Do you take offense at turns of phrase, such as....
"Bless your heart" (in the sense that a person feels bad about something you're dealing with, not the sense that they are calling you dumb)
"Good lord! (In a fit of frustration)
"Jesus fucking christ!" (Frustration, naturally)
"Oh my god." (In the throws of passion... or frustration.... take your pick)
"Bless you." (when someone sneezes)
I think it's interesting when atheists take offense at turns of phrase. I cannot relate. I have no interest in changing someone's vernacular. Acceptance of people's quirks, makes for a much easier and satisfying life. Their turns of phrase have no bearing on me. To each their own. Most especially in a relationship with a fellow atheist. They are just turns of phrase that became common place, as leftovers from former religious adherence as a child, no doubt. Feeling the need to criticize your partner, and be critical of it, seems extreme. The phrases do not imply belief in the magic fairy in the sky.
I still say some of those things. Not because I believe but more out of habit. I do say “bless your heart” but as a “your dumb” type of way. My favorite is “god fucking damnit!”
I can’t stand when someone says “have a blessed day” though. Had a nurse leave an appoint reminder message and closed with “have a blessed day”. My first thought was “how unprofessional”. I guess I’m a religious word snob. Some is acceptable but some infringes on my personal views and how dare anyone force their religious blessings on me.
I just roll with it.
"Bless his/her heart" is a Southern way of softening the blow. While gossiping, it's an attempt to make them seem charitable. After harshly criticizing an absent person, Southerners qualify it:
"Sam is a lying snake who can't keep it in his pants, bless his heart."
I think that people forget that language constantly evolves to have different meanings which are different from those of us all over the world .I imagine that Linguists have a hard time tracking where we are at - For me its like how cockney rhyming slang evolved for street traders to evade the Police. They made their own sometimes daily evolving language so if someone is not a cockney barrow boy it is very hard to make out what is being said. If a non cockney worked out a word or two it wouldn't make sense. I imagine everyone knows "lets have a butcher's' Butchers hook ='look'- lets have a look ! So you need the second part of the rhyme to get it - so - you don't get it . Old street slang plus new permeates our language as well as new words for new things that come into being like robots. its a good thing I htink that language is evolving because that means to me that we are too.
Doesn't bug me. What bakes my biscuit a bit, here in Prosper, TX the cars that city employees drive have, in god we trust on them. That bugs me, but I don't have the resources or the time to fight something like that, even though it's been proven to be illegal . When someone says something like I'll pray for you. I'll say something to the effect of I'll think for you. I do it with a smile on my face.
it would be hard to have a conversation with anyone around here without running into that. so no I don't find it offensive. I do find some things awkward tho. The old "praying for you" or "they're in a better place now" and all that kind of stuff is weird. I do understand though that this world is not all about me.