I am just finding out now, at 61, that some of my friends are racist. "Simmering racism" is what I call it; where they do not believe that they are racist but demand that (pick a culture depending where you live) people from India speak English when they are out and about with their friends, for example, or, if they move into my friend's neighbourhood, that they leave all their culture and customs back in their home country. I'd blame it on Trump's administration normalizing racism, but we are in Canada and are affected, granted, but not as much, by his hate.
Did I choose my friends poorly 40 years ago? How did I not know all these years about this? They can't have suddenly become racists, can they have? I am devastated.
Do you have similar stories about finding out that your friends are racist?