I have done a ton of that back in my day. Sometimes, I called, sometimes they called.
But honestly getting older I really just don't care about that kind of thing any more. I've never been one much for having to be in a relationship any way, although I've had quite a few. But most of the time I like to spend my time on my my own, or with some friends.

I would have a fwb, if the option was there.

I don't like superficial connections, and foreplay begins with the mind and conversation. Before I became poly, I was far more inclined to be in a monogamous relationship or have some kind of arrangement with one close friend than to engage in meaningless sex with strangers. The initial time period of getting to know each other, flirting, playing cat and also cat, that's so much fun and it creates a slow smolder that grows and crackles and then there are moments where things almost happen and then finally there's just that moment where it all ignites. And you don't really get that when the process of first introduction to sex takes less than six hours. I'm also a part of the D/s subculture and the only thing more important than compatibility of tastes is very clear open communication and well-negotiated consent guidelines, so forthright honesty is of highest priority.

No, it's too superficial. If I want that, I'll go to work. Outside of work, I want something more meaningful. And sex is only one part of that. Not a very big part, either.

Casual sex was great until my 30s. Then one morning i woke up and couldn't remember who i'd slept with the night before.

I don't drink so it was my inner monitor who was disgusted with me and then hiotting me with temporary amnesia, a wake-up call in fact. At that point it was easy for me to stay celibate for a couple of years to reevaluate my life and my values.

I realized that without a loving relationship, i was and am no longer interested in having casual sex like we used to on all those 'one night stands'. I needed the emotional connections beyond the physical, instant gratifications. I didn't lose the drive, just regained control of my hormone-generated compulsions when i was tempted, and i often was, and still am.

Because, believe it or not, many seniors who missed them the first time for whatever reasons are now experimenting with a 60s style sexual revolution. The levels of STDs among seniors proves it.

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But i've been there, done that, and got the tee shirts, so there's no need for me to re-live those wild times; i can do so whenever i want through all those glorious memories, and i do so regularly. (with the help of some great Polaroids too )

I'm not interested.

I have, and I have no problems with it. So long as both parties know what they are getting in to and accept the potential risks.

I've tried it, it's just not me. Just feels empty. I don't have to be in a committed relationship, but at least someone I trust and feel a connection with. And yes, it's very important that we are both upfront and honest about our intentions, otherwise it can really get messed up. So, in the interim, that would be okay on occasion. But Ideally I would like a loving and meaningful relationship, and if I had that then even the thought of something casual would be non-existent.

I have been party too the occasional booty call, sometimes I am ok with it other times I feel used. I guess if its mutual and both parties have the understanding of what's going on and are mature enough to handle it I don't see a problem with it. Some times it is nice to let loose with no expectations and knowing you aren't going to emotionally hurt someone.

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I prefer to be in a relationship. It makes kissing more meaningful. However, I'm not adverse to a mutual agreement to have sex just to keep us safe. After going two months without sex my brain doesn't function right and I'm liable to do something stupid. So far I've only had one sex partner. Again I rather be in a relationship. Sex is so much sweeter.

My right hand can only get me so far?. Yap. I do have those one nighters. As for regret, I feel I'm too emotionally unavailable for it to get to those levels. I'd not really call it using if we are both on the same page.

I spent a long time kind of being anti booty call or FWB. But since all of my attempts to have relationships failed, i have been more inclined to do the FBW (friends with benefits) thing. I have my own Hobbies, my friends fulfill my social and emotional support needs, and i love my alone time. So the more casual no strings attached relationship is right up my alley. I don't think it's for everyone it's not a one-size-fits-all kind of thing, but i do think there is a place for it. Now I want to also say that there is a big difference between booty call and FWB, booty call is definitely more physical and less mental. my dilemma is that I'm demisexual and i need to a least like someone insides before i like their outsides unfortunately so my hookups have some strings attached. But I think if there is set parameters and some honesty I think it could be absolutely a fulfilling connection physically and mentally.

Have and would. Never mislead.

I couldn’t do a one night stand or a booty call with someone I didn’t know. Be sure and be safe. I’m sexually attracted and turned on by an intelligent man, so there would have to be a friendship established before the opportunity of sex arose. As long as there was a meeting of the minds, no one was going to get emotionally hurt and there was a mutual understanding that this would be a temporary arrangement, why not?

Intercourse would be welcomed into the equation once I actually got to know the woman first, to determine how compatible we are.

I have had a few FWB's before. All 3 times, the intentions behind our arrangement was made clear from the start. I'm an extremely honest and blunt person, for better or worse. In the case of my last one, before we began hooking up I straight out told her, "Don't get feelings for me". The first two were both married, so I wasn't concerned.
Having said all that... Yes. I prefer to have sex with someone I'm committed to. It makes most things feel better. You already have that established trust and relationship to fall back on.

This hits too close to home for me. That's all I can say right now.

I haven't got my first yet. So I can't relate. Lol

I have. I don't know if I would do it again, though. I find that it's easier for me to get into sex when I have some sort of connection. I wouldn't say I felt regret but I didn't like the experience as much as I do when I know and trust someone. I did make my intentions known and didn't use them. I don't see the point in that.

A one night stand does not necessarily mean someone is "used" as you call it. It can be that, or not. If there is lying, deception etc. then yes of course. But often times both parties are willing to give it a go to at least some degree. If that's it, that's it. And if you don't want to, don't. It's one thing to be lied to. It's another to be naive or weak-willed.

Not my preference BTW, like most if not all I prefer more of a connection.

I don't wouldn't won't but that's a kinda rule iv given myself

I have done a couple of times but it's not as though willing participants are queuing round the block. I didn't feel regret and as far as I'm aware we both enjoyed it, it was what it was....a shag.

I have done in the past but wouldn't now. I'm finding as I get older that sex is far less important to me than it once was. These days a woman's musical skills are as important to me (probably more) than her sexual skills
I don't recall feeling bad about casual sex encounters in the past -but they were often drug/alcohol fuelled. I think I used to be fairly open about my long term intentions but probably those discussions never happened as we had other things on our minds. I certainly did use to use and be used by people.