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I recently posted about losing one of my cat family,and,got very little response. I have noticed that intellectual posts tend to get more response than emotional ones. Why, I am wondering? Honestly, I felt disappointed, but,maybe that is just normal here? Should I stick to technical stuff here? Just curious,since I am relatively new.

mike1951 6 Dec 23

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I have a colony of strays in my neighborhood that I feed and water twice a day. Some let me pet them. Some run from me every time they see me. I live on a busy street. Inevitably they get in the street and I have to deal with their little bodies. It hurts me EVERY TIME, whether I got to pet them or not. Life is fleeting. Dogs, cats, humans, everything. It hurts to lose loved ones. Even furry loved ones. They have lives.

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I'm very sorry for your loss and not seeing your post.

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I don't recall seeing it, or I'm quite sure I would have responded.

Having lost a bunch myself, I send heartfelt condolences.

Those little beings get deep into our hearts, and leave such a void when they go ...

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I didn't see it. I would have replied! My old cat is laying by my side as I write this, and I know her end is near. It's torture. There are a lot of people who don't understand the depth of grief that comes with the loss of a pet, but I do. I wish I'd seen your post and offered you support.

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Hi Mike, first let me express my condolences to the loss of your beloved cat. I, too, didn't see your post, and it's possible that it wasn't selected to be in the main feed when admin curated the multitude of daily posts. Not all posts make the main feed. I can understand your disappointment in the lack of replies. Losing a pet can be heartwrenching. hug

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I am another one who missed your post. I am a cat person also (we have two plus a third 'just visiting'😉. We have lost many cats over the years, and it is always a very sad occasion, especially that last trip to the vet's. I hope whatever glitch it was that caused so few of us to see your post, it will not cause you to leave our group — please stick around.

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Sorry, man, I didn’t see it either. probably timing of the post - don’t take it personally. My dad’s piece of wisdom is that, the worst thing about cats is they don’t live as long as people. It really sucks to lose a pet. I’m very sorry for your loss.

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Didn't see the post, either, partner. All I can say is that I'm sorry to hear that. I've lost 3 dogs and 5 cats where I live. Coyotes, rattle snakes, and traffic. Hurts every time, but life goes on.

I care for them, but I refuse to be their jailer. I have a cat here that stays in the house, but it is his choice. The door is open (cat door) if he wants to go out, but he never has.

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Hey man, also didn't see the post,
I am a cat person, (also dogs) and have more animals than people in my world,
so do feel for you,
Hopefully kitty had a long and happy life, we outlive them a few times over, makes for lots of heartache.

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I'm sorry, I didn't see your original post about losing your pet. I am sorry about your loss.

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I didn't see it. I lost a fur baby who helped me deal with my wife's death so I relate to your loss.

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I didn't see the cat post. So sorry that you lost a fur baby. I recently lost one myself (my dog Jaz). It hurts to say goodbye 😟.

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I’m sorry you lost your cat. My cat and I have been together for 11years. That relationship is one of the longest that I’ve ever had.

I knew I could count on you.

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I never saw it and I would be devestated if anything happened to my cat. I lost his brother to the great outdoors three years ago. We have all kinds of posts here. Keep trying.

just call me cat lady lol

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It's because I wasn't here. OHMYGAWD, I am so sorry about your cat. How old was he or she. It's horrible to lose one, I wish I was there with you. They're so beautiful and loving, get another one as soon as possible. Unfortunately, Texas Politics is keeping me from being a Cat Lady full time, Trump hasn't helped that either. Cat ladies rock. Sorry about your baby, get another one. When one has a heart full of love ... put it somewhere I say.

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Hi mike1951,

Received your reply to my message responding to the recent loss of your cat. I'm 73 years old and I don't much give a damn what people think about my feelings about animals. I am just as educated as most other people and if they just want to post intellectual posts . . . let them! I'm new to this website too and I want to have the freedom to talk about whatever is on my mind at any given time. If people don't respond, who cares! However, I must admit that I am a native New Yorker, so I may have a different attitude then other people. I don't live in New York City anymore. I live in "mellow" Arizona, but I guess I still haven't lost my NYC attitude. Write what you want and just don't have any expectations.

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I think that most people in an online community feel more comfortable in an intellectual conversation rather than in an emotional one. It's easy to have an intellectual conversation with people you've never met, but emotionally, it takes more time to get comfortable with people, especially online.

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Hello mike1951. I am an atheist and also a strong animal lover. I am sorry to hear about the loss of your cat. I have had many dogs and cats and losing one never gets any easier. I am usually quiet devastated at their loss. Only true animal lovers can understand the emotions we feel for our animal companions. I believe that one can be an intellectual type and also have strong emotions for all creatures that we share our planet with. I am 73 years old and currently have a rescue ex-racer greyhound who lost one of her back legs due to an accident on the track. She is a loving, wonderful companion to me. I live in Arizona and after much public outcry against greyhound racing, our state legislature finally banned greyhound racing forever in the state of Arizona! Unfortunately, my beloved Ashley had her racing accident before the state ban. If you feel like writing about your loss, I would be glad to listen and respond.

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I fear I did not see your post, but I understand how you feel, being a dog-lover who has lost loved dogs.

Best wishes.

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post what you want my friend

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This is the first that I have heard of this topic. I am on this site throughout most days, since I am currently on vacation. I most certainly would have replied as my cats are precious to me. I am not sure that your message got posted where most would see it.

Such loss is excruciating. Please feel free to send me a message if you could use a sympathetic ear.

Zster Level 8 Dec 23, 2017
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Having read most of the other comments on your post, it is obvious many of us did not see the post in a timely manner, if at all. I don't check in every day so....anyway, I am sorry for your loss. Pets are our friends, our family. I wish you well.

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I like all kinds of animals and feel loss when they pass, some much more than others. I didnt notice your post and in the past few days have noticed the board being slow. I wonder if some posts are just not making it on the board. Thanks for sharing your personal life. If I had seen it I would have responded

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Didn't see it... But even if I did I would have probably not replied. I'm sorry for your loss, however. I tend to avoid emotional posts not because technical is more relevant , but because for some of us struggling with our own demons it may not be the best time or place to open up and let this in. May I suggest a support group perhaps? General message boards are not always the best place if you have immediate need of emotional support

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I am sorry for your loss. Our pets are like family. Where I used to work, people could take some time off for the loss of a pet. I have lost pets too and I know how you feel.

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