I have no idea. I don't even think about such things. Am I a jerk?

I don't think I'm as intense as everyone else seems to. Apparently, I'm quite a force to be reckoned with.

No. Thanks to an opportune constellation of happenstantial factors, the gulf is huge. Build, body language and gestures, posture, mode of speech, vocabulary, style of dress--people see more that isn't there (through their filtered glasses) than is.

Uptight and prissy, naive, innocent; conceited, superior... Oh FFS... I can't even with people. These days I don't bother.

Generally speaking, you see yourself, but most people do not really see you or even try to. What they do is judge you.

Seems I have at times been perceived as a leader - NOT. But I am a person who will speak out, unafraid. I do not think there is a big disconnect

Most people seem to think I'm nicer than I believe I am.

I'm honestly not sure. I'm a tall bearded dude, I imagine people think I'm scary, my friends know otherwise, but I have no way to gauge the average person in the street. Kids are easier to gauge, they see me and are almost immediately scared crapless. But then they warm up to me pretty quickly. I love kids so maybe I try harder with them LoL

I can't say. I don't have the most positive view of myself. Others probably have a different opinion. I don't necessarily go out of my way to as them though.

I am transparent in my real life. I am an open book. I am more so concerned with how I appear On Line verses in my Real life. How do Those people see us? That is a sea of objectivity. How well are we seen in such a space?

The same standards I list below also apply to real time relations. What is the point if we misrepresent or if we put off a different version of ourselves. They view us based on how we present ourselves. Why not line it up? I am pretty much the same person I am here as I am in real life. Other than what you miss in my physical being.

I think I am a close representation of my real self in conjunction to the person I potray myself to be on line. Naturally little subtlties are missed in text and those little nuances can enrich and bring a different level to a person, alone.

In that, I believe the person I am, verbally, and in person, is slighty different. I am much more mischivious in real life. I am a laughing, snide, joyous, positive person, real time. I hope it isn't lost in translation, but I do believe my snide humour is often misunderstood.

In that, over the net, it would be much easier for me to offend someone with the lacking of my voice or the sincerity it can convey, nor he humour or the sarcastic undertones. I am Pretty Good at picking up, naturally, on the groove of a persons communication styles and to their unique nature, but that is Not True of all readers. Hence, it coul easily become a misunderstanding.

Otherwise, I would say I try to be as True to who I am, to my beliefs and to my Core person Online as I Am Offline. I feel what is the point to this if Authenticity is lacking? Anyone can be anything and say anything at any time. It is up to You to play by the same, fair rules. It will Only be You who loses out in the end if you do Not stick to being as transparent and true to yourself in Both Worlds (online/offline).

To live any way short of that would simply be an illogical loss and waste of time. They should see us clearly as the person we portray ourselves to be, the things we claim to support and believe in. If you are viewed vastly different than your core peers see you, then... what are you doing wrong in your life? lol Who wins in the end of a bullshit trail like that?

Not in my experience. Not on a personal / emotional level anyway. On a professional level, oddly, people tend to have a somewhat OVERLY charitable view of me. But on an intimate level, hilarity quickly ensues. Predictably my professional life has been wildly successful, and my relationships have consisted of way more drama and way less connection that I would have wanted. Whether you're talking about marriage or more casual friendships.

There are so many variables in play that it'd be beyond the scope of a single reply to cover them all, but at bottom, I regard my life as a gradual realization of the fact that Other People's needs and expectations are WILDLY different to a degree I never imagined possible as a youngster. To the point that many people's perceptions and responses and needs are little more than an alien cypher to me. I have learned to grasp them at least intellectually, but find them exhausting to accommodate.

I have pretty much accepted that I'm going to die with just one person knowing / understanding / fully accepting me: and that's me. I think that in that sense, we all die as we were born and as we lived -- alone. It's just not something we like to accept; it's probably right behind the fact of our mortality on the list of things we'd rather not think about. We prefer to imagine we'll live indefinitely, and that some bright shining day, just around the next corner (or the next, or the next) is that close BFF, soulmate partner or whatever, that we've always fantasized about. Our culture obliges with all kinds of soaring ballads to these notions. But it's mostly illusory.

