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Is it possible to fall in love with someone with opposing political views?

Is it possible to fall in love with someone with opposing political views? I was asked this question today and found it rather difficult to answer and dependent upon the definition of 'love'.

Grumpy 5 Nov 22
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As long as they're not a trump supporter.

I've tried to avoid any reference to politics in Trumpland. Here in Northern Ireland we have our own political madness.

That's for sure! I was there this summer and northern Ireland is fucked up. Interesting history and sites, but talk about government control and propaganda.

I’d have a lot more trouble putting up with a Obama/Hillary supporter than a Trump supporter.

@Trajan61 , That's strange coming from from someone who lives in a town called Clinton.

@chucklesIII Despite the name it’s a very conservative town and Trump carried it handily.

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I find interesting that diversity and inclusion is a big chunk of a side of the aisle on the political spectrum, everything but one thing. How inclusive that really is?

@Veteran229 how can we get out of this viscious circle?

@Veteran229 there has to be a better way

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No.

James Carville&Mary MatLin have 2 children she worked for dead 41 Prz Bush and he 4 the Clintons

@GreenAtheist Thank you. I couldn't remember Carville and Matalin's names.

@ailurophile she is condescending in public at least towards her little boy while he always has a skowl face .....can't say they look like they're in love but a divorce would be world news.....Billary was a Goldwater girl in her teens and Willie protégé of Fulbright& a grand wizard. .....

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My mother was a Southern Baptist Republican and my dad was an athiest socialist and I never heard them even have cross words with one another until I was 18. I was so shocked when dad raised his voice a bit at mom I feared a divorce was imminent but that was the last of it (at least in the presence of us kids) until they got old and mom had to nag dad to basic tasks when he would forget. We had as happy a house as anyone I ever heard of. They had been married over 60 years when dad died. It is possible as this illustrates but I don't think I could have done it.

I had a similar situation growing up.

My late husband was not of my political ilk, but we surpassed that. Now, decades later, I'd have to say I don't think I could stomach a staunch believer (practicing whatever) or a Trump supporter. A conservative, yes. A Trump supporter, not on your life. When my youngest daughter told me she thought she'd met the man of her dreams, she also told me he was religious. She was worried that might effect my opinion. I told her no, but that if he was a Trump supported, that would be a deal breaker. She laughed out loud. 🙂

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Its certainly possible, but may not be wise.

Is peacemaking unwise with our oppressors? I see many women in bad marriages so why do they marry ?

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I think it's possible for me as long as the person is kind and compassionate. I have a very divided family politically and nastiness can come from both sides really, but so can kindness, humility, and compassion. I've dated on both sides of the isle. But there does need to be a level of compatibility for small differences to work.

Margaret Sanger American Atheist when she died married decades before rich baptist businessman who adored her every move PLANNED PARENTHOOD INTERNATIONAL

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It's possible to be romantically attracted to anyone with whom you have that base-level chemistry. But once that starts to fizzle and reality settles in, I think that for the most part, you have to be bound by similar values and ethics—morals, if you will. Political affiliation used to not be so closely aligned with core values. In fact, there was a time when the only difference between Republicans and Democrats was that the former were more fiscally conservative—it was just business. Times have indeed changed.

I suppose it's possible to spend a life with someone, as long as you were in a highly traditional, gender-roled marriage in which the little missus kept her mouth shut about such things and voted the way her husband voted, regardless of how she felt about it. But for couples who marry because they love each other ...?

I don't see how it would be possible for me to love someone who chortled and thumbs-upped after a seven-year-old Guatemalan child died in U.S. custody. Or who championed illegal, destructive, racist behavior by the leaders of our land.

I've always felt for a couple to last, they must have a similar value base. It will affect every part of their lives.

Margaret Sanger married a baptist businessman he just adored her and paid for her plane tickets building up PLANNED PARENTHOOD INTERNATIONAL....she belonged to American Atheists the day she died and she drank champagne in her deathbed when Bill Baird won of his cases

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I would consider it unthinkable to be with someone who supports Trump and all his conman ways, so my answer would probably be no. I couldn’t deal with the ignorance

TrumpOLINI deserves all our scorn HE IS A tiny fingered tiny penis tangerine Shitgibbon but our nation is under attack by billionaires and illegal aliens ....I am just one of thousands of victims of illegal aliens crimes destroying my truck and home....who will fall in love with a homeless American Atheists leader with 2 service cats in the dead of winter in Iowa where I was born ? The illegal aliens have my home job and police protection ruled by RethuglicanRepublocrats HORRY and CHARLESTON COUNTIES building tourist high rise condos busting unions paying half union wages....

