeped in that religion, she will be tormented by your atheism. She may 'work,' on you to change and you may never go in that direction and it will tear you apart, trying to love someone and accommodate some Idealogy...your own and the person you love! Over time, this is bound to tear you all apart! You must choose, but oil and water want mix and wishing it so...will never work!

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You will eventually find a woman who shares your same world views.

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Sorry, guy. But you can't change anyone, they can only change themselves, & even then, you can't force yourself or another to 'believe'. This was bound to be a problem, unfortunately. It sounds trite & flippant to say so, but, really, this is probably for the best. Now you are free to find someone that matches you better. Best of luck!

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That sucks. I'm so sorry.

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I'm sorry about that loss.

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You can't change crazy. On edit. That is why I am grateful for this place. I am not entirely certain I want to get into a relationship again. But I know, for a certainty, I do not want to even date a religious crazy. I was a trial member of another Atheist site but it was fairly expensive for the premium services, which was the only way you could really communicate.

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When I was younger I thought I could change men too. I learned a hard lesson you can't . Anyway start over for the better.

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Be grateful this came to light now. The push to convert is most likely only one thing she wants to change, and bring your age change is not likely to happen. I found a deist and we match up well. Will have been together 25 years next month without one push on my religious views.

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That sucks. I'm sorry that happened to you.

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Sorry Brad. I was dense enough to go down that road with the same results as yours. But at least I did get some good sinful and shameful sex out of the relationship, not to mention one great cat that outlived the relationship by 16 years.

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I feel like it’s wrong to say”you’re better off “ but that’s how I see it. If she wanted to change it probably wasn’t going to stop with church going.

Essie Level 6 Apr 24, 2018
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So what`s the problem? You've had a lucky escape. She's wasted your time, but onwards and upwards - don't waste any more on her.

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I am sorry you are hurting, but I don't think it will ever work out if her goal is to change you. It's a shame it has taken her this long to realize how strong your opinion about this is.

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Women, sadly, often think they can change men, whether it is an alcohol or violence problem, or whether it is beliefs. It takes a long time for them to learn, often with sad consequences. The best thing for you to do is walk away and hope for better luck next time.

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What a convenient excuse to end a relationship that no longer works for her!

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Just wanted to thank everyone for their thoughts and advice. It's very much appreciated.

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