I've mostly just called her by her first name since I met her, but now my wife wants me to call her "mom". I'm not quite comfortable with that, though, because I love calling my own mother that.
Thoughts?
I've never been married so I can't speak from experience, but here's how I think I'd respond in your stead: “I want to have a close relationship with your mother and I really do feel close to her, but ‘Mom’ is reserved for the woman who spent so many years providing for me and caring for me and bringing me up to be the man I am today. I mean no disrespect, but I'm just not comfortable calling anyone else ‘Mom.’”
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Dead. When she was still alive, I called her Virginia and Mom. Loved that woman a bundle and a half.
My mom calls her mil mom. So does my aunt.
Its just the way my family is.
When I was engaged, my fiances mother I called mom, and father I called papito.
I guess it just depends on how close you are.
Even my dad calls my grandma mom
But for some reason everyone besides me and mom called my papa "steve" lol
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That's the term I was looking for (X2).
Dead! She has been gone quite a few years now, but she was the coldest of women when she was alive. I called her mother when she was alive as that is what my husband called her. My own mother was always Mum.
In the beginning , if I was speaking with my boyfriend , I'd say , your Mom . Or if speaking to someone else , his Mom . Occasionally , by her name . By the time we'd separated , I was working at purging her from my mind altogether . I can remember later , when I found out she'd died , sitting at my desk singing in my mind , "Ding dong the witch is dead , which old witch , the wicked witch ."
I hereby apologize to all witches . I actually enjoy witches . They are wise , intelligent , and often self educated .
Generally I called my inlaws by their first names. They were kind of standoffish, and the daughters in law were not on the same level as the sons.
When I was married I called her by her first name once and my husband laughed and laughed at me. I thought I got her name wrong! Apparently I was supposed to call her Mrs. So-and-so. Um, no - I was not comfortable with that so I just avoided addressing her in any way for 20 years lol.
Here in the south, the I regularly hear "Miss So and So" for any female elder - including in-laws. My friend has been married for about 30 years and still calls and refers to her mother-in-law as "Miss Susan." My ex has five siblings. All his siblings-in-law call the mom "Ma Mary" or "Miss Mary." I called her Mary.
I call her Karen. It's been 18 years, I don't see that changing.