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Is it possible to fall in love with someone with opposing political views?

Is it possible to fall in love with someone with opposing political views? I was asked this question today and found it rather difficult to answer and dependent upon the definition of 'love'.

Grumpy 5 Nov 22
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As a woman, no. If they think it is right that the government have any say over my bodily autonomy, then I will never respect enough to love. If they think that a persons job defines who they are, or their level of money, or their orientation, basically if they think something superficial has any bearing on another persons worth, I could never respect them enough to love them. If they want to cry 'personal responsibility' while not holding corporations responsible for their behavior, I could never respect enough to love. Nutshell, no.

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For 27 years,my late wife and I voted for opposite parties,she always said our votes canceled each other out.Politics were never discussed in our home.

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I could not date a conservative at all, probably not even a middle of the road person politically unless politics was not very important to them.

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I think you avoid that by finding those things out first.

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Yes as long as you respect each other.

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I heard that.... one may try to stay off that path but the differences will always emerge and that can be stressful. It would hard for me to make love to a woman who voted for trump for instance. Generally my libido is fine but a racist would torpedo it

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As time goes on, and the country becomes more and more polarized, such a match seems less and less likely !

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Only if you share core values though may disagree on the solution.

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Maybe harder to do in the American political environment of 2018, but possible around 2003, my ex was from the Houston suburbs, lived in the Dallas suburbs, and had views to match the culture, and I was more centrist for the time, which might as well have been liberal by Texas standards.

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Because political views kind of define the person's character I would imagine it would be difficult unless the person is open minded and able to change. So yes it's possible.

Nardi Level 7 Nov 22, 2018
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Right now I'd be more likely to date someone who identifies as religious than Republican.

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Yes, but it depends how verbal they are about it.
There is someone I won't ever take seriously because they're batshit crazy with their ideas. "Commie this, commie that" , socialism this, socialism that." So they're friendzone.

Late dh in his one issue youthful voter cluelessness voted for GW in '00. I cried.
"it's just an election" he said.
Boy did he regret it every time W opened his mouth.

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Not for me. They have to be liberal or at worst, center left. I would have no problem with a believer who didn't go to church ( and I have done that more than once ) than a conservative.

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Not for me. We need to have the same values.

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I would say it is. The hard part is to stay in love with that person of a long period of time.

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Fall in love with?....Maybe. The heart is a wild creature and often does things we don't want it to.

Marry? Nope.

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Why not? Alas if we only loved people who are similar to us...

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Of course it’s possible. But, you do need some common interests, common values and compatible habits.

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Yes.

Marz Level 7 Nov 24, 2018
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Yup. My wife is a staunch republican. I'm an independent.

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Of course it is but why would you choose to do it? How would you have respect for someone who has opposing views about things you feel strongly about? Obviously you will have some opposing views but they should not be about your core principles and values.

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Don't see why not, unless you regard their political views as morally wrong. I've broken off contact with a friend who has turned into an ethno-nationalist and therefore could not be in a relationship with someone like that but if I was with someone who believed that alcohol should be prohibited, which I don't, then it wouldn't be a major problem because I can respect their argument even though I don't agree with it. I wouldn't regard it's prohibition as being immoral, but I certainly wouldn't regard forcibly deporting non-indigenous people as in any way something I could live with.

WayT Level 1 Nov 27, 2018
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Lust maybe. Love no.

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Maybe. I'm in love with a believer that I've
known for over a year and yet have never met her. I even think she would marry me but we both might be better off not to.

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In true love, such little differences doesn't even bother, rather you enjoy all the bantering of the differences.

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