Why would you even ask? Just do it. Women age better than men usually, so if they go for younger men, so be it.

I'm 31. the past few times i've attempted dating have been at least a 3-7 year gap with me being on the young end. i relate to older women more because i'm far more matured, emotionally than most guys my age.. where it seems to fail is the sexual chemistry aspect. more often than not i'm left with far more drive and kink than my older lady friends. not saying that's a characteristic of all women in that age group (35-41) or so, just my experience.. seems like i'm going to be settling in one department or another, either emotional or physical connection

Most men wouldn't have a problem with it. Ultimately we just want to be happy, same as you.

Who's the lucky youngster? I envy him!

Who's the lucky youngster? I envy him!

When I was 19 I had a relationship with a friend from work who was 39. My first wife was a year and a half older. The biggest age difference the other was also 20 years. At this stage of my life (66) I am more interested in someone in my general age bracket, but would never let age, higher or lower, be the primary concern over how I feel about someone I feel attracted to.

"Older" is a relative term. Older than dirt? Older than me? Older than someone who can't name the four Beatles, much less the "fifth" one? Age is mostly just a state of mind, in my opinion. But if you get to the point of being older than my mom... well... let's just say thay I'll be happy to come by on Sundays to the piano for you in the lobby of the Senior Living Community. ?

I've dated much older and much younger. It's all good.

WEll, as a (much) older man of 82, I date gals in my age group. As long as they seem healthy and reasonably fit, I feel good about it.

Gee, France' s first lady is 17 years older than her hubby.

As I have seen women that I loved and lusted after in my youth bear the marks of growing older, I have come to this conclusion:

What I find truly beautiful about a woman is not susceptible to the ravages of time.

I am no longer interested in a woman based on her fertility capacity. I am interested in kindness, wisdom, a thirst for life, and a willingness to make the most of what time she has left.

Just for reference, I am 56, and the three most desirable women in my life are 52, 57 and 47.

As far as physical relationships go, I want a woman who knows what she's doing. I don't have time to train a 20-something.

Well, how much older?
At 68 I'd say probably not.
At 40, maybe.
Is she really rich?

At my age time seems more precious; not as meant in the usual way. To reach a level in friendship that qualifies for sexual intimacy still requires time. I am drawn to women of strong character/integrity who know and love who they are. And that is just for getting acquainted.

There is little time to repeat errors of anxious, impetuous youth. Especially regarding something as commonly available as 'casual sex'. Borrrring.

An old Swedish proverb, in a way, illustrates the difference between it and bonded sexual intimacy wherein total trust and surrender are involved. But it applies to another emotion altogether.

"Shared sorrow is half sorrow. Shared joy is double joy."

Am I saying casual sex, an activity in which we borrow and trade is unpleasurable? Hardly... It is, however less than half of the promise Nature holds out from sharing.

Most women, not all, at my age, but for a few of those widowed have given up seeking that level and if they've never known it, gave up long ago.

Also because of precious time, I don't care for very young women because ANYTHING in common or commonly understood is rare. Time required to explain isn't worth it. They are young enough to learn for themselves.

Women, really get a worse hand dealt because they mature early, seem to lose a lot of interest and trust (for good reasons) earlier and my sex dies earlier. The few left are largely arrested at 20, still chasing hard bodies, with a Hell of a lot les$ to trade on.

Hard to find many women older than me. But I have craved the affections and friendship of quite a few.

I have only dated a couple of ladies younger than myself. I have had 4 actual relationships, ie mutually exclusive, they were all older by between 13 months and 3 years. I set my desired age range at 5 years either side, but hey, it the rght lady came along, age is irrelevant.

While I would gladly consider any woman 21 years of age or older, and for the most part date women close to my age, I do enjoy the company of and have dated women older than myself, with the oldest being 24 years my senior. Most of the interactions I've had with older women have been gratifying, and they were really wonderful women, I had zero shame in being seen with them out in public. I'm not going into anymore details, as this comment could become X rated, but suffice to say it's good to hear that women are living their lives as they see fit and not let age get in the way. Good post.

Have you thought of setting up an 'Older Women and Younger Men' section on agnostic.com?

A place of respect - no mention of cougars, cubs or toyboys. I'd join it.

I know of three couples where the man is younger than the woman.

One is a friend of mine. His wife is 17 years older than him. Another is a friend's brother whose wife is 20 years older. They've been together over two decades. The other is a couple on social media. Again, the man is 20 years younger.

In real life it happens. But not in our media.

I know you're looking for a male perspective but I thought I'd throw in my three cents. I'm all about the connection no matter the age and I shirk away from generalizations. However, I thought you may appreciate the answer Dan Savage gave to a woman who was worried about the long-term viability with her relationship with a much younger man, and if she should tell him to go. Most particularly, she was worried that her sexual appetite would diminish before his:

"Stop worrying about how you're going feel a quarter of a century from now.

Things that are important to you at 50—like having your ass fucked on the regular—may not be so important to you at 75.

Your boyfriend could predecease you and you could wind up spending your final years alone—or, hey, you could die together in a fire or a car wreck or a plane crash or chariot fisting scene gone tragically wrong. We Catholics call that, "Looking on the bright side."

Your boyfriend could be done with sex at 50—a chronic medical condition or anti-depressants or carbs could crater his libido—and you could be the one banging hot fuckbuddies on the side."

Some of the best connections that I have ever had was with older women. There is a great mix of beauty, character and experience in older women that is relatable and sexy and for me that almost always makes it more than just a physical attraction.

Older or younger. I've never been very age specific.

Dating older women is awesome.

Never been an issue with me. If iike someone that's enough.

I've had relationships with older women and it's usually went pretty well.

Its called a Boy Toy, but they found out much to their surprize