Depends on the origin of the date. If I ask and she accepts, it's between her and me. I feel if I asked, I should pick up the tab. If the request was not as intimate as a date, and a discussion preceded the agreement, then going "dutch" would fine unless a different agreement was reached. I've had friends and I pay alternately for a light dinner before a movie and go dutch on tickets. Worked out fine. Things change when either romance or desire enter into the picture and hopefully would be apparent to both partup

I don't ask around for dates if I'm already dating another lady. I don't date in my hometown. I would not have asked you if you had not have awakened the beast in me. The beast that tells me OMG , she beautiful.... A date to me is a beginning of a commitment. I don't date anyone else. I focus on you. I'm not a stalker. It's my respect for you. I have already thought about the desire to be with you and even wondered what sex would be like. If it doesn't seem right the first and or the second date then I politely don't lead you on and stop asking for another. The first date is asking you to spend time with me and let's have some fun and get to know each other. I don't ask because I want to have a one night stand. That would be nice but I don't expect it. That's to awkward for me anyway. If you accept a date with me, then I'm going to treat you for giving me the opportunity to see if your the one... does that make sense to you? Thinking more about it.... i wouldnt want a date with a lady that wanted to pay her own way. Thats not a date to me. Thats a casual meet up.

I'd never go for a meal on a date, until we are a couple.

But I always offer to pay for drinks on a date (if I've asked her out). If she insists that she pays for a round occasionally then this is one tick in the box.

If she gets all shirty about me insisting on paying for a drink then I know she is going to be a problem, and I'll bail.

First date, yes. Second date, probably not. Once "dating." Take it as it comes, sometimes yes, sometimes I pay, sometimes, she does. Keep it "even Stevens," when possible without worrying about too much.

I offer to pay for both of us if it's the first date, especially if I was the one who invited. If there are more dates along the way, I'd prefer to split, taking the bill just occasionally.

Unless there's a big wealth disparity I'll usually pay the first time but would look for some reciprocity in the long term.

I always offer to pay my own way

I always feel embarrassed when a woman offers to pay, even when it's only half the bill. If it is a person I know well, then we may agree to do so sometimes, but I'm still inclined to say I insist on paying for the wine.
I don't expect anything in return, other than, perhaps, a friendly good night kiss on the cheek.

I always pay, illogical I know, some women I date are wealthier than I am.
It just feels good.
The other side of the issue is, I would love to go to a lady's home and have her cook me a lovely meal. That happens only about 1% as much.

It depends...Though there are some dates where I'm like no babe tonight's all on me. Granted there's gota be a good mixture of that on both sides.

Sometimes

If the topic does not come up, I pay. I grew up where manners were stressed. If the woman offers, then it will depend upon the conversation we have had.

No.

I always offer, but i like to talk about that beforehand so there isn’t any misunderstandings.

Depends on the date.

Yes, always. Now that I'm married and we share all accounts, whoever has the wallet closest pays lol

I have. If a movie, one of us might pay for tix, and the other a large popcorn and soda or some scenario like that. I like cooking and would invite whomever I was dating over to eat regularly. They'd bring a couple things if I was providing the main course. Nothing wrong with potlucking it.

Yes.

i think all my first days being a old fashion gentlemen i have paid enjoyed the company not that i have that many dates

I’m a millennial but reading this makes me feel super old-fashioned. My husband always paid for everything when we were dating. It never occurred to me to pay for anything on our dates. I just thought that’s what men do.

Men always paying is obsolete. I assume that a woman is getting just asmuch out of date asI am, whether that be conversation , entertainment or pleasure. in today's world finances should not be involved .

I offer to pay, but don’t insist.

I am willing to, it's been a while since I've been on a date.

It depends on who it is... but generally, first date, I open my purse. I also insist on paying if I asked... but rarely get to complete my offer without adamant protest.
If I was dating a woman I would always split unless agreed upon as a "treat date" otherwise.
I just offered up a treat date, this evening... we'll see.

It's better to take turns ... just draw straws to see who goes first.