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As a single person, would you pick up and move half way across the country if you found someone on here you FEEL you may be compatible with?
(Sorry for ending that in a prep.) LoL

Hutch 7 Apr 28
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It would have to be more than a feeling for me

As it absolutely must be. For some of us, especially at our stage of life, a commitment like this must come with some sort of guaranteed return.

@JackPedigo isn't that the truth!

@AmelieMatisse And that takes time and knowledge (from open and honest communication).

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Nope. Love my job, love my home/neighborhood, love my friends and community, and love my independence. I would not give all of that up for a "feeling."

Hi! Saw your bio, fellow scientist and introvert here!

@tucsonkosmicgirl Yes! I'm also childfree...another nontraditional choice with which I'm entirely happy.

@ScienceRocks me too, no kids, just kitty.

@tucsonkosmicgirl Dog for me, but I've had kitties too.

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I would after a lot of vetting. Of course.

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I moved halfway across the world, gave up an apartment I built and a good job for someone. It didn't last but it was part of my learning experience. Later, I again moved halfway around the world to help my then partner deal with her alcohol problem. She did and we had 5 good years before crashing (but I needed to move). Later, I became involved with a woman living in Tx. (I was in Seattle) and after a long courtship we married and she moved (there is no comparison between Dallas and Seattle). She loved Seattle and the move was great for her. Later, she discovered Lopez Island in the San Juan archipelago. After a few years she wanted to move and now it was my turn, again. We moved and it turned out to be the best move we/I have ever made. I would consider sharing another place with someone but it would be hard to give up being in the perfect place.

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Not immediately. I’d definitely have to know the person and know they wanted me there.

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It would take more than a feeling.

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Yes. I traveled cross country and spent several weeks with fellow member. We became good friends. I'm willing to try again should I meet someone again.

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Sure. It’s like a major life change. I did it 16 years ago but I went all the way from west coast to east coast. Things worked out and have been married those last 16 years. We have two kids, a dog and a house.

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"May be compatible"? NO!

Even if I were looking, it would take an act of God to get me to believe whatever connection I establish with someone online is anywhere near indicative of something "real" and viable.

Yes, I said that on purpose.

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If you have the time and the money, and the person you like happens to live in a bucket list country, no reason why you couldn't visit that country for fun and throw in a visit with someone from this forum just to see if they will be compatible with you.

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It takes more than feeling I may be compatible with.

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It would take a lot more than a feeling.
I'd visit, hang, etc...but up and move ?
. Also would depend on where.
There are places I simply will not move to for any reason.

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I might visit ... would require real chemistry/clicking/mutual get each other fan club stuff prior. Bombproof friends. NFW I'm just taking off.

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I once moved because a person I met online promised a better life. I don't regret it but it was not easy and the relationship didn't last because the better life was his dream, not mine. I didn't have a better life. I had the same life in a different place.

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It would take way more than just compatibility. I would have to really get to know the person and really be in what is known as love, plus I would have to find a job that I would be happy to work for compatible to what I am already doing here.

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It would take more than a feeling and a lot more than mere compatibility.

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No. Only if I 'knew' without a doubt that they were the right person and I for them.

I'm not worried about moving in the future lol

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No way. I live in Tucson. Can't think of a better place to be.

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I don’t know. Maybe...it’s never been an issue before. It probably will take more than a feeling.

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the admonishment to not end a sentence/phrase with a preposition is not a rule.
it always was fake news.

And yes. A new adventure to be somewhere else.

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I can't move because I help my daughter raise her daughter lol
I was online dating a guy from Wisconsin. I'm in El Paso tx. I thought everything was great. We video chated for 3 months almost every day. Talked nonstop. Things seemed to be really lining up. He came for a visit in Nov. It was great. We talked about him moving down. I said I wanted another visit. I'm glad I did. He was a completely different person. Calling people cunts. Angry constantly. Bitching nonstop. Calling woman whores. Was a nightmare was here 3 days and we had 4 screaming matches. I tried talking to him and he refused to say anything other then ive always been an asshole. I woke up the next morning he was gone. Refused to talk to me after that.
Its hard if you can't I treat with someone and see them in different situations.

Good advice, thank you.

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Nah, would take more than that.

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Whenever I receive an e/mail asking for the chance to get to know e/o better...the first thing I check is the distance, then his age, religious status and his level of education.
Anybody who lives more than 50 miles away gets deleted.

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No

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No, and I live in England

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