Usually insight and the willingness to listen. Sometimes it is ironic humor, dry wit, or some obtuse esoteric piece of information that no one has heard about before and doesn't really care about. This all means that my friends prefer the quiet introspective me that shows up at times.
I am always doing all the cooking and hosting....and I have a crazy memory for trivia and other information about a wide variety of topics so sometimes they treat me like a walking "wikipedia"....but mostly everyone wants me to proofread/edit their reports, letters, research, etc.
Fun fact: I made ton of money in college writing research papers for people for $25 to $50 a page with a guarantee of a B+ or better or full refund. I never had to give anyone their money back.
I’m a planner. I make sure we know where we’re going, what time, if we need reservations, coordinate carpools/public transport, grab the tix, etc.
I’m also an a great person to go out to dinner with, provided your vegetarian, as I’m more than happy to share lots of stuff so we all get to taste everything.
I am the non-drinker. And still able to do drunk stuff. Back in the 90's during the tail hunting days in Crete, I was called by some the "Pope" by my ability to communicate with foreigners and strangers, my expanded database about the world from art history and architecture to communism and musical taste. To others I was NightHawk. All nighter type. I was ruthless but effectjve. I could write "love letters". I can listen to any type of music except rap or hip hop. I could dance anything. I can stay up all night. The group will find use for me. Errr... you didn't said nothing about orgies right?