@GreenAtheist I gather you don't like the Narcissus in Chief, the man with no plan except to back those billionaires with a tax cut that only benefits them.

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What does fall in love mean....lust or admiration? I is possible to fall in love with anybody. It may however be difficult to sustain a relationship for a good length of time if aspects of your life, politics, religion food etc are not closely aligned.

Agreed

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As a democratic liberal atheist, there are certain viewpoints that, no matter what, I would never find attractive (pro-life, anti-lgbtqi+, etc.). I don't mind listening to or befriending someone with those viewpoints, but I just would not be able to see them in a positive light in terms of dating.

This is an excellent summary of my viewpoints as well.

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I don't care about political views, as long as I'm getting laid, a person can believe whatever they want to.

Sorry it cool for you but a persons character is important to me “ you have to have heart”

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Yes but I'll admit, if I were single, I might not marry my husband again.

I am single seeking a mate who values a shared global peace musical green tech vision

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Yes it is, but you are building an inherently problematic aspect into the relationship. Kind of like dating someone who doesn’t want kids when you do. You can be in love, but there is a built in conflict

Myah Level 6 Dec 1, 2018

Most Atheists are in mixed marriages and this is proof love conquers political/theocratic challenges. ...our species is NURTURANT we're hardwired to love and cuddle....voting booths are not bedrooms nor maternity wards

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I think it depends on the issue and on how extreme the views are.

Agreed

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I'd rather not.

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What does caring about someone to the point of falling in love with that person have to do with their politics??? In choosing a partner I might consider first their skepticism and agnosticism (that is their willingness to question all things and reconsider their stance when presented with new information). My politics are very different than they were some years ago. Life is a process. Our positions can change as we change. Why shut out someone you might have something really good with?????? If I were at polar opposite sides of the spectrum with my partner I would appreciate her individuality and the fact that she has convictions and a well considered worldview. Its not about a position, its about a person?.

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No. I want a man who shares my values.

Carville & Matlin have 2 children and she talks down to him like an errant little boy. ...politics makes strange bedfellows. ...spies sleep with the enemy. ...it's a political skill....Cokie&Steve Roberts Huey Long Catholic and Jewish reporter lead parallel xmas&hannukka lives. ...we all get what we want from who agrees to love

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I started really liking someone and when I realized they were not on my side it kinda messed with my feelings. I say NO. We simply didn't think alike.

I have been betrayed so many times by xian women who married my bed not my head

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I'm sure I could never do it. Love has to include similar value systems.

The closer to the cutting edge of history we get POLITICS MAKES STRANGE BEDFELLOWS...this shutdown may yield Medicare4ALL if Pelosi can give up her bribes from insurance CEOs...she just lost her free ride to NATO hq in Belgium playing bluff with billionaire TrumpOLINI.....yes kids are dying on the border AND ALL 45 PRESIDENTS are racists to us Cherokee....Hoover Vice President was for decades called "injun" in Congress his DADDY British and mama KAW TRIBE....HOOVER & MRS HOOVER played Quaker missionaries while stealing gold by the boatloads for BRITISH....people sleep for money where the money is

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There are people that are able to do this. My worldveiw and values are demonstrated in the political values I have. I guess for some people that are not as passionate, it would be fine. I think the increasing polarization over the "New Guy." and crew makes it more difficult to be with someone that has opposing poltics.

I am as passionatr with the world conditon as i am making love and the coup is having both

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Not for me. I am committed to social justice, equality, and end to misogyny, racism, homophobia, inter alia. Anyone who does not share those values simply will not register for me.

Well put ... we have our neebs but sometimes there is a greater calling

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Well, I did, but his binge drinking has taken care of that !

You still hanging in there?

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This is a question that I've asked myself since I'd like to start dating again after a (soon to be) divorce. I live in WV which is a very pro-Trump state. Even though it makes for a smaller dating pool, I have realized that there is no way I could date for a Trump supporter. There just is such a fundamental disparity in world views that I just don't see how anything romantic could work out.

If an Atheist voted for TrumpOLINI their only excuse is Governor Johnson was too stoned/stupid and BILLARY is too criminal corrupt and incompetent to be prez....if an Atheist won't tell the truth about TrumpOLINI how can a lover expect the truth be told about anything else ? ....don't blame me I voted for the only competent PRESIDENT DR JILL STEIN www.jill2016.com

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Nah, at least you will have something to talk about all the time.

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My sisters husband has a different political view but they do not talk politics. It is a rule in her marriage that started after Obama was elected president.

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