How did he arrive at that figure? If they convinced him it was tithing it won't be the last time. 10% of your income belongs to God, they feel, every paycheck. And no, your weekly offering when they pass the plate doesn't come out of that either - two separate things.

I’d cancel payment with your bank, then have an incredibly ugly fight with the husband.

Your husband was irresponsible ,but I agree with you that you should go to the church and inform them of your medical bills and try and get the money back. This is better than doing nothing.At least you tried .

Even though it is your husbands fault you have nothing to loose by going to the church and attempting to get your money back and telling them about your medical bills etc

I don't like churches and their money-grabbing ways - but if your husband GAVE THE MONEY then your issue isn't with the church, it's with your husband.

It's also a matter of trust. A wife who cannot trust her husband is in a very difficult, perhaps irrepairable, possition.

Do something better...stop the check.

it's not the churches fault it's your stupid husbands. sounds like he did it before too. sounds like a deal breaker to me.

It is not the church's fault....it is your husband! Place the blame where it belongs!

If it was some Nigerian prince or if it was someone squeezing money out of an 85 year old woman, people would be on your side. Even if we pretend that the church is different than that, there's the pretense of caring for their parishioners where they should already know what problems people are having and should be caring for their sheep. If you are giving anyone a piece of your mind, I'd give it to your husband and the church at the same time. Perhaps a conversation with the pastor and your husband about your problems would be useful? I'm not advocating anger and screaming, but a candid discussion

I agree with some of the comments here. You can't solve the problem that is between you and your husband by complaining to the church. Your post indicated this is a recurring problem with him and there is probably more to the story. You either will have to have control over the finances, get counseling, or at worst consult a lawyer about your options. I truly hope you can find a solution to this problem before it gets any worst.

You can try to get it back... he is an adult though. You will have to sue your husband. Or just divorce him... . That may save you in the long run... good luck...

Talk to a lawyer. To me that's grounds for Divorce. Could be "Hush Money" for a "me too" fucked up.

His money his choice, asking for it back is certainly not a wise thing to do as it will create conflict between you and your husband

Run bambi (forrrest) run

Church did nothing otehr than what churches do, I would be tearing your hubby a new one if I were you.

I be raising hell with your husband? Not the church unless they hire goons or leg breakers? Oh unless you husband is easily led on due to some condition? In which case get the money back.

My first thought was "I wonder how much he actually gave them? " And the next thought was "I wonder what he did with the rest of the money/"