Depending on what a person has done, I usually will seek revenge. I guess I’m just a petty person lmfao!
Nah I'm cool on revenge. But I don't believe in forgiveness either. I don't hold grudges but I do treat people according to the way they act. You only get one chance to burn me. The only thing in life I can truly control is myself and I have no problem "adjusting" as circumstances require
Sometimes .. it depends on the situation/person and to be honest, it made me feel better ? .. I'm not much for revenge served cold, I generally don't hold grudges .. If someone does something really bad, I tend cut them out of my life and no longer waste any emotional energy on them
Why, what did you do? lol but no not usually, if its something small I’ll forget it before wasting the effort, something medium, I might help karma along if I see a super convenient and legal way to do so, and if its big enough that I become obsessed with revenge then Im probably about to murder someone and refer to KK’s mantra: jail sucks. Only one time have I ever been that betrayed and angry, when I found out someone I love had been abused and I spent months angrily trying to figure out a way to get away with murder before giving up. My mild stalking of the fellow caused him to move states and I figure thats about the only semblance of a win I can expect without going to prison.
edit: I take that back I also outed him as a child molester to as many work contacts, friends and family as I could find on FB so hopefully that made his life a little harder upon movin home. Now that #metoo has happened Ive been meaning to get the word circulating about him again in his hometown. Brb looking up womens groups in atlanta lol.
Actively seeking revenge means you are planning to pull something, and shit can go wrong and leave you looking guiltier than the original perp. I prefer shunning. It's a little passive-aggressive, but you can cut the toxic individual out of your life and be a better person for the decision. Now I have fantasized about various plots to exact retribution, but I don't ever carry them out. I don't avoid people who screwed me over, but I make sure they know that I know what they did, and pointedly ignore them every chance I get. It ain't much, but that's how I work it.
No, I usually just walk away. However, I do sometimes fantasize about that revenge. But what is interesting (I just realized this) is that my fantasy always revolves around payback through Karma, which is really weird because I don't believe in Karma!
No. The best revenge is to live a happy life in spite of beign wronged. That doesn't mean you can't let others know what kind of person he/she is though, or if they wronged you by breaking the law, you can't bring them up on charges.
Act as if their wronging you doesn't really affect you, but don't be a push over either.
O don't give such a person a second chance. I don't necessarily seek revenge, but if an opportunity arises which allows me to show that person that I am a better person than they have been, I take advantage of it, and relish having the opportunity. That is sweeter than raw revenge.
I usually look at the cost of whatever I lost as worth the knowledge of what that person is and that I don’t have to have them in my life anymore.
That being said, it doesn’t make the betrayal or hurt any less painful. Not saying it’s easy. It still bubbles up at times, but over time the waves come less often and less intensely. I just don’t think I could ever waste my time and energy on someone that is no longer worth my time and energy.
Will my inaction lead to further such events, say in case it was a colleague I was wronged by (can't let that slide).
How much efforts would I need to put in to make it happen. If it requires any form of physical labor, I'm out.
Does the person carry the capacity to make or break my life, if yes then it's an elaborate plot and not just mere revenge.
Got me a criminal record for my revenge. But I don't regret it at all. After what she did the public embarrassment I doled out was a mild revenge. Family courts didn't care for it even though it should have been considered protected speech. It opened my eyes to the fraud that is our system of justice.
Being capricious is not in my nature, but grudges are good for holding, Lol. Seriously though, despite my stature, I prefer to be the bigger person when needed and if the wrong is large enough I just cut them out of my life as much as I can.
Now a Comical situation would be different.