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Are you an example for people around you?

If you're in an area where most people Believe, do they see you as an anomaly?
"(S)He's one of those!"
Do you think they comprehend more about non-belief by knowing you?
Do you feel pressure to be a good example?
Are you honored to demonstrate that a person does not need a mythological threat in order to be a good person?

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We may never know the effect we have another people, but the repercussions of our actions goes on far behond what we might think.


I try to be nice to every one I meet.
I volunteer at a homeless shelter.
I try to learn something new every day.
I have some great friends, some are believers, some are not. but we all respect each other for the people that we are, not by what we believe in.

I'm not sure if any one pays attention to me, so I don't know if I set an example or not.
But it doesn't really mater, I am who I am, and I like the person I am.

You set an excellent example, and that is something people always notice.


Everyone is an example for people around you, for good or bad, for right or wrong, for true or false, like it or not.

jlynn37 Level 8 Sep 25, 2018

What this guy said! ☝☝☝


I'm an upstanding oddity.

Truth ; )


If I can't be an example I hope at least to be warning.

Tompain1 Level 7 Sep 25, 2018

I ride a bicycle to work.


First, for the initial question: Yes, I am an example for people around me. It is strongly suggested they not emulate the example I set. smile007.gif

As for the comments that followed, no, I feel no pressure. Yes, occasionally my presence has a positive or negative effect depending on circumstance. I have noticed the backing away from the heathen reaction a few times, but that involved the proverbial door-knockers with whom I love to engage in conversation. I must admit to getting an almost sexual gratification in watching them squirm and struggle to find the words they need.


Don't know and don't care. I do what I do. If you like what I do and want to go along, fine. If not, find your own road. I learned a long time ago that the only person I have to impress is me.

Yogisan Level 7 Sep 25, 2018

I was once called a curmudgeon (by a woman after I complained about a minister saying our group should pray for some islands in Micronesia being flooded due to sea level rise). Does that count?

Absolutely. Count as what, I have no idea.


How I am perceived by others doesn't concern me how I perceive myself concerns me.
I act the way I do For it is not an act.

oldFloyd Level 7 Sep 25, 2018

I'm just out here trying to be a decent human being.
What other people think of me is none of my business.

KKGator Level 9 Sep 25, 2018

I try to be


An example for honesty and integrity. Yes. An example of sometimes being TOO honest and speaking my piece TOO vocally...most definitely.

Clauddvon Level 7 Sep 26, 2018

I do feel like I’m a good example. I’ve been told that at work several times. As a result I often feel that “difficult “ patients are routed my way.
As far as being a “good atheist example “. My coworkers dismiss my non-belief and make comments like “I know one day you’ll be called”. ? I allow this because I don’t want to argue so I guess I’m not.

BeccaVa Level 7 Sep 26, 2018

I try to live an honorable life. I meet people all the time who I get to be friends with, but I don't tell them I am atheist/pagan, but, usually they figure it oit. By the time they find out, we are friends, they know my ways, and it is a non issue. I'm not saying I never talk about it, but usually it is because I don't celebrate Christian holidays and I am asked about it. I have no problem telling people I am atheist/pagan, but I usually let it come up from my friend, and not from my bringing it up.


I had a landlord ask if I was a Christian. I had spent a considerable amount of time with the lonely old fellow and he enjoyed listening to the bible on tape, drinking sweet tea, and telling stories. I told him no, but he told me i was. I told a young woman I was listening to Sam Harris but i had heard her express her beliefs and warned her he was a vocal atheist. She told me there was no such thing as an atheist. I've heard that a second time recently, it must be coming from a pulpit somehwere lol. It seems like they think they credit far too much morality to their voodoo.


I live in a super small town but its still not small enough that I feel Ive got the word out about who I am or what I don't believe or anything; other than family and friends I can't imagine who would know. I don't have any bumper stickers or t shirts (yet) that would give anyone reason to know any relevant labels for my beliefs. I wouldnt care who knew either, but theres no obvious identifiers. Dont really care what most people think of me if they do know, except that professionally I hope my reputation as fair honest and hardworking precede me.

Wurlitzer Level 8 Sep 25, 2018

There is no replacement for reputation.

