Wasn't there a follow up book 'Assholes are from Uranus'?

I read it a LONG time ago. Other than the title, there wasn't a whole about it that was particularly memorable.
I do remember believing for a long that men and women were just "wired" differently.
Then, after living a good bit of life, realized EVERYONE is wired differently.
The more we try to explain why men and women are different, the farther apart we make the divide.

Back in my self help days I bought the book and still have it. A therapist gave me the tape as well. Men and women are wired differently and comprehend events differently.

It was a self help cash grab filled with pseudoscience, junk science, stereotyping, bullshit, jargon, blanket statements, and broad generalizations that ultimately amount to nothing.

I bought it in 1995 and read most of it. I don't really remember much about it other than this:

I brought it to the park one day. My boyfriend at the time was going to play some sports with friends and I was going to hang out and continue reading it. I know that some of it resonated, but a lot of it didn't map onto the relationship world as I knew it. When we left, we walked past a dumpster and I pitched it in.

This book contains too many generalizations about men and women. I stopped reading it.

I don't like it when people stereotype others, for example, "Mexicans are lazy" or "women are emotional."

I think there is some truth to this pop psychology. Men's and Women's brains are demonstrably different. Men have fewer intra-brain connections. Men have larger areas associated with spacial reasoning (that's why we never want to ask for directions.) Women tend to be better at language.

There are differences and we complement each other. A whole (a mixed couple), the two parts together, is greater than either part alone and, in my speculation, this is a result of human evolution.

It's a long winded way of saying men's minds and womens minds work differently. at the time it was written it might have been relevant but society as a whole has moved on now there is no longer that much of a split between the sexes some men act really effeminate if I asked my dad what moisturiser he used he'd look at me like I'm taking the piss but I regularly hear guys in their 20 discussing what products they use while at work and I have met a lot of women who act extremely masculine compared to gender stereotypes from the 80/90s. Honestly no book can tell you how a mans mind works I'm one and I don't even know how mine works. We do dumb shit for no reason at all and it doesn't matter how smart the man.

I read it years ago. It was all right. But after you are 60 romance takes on a whole new dimension. When everybody is dying around you its one day at a time. I don't have the time to try to figure out a woman. If you want to sit around and bitch and moan about what i did wrong in your life, go back to your own place and bitch at the mirror. If i hit the town with a woman, i want to laugh and have fun. That book is about trying to figure out men and women.

Is an old book that came in the 80's I think. A few lives ago I read it. Nothing about the buzz I remember.

Out dated very out dated

It was a good exploration of the different outlooks that men and women have in a relationship. While not groundbreaking science or anything, it did help to explain the archetypes of the opposite gender to the reader. I would take it notionally, not factually.

Is largely been proven to be full of crap.

Yes there are some obvious biologically specific traits to the sexes, but really most of the neurological differences between male and female brains are plastic, fall on a spectrum with a lot of overlap, and can be changed by experience behaviour and hormones.

As I recall the book mainly offers up a lot of retrograde comforting platitudes to traditional gender roles. It's mostly valuable as kindling.

I read it too. Remember nothing. I bet it's not on any feminist reading list. Lots of those women don't even accept we're biologically different, never mind coming from different planets..

I remember the book from a long time ago. I don't remember reading it. I was probably way too busy doing my own hands on research on the subject. I think that it has been scientifically proven that men's and women's brains process information differently and also certain chemical releases are different between genders. Of course knowing that differences exist and being able to successfully deal with the differences are two different things

Aas the British say: shite!

Read it in the ‘90s....entertainment value at best...

I tried to read it as I thought it was science fiction. It was. But not a very captivating one.

Though it is loaded with observations of stereotypical behavior and explanations for that behavior, I found it interesting to understand socially driven motivations of others.

On the other hand, since I rarely fit any stereotypes and I am typically not drawn to those who fit them, I found it of marginal use for any of my working relationships.

Though it is loaded with observations of stereotypical behavior and explanations for that behavior, I found it interesting to understand socially driven motivations of others.

On the other hand, since I rarely fit any stereotypes and I am typically not drawn to those who fit them, I found it of marginal use for any of my working relationships.

I have read it - long ago. Can't remember a great deal, other than the feeling that I wasn't greatly impressed. I can't even remember what failed to impress me!

If I remember correctly, there's a chapter about "how to avoid arguments." I thought it was wrong information to put out for the most part. Here's my take on arguments. They are GOOD! Any relationship that lasts will have MANY arguments...so I don't agree that they should be "avoided". There is a right way and a right way to DO it, but airing your thoughts to your partner, even if it's arguing and gets loud, is healthy. Where you cross the line of course, is if you begin throwing out verbal abusive slants toward the other person, or becoming physical.

My wife and I regularly argue and I'm not ashamed to admit it. It's what I feel has kept us strong for going on 20 years. Afterward, we always "kiss and make up" and we tend to speak TO each other eventually about the topic instead of AT each other, which does happen frequently when each person is upset or feels they really need to get their point across to the other person.

Arguments are healthy, as long as boundaries are respected.

Read it, and have discussed its concepts many times. I found it interesting, and fundamentally, theoretically sound. Men and women do have different ways of looking and responding to their world; but there are also many similarities and commonalities. Like any self-help book, I saw this one as being an opportunity for some people to become more mindful and emotionally competent. No one size fits all and i know many who found it useful. Did you?

I did read it and I felt like it fed right into a lot of the stereotypes people believe about each of the sexes...I didn't take anything from it that helped my relationship at all, but it was a decent read.