Nice post thanks, I think people find me weird more than anything else, I was called 'that weird child ' all the time when I was growing up. People were a bit scared of me as I was so old for my age. I understand the idea that - 'What others think and feel about me is none of my business' but I do get uneasy about how I relate to people as I had a very strange upbringing - its better all the time now I am just an 'auld doll 'soon to be 70.
I also have D.I.D (M.P.D)so have to watch that I am not triggered in a way that might upset others. I live in sheltered accommodation and people here have got used to me so I guess apart from the fact that I don't have a baldie about some of the ways some of my alters live my life for me so I suppose a shorter answer would be I'm sure when I am with someone and doubtful afterwards at times.

I know they don't but since I go to a bit of trouble to make myself look like an asshole, I can't really blame them.

Yet I do LOL

Too outspoken, laid-back, don't seem to have much of a serious side and a procrastinator, is how I've been described over the years. I think I'm misunderstood.

Big disconnect, not physically, I think people visually see me as I see myself.
I hate people in general, the average everyday Johnny Public in the street. I hate them.
One on one I try to help people, individuals I interact with become real to me and I can deal with them.People see me as kind, approachable and friendly. I am not, I just appear so.

Others seem to have extreme views of me. Some absolutely love me while others wish me dead. I tend to fall in the middle.

probably have a better opinion of me than i do, but more cuz they only see me when im doing well

I have absolutely no idea. It is something that I've always wondered about though

Only in the summer when I reveal all my tattoos.

Whenever anyone is being himself or herself and not projecting an image which they hope will please others, it is very unlikely that there will be a disconnect between self image and the perceptions of others.

My friends and I would describe me the same way-fun-loving, caring, adventurous, sexy, and loving.

People read my body language and assume I'm going to behave based on what they've deduced about my body language when it's really just temporary emotions or thoughts they are reading, and I usually end up disregarding most of my thoughts when making decisions. Like I come off as scared or weak some times because of the way I grew up, but I've learned to counteract those thoughts and emotions, so it surprises people when I become assertive. This causes a lot of problems because instead of being somewhat intimidated by my body language and therefore more cautious, some take it as a time to "pounce" and then I end up having to fight extra hard to counteract the original impression they got from me which ends up making me look more aggressive when I'm really just trying not to be taken advantage of. I've also been told I have resting bitch face, and people think I'm having condescending thoughts when I'm really just socially anxious, more scared of you than you are of it type deal.

I used to think very poorly of myself, that I was ugly and inadequate. As a result it was very hard for me to trust anyone, and when people said anything nice I always thought they were just humoring me. I've allowed myself to take in good stuff more and more over the years, but it's still hard. I still believe it quicker when someone says something negative. Gotta keep working on changing this.

As far as my own experience being an extremely introverted person, others perceive me as snobbish or unfriendly (far from true), I've he been told this is common by other introverts. The saying that "you can't judge a book by its cover" rings true, society will assume all sorts of stereotypes based on appearances. Being heavily tattooed I've dealt the assumption that I'm either a convict or a bad boy tough guy (neither are true). Even in cases of long term relationships and friendships it's my opinion that rarely the other party knows the true self of the other. It would probably scare the hell out of the majority of people to know what truly is going on in other people's head. I think most but not all people try to project personality traits that they assume will make themselves accepted by others around them. Often these traits do not reflect their true selves, leading to hang ups and anxiety trying to keep up the act. All I know is that the more I disconnect from social situations and the older I get, the less I care about what other assume about me, and the more I can be myself.

I think it all depends on perspective and circumstances. I think that there are some people who have a similar view of me as I do, but I know that others don't. Most of the time I don't care.

Are you kidding? It would be nice to see ourselves as others do but the problem is that there are lots of "others". We don't even see ourselves as other people on this site see us. I ask for my friends to give me constructive criticism as a way to grow but sometimes I am reminded, "be careful what you wish for"!