@CallMeDave true dat, its my impulsive nature to always be honest I don't think I could help it if I wanted to. My bosses always seem to be intimidating guys who know they can rattle anyone but Im always the only one in the company not afraid to tell them the truth and speak up for myself if Im bein fussed at for something I can't help and I think they both highly respect it and become bemused by it at once lol. Honestys always the best policy. If you know the name of an honest mechanic or in my case IT guy theyre worth their weight in gold.

@Wurlitzer I'm a carpenter and now I think I should put on a few pounds, and charge more. (-;


No. I just live my life. They can see me out there in the world not raping or murdering or robbing banks or being a litter bug and make whatever they want out of it. Or not. I don't care.

GwenC Level 7 Sep 25, 2018

I am glad to hear there is one more person not littering. And the rest.


I'm pretty outspoken about my lack of belief in a supernatural deity. As a humanist wedding minister, I usually am "preaching to the choir" for work, as my wedding clients are usually also non-believers, though their guests or wedding participants are often of mixed faiths.

So, through my work in delivering inspiring ceremonies, touting personal responsibility in upholding their vows, and reminding them that the success of their marriage is in their hands, by not mentioning God, a humanistic theme is presented and hopefully inspires the believers to understand that humans are responsible for themselves, regardless of a belief in deities.

Socially, most of my friends are non-believers, though just not so outspoken about it as me. When we have a believer among us, and the conversation turns to religion, as it did last night, at a full moon gathering on the beach, the dialog is brutally honest, yet non-offensive, and I noticed the believer on my left just listened quietly, knowing she was outnumbered, yet still respected all of us who were non-believers, as it's obvious we all had come to our positions thoughtfully and intelligently. Her best friend, who was not present, is also an atheist, so she might eventually come around, hehe.

At home, at my condo complex, I'm surrounded by religious folks who know I'm atheist. The climate of disrespect toward me is slowly changing for the better, but slowly, slowly. There are still some folks who consider anything I say to be a lie, because I'm atheist, so in their minds I can't possibly be telling the truth. I have been mistreated by the board members of the homeowners association in the past, but as the board members slowly get changed out, I have hope that things will continue to improve. I try to set a good example with honesty and kindness. Eventually the truth will win out over the believers who have demonized me for so long.

Happy to be a champion for showing a humanistic viewpoint in a good light as best I can. I think I have turned a lightbulb on in some believers minds, to change their prejudice against non-believers. I do it in a respectful way. I remember being a believer (maybe when I was 6 or 7) so I try to honor that part of the people I'm talking with, while turning on the light that people can be good without belief in God too!

Julie808 Level 7 Sep 25, 2018

I find great joy when "theists" thank me for helping them see the light of reason over the darkness of superstition.

For most, It takes a very very long time.

On the flip side, I also feel pity for those stuck in the quagmire of faith and dogma. So terribly sad.


I'm not in that part of the country where people ask impertinent, intrusive questions about your personal beliefs. By the time they find out I'm a godless bastard, they don't really believe it because their snap judgment of me is that I'm a good, kind person of integrity, and therefore, must be religious like them. It's a known scientific fact that people stubbornly keep their snap judgments even after evidence proves them wrong. I use that to good advantage smile009.gif

mordant Level 8 Sep 25, 2018

By this means we could alter many people's perceptions of what it is to be godless.

Yes, when they our they are surprised. Then, I'm surprised at their surprise. After all, it makes perfect sense to me.


Well, I don't litter, jaywalk, smoke, or curse (too much!) I get along with people who have different views than I do. I generally play well with others.


Yes, I do my best to live with concern for others, caring about my environment and I make every effort to leave things better than They were when I arrived. Most folks don't ask or care about my religious preference. I live without fear and take people at face value unless they show me otherwise.

Dwight Level 7 Sep 25, 2018

We're all examples wherever we are.

Yeah, but examples of what?

@Donotbelieve Anything and everything.

Sir Charles said it best:


I lead an honest life, so, yes. I am living proof gods are unnecessary.

MLinoge Level 7 Oct 1, 2018

I try to extend this to people but they’re so goddamn brainwashed that it’s no use

snifflz Level 7 Sep 29, 2018
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