Be realistic and honest are things like wealth more essential to you for a happy future than, looks/personality/charisma, etc.?
i am engaged to a person who has no more money than i do, which is none. we both have health problems; we're not looking forward to a happy future. he is handsome to me but i realize he isn't handsome to the world. his alzheimer's is robbing him of his personality. charisma? ha! so why are we engaged? because we LOVE each other.
Someone who won't be boring because they are always learning and engaging with others and having experiences that contribute to the relationship and conversation each day. This requires a level of intelligence for me.
Looks will fade over time, but the desire for human touch, kisses, and other forms of affection should last until your dying breath.
Realistically, being independent...in finances and the ability to care for yourself in daily life. I want someone who wants me, not needs me. There is a difference.
Someone who gets and appreciates me....not who they want me to be. Wealth is good but not necessary....just sayin'. And looks. They are important too and health insurance and a car and not living on the street's, and ....oh shit...no wonder I am still single
High IQ, high EQ for starters. Not possessive. Domestic. Passionate about his interests. Inclusive. Friendly. Compassionate. A friend as well as a lover. Loyal. And chemistry of course. The kind of relationship where humor is involved, always. I need a guy I can banter with.
That they don’t have another one or two tucked away somewhere. It happened to my cousin. She married a trooper in the Household Cavalry. He already had a wife and two kids about 100 miles away. She and the other wife became great friends, as did their children. Soldier boy lost his honourable discharge (he was still in the army when he did the deed), his pension rights, and stayed at one of Her Maj’s secure hostelries for a bit less than a year. He had no right of access to his kids, not that they wanted him to, and had a portion of his income (he has a successful up market chauffering business) garnished for maintenance until they were adults. I do go on!