I've mostly just called her by her first name since I met her, but now my wife wants me to call her "mom". I'm not quite comfortable with that, though, because I love calling my own mother that.
Thoughts?
I called my in laws by their first names. My husband called my mom, "mom", sin e he loved her like a mom. I was never that close with my in laws, and would not have been comfortable calling them mom and dad. I think if you are uncomfortable with it, it will feel forced and awkward for all involved. I would stick with their first names.
I call her by her first name or grandma first name because of the kids.
I posted about this yesterday, but on reflection now she has been dead since 2004, I think I will give full vent to what I feel, and call her what I wanted to when she was alive. OLD BAG!! Wow that felt good! ? ?
JABBA the hut in private
My mil has disdained me since I got married. She has tried to poisonn me to both of my own children and to their partners. She in now 85 and it hasn't changed. I no longer go with my wife on social visits.
The jabba the hut is beacause she has gained so much weight she looks like jabba.
My favorite story is when my children were very young we were all in our minivan driving to the mountains. My 5 year old son exclaimed that hey that building has a plus sign on it! I was quite happy he new his math , she became histrionic that her poor unbaptized grandson was going to hell. Love that boy.
I don't have one (and don't want one!), but I had a cousin who didn't get along with the mom-in-law. The nicest thing he came up with was either "malicious old dragon" or "adipose harridan who broke every broomstick she tried to ride." Why do I have the sneaking suspicion that they didn't get along?
Mama Toni. She died when our daughter was eight. That was a relief.
A narcissistic, critical and controlling women, we never let her babysit our daughter.
"You are not family," she told me. Cruel.
Yes that's bad
I always knew when my mother in law was visiting. The mice used to throw themselves on the traps.
I’ve always been happy to call mine Mom. She’s pretty damn awesome.
It’s ok to call more than one person mom, but it’s up to you to do what feels right to you. If it’s not genuine, you shouldn’t be pressured to call her that. If there is some other nickname that you both feel comfortable with, maybe ther is a compromise to be made, but first names should be fine.
I won’t say how I referred to my former MIL ?.
Dead now, but I only called her by her first name. She wanted to be “Mom,” but I never felt the emotional tie.
You just don't throw "mom" around.