Question to any and all men who follow me or read this.
When dating a lady, would you be still so interested if in the course of dating it was discovered that the woman in question was born male, that the beautiful lady you had wined and dined was transgender. How many of you would continue to court this beautiful young lady and how many of you would be disgusted and leave.
I'm serious about this guys it's a question that will undoubtedly have a lot of soul searching being done among a few of you.
I personally know my answer and I'll reveal it in due course. I'd firstly like to see who will stand up and tell the truth about there feelings on this subject oh and the question stands just the same if the girl was pre or post op trans.
Since I identify as pansexual, a person's sex, gender, and assortment of body parts do not matter to me one bit. I would hope the person would be comfortable enough to tell me upfront but if I were told later on or found out some other way I probably wouldn't be too bothered by it.
Hypotheticals are always tricky. There's a lot of nuance and context surrounding any relationship, even simple friendships let alone romantic relationships. So I voted for the third option, because I just don't know. I would not rule it out or in a priori, and there is nothing in the set up situation that discusses any emotional attachment when the big reveal occurs, nor the circumstances surrounding the admission. Could go either way.
At this point in life I can honestly say that I would continue to date her. If someone has a beautiful heart and mind then they are already amazing in my eyes. I've put a lot of thought into this and I could not see myself turning away a chance at true love. The world is a cruel place,but I don't have to be.
"How many of you would continue to court this beautiful young lady"
What if the trans woman they were dating was a sassy-mouthed old bag?
But seriously, trans women NEVER disclose their history to dates until after dinner, otherwise we'd never get a free meal.
That’s tough to answer. I know philosophically I would ok with it. The idea is sharing your life with someone you care about and trust.
My key reservation though is in the field of raising children, i.e. whether to adopt, find a surrogate, etc.
But with that in mind though...once passed the discussions and logistics, if you really care about and love them, does it really matter?
I guess it would depend on when I was told. Honesty is at the top of my list of important character traits for a potential partner. Being transgender is major information that should be communicated early in a relationship. I would think that if I were told up front, and I really liked the gentleman, it would not be an issue.
I have dated a trans lady. It didn't last long, and never got to the physical stage. I enjoyed the experience. She was a fun person to hang out with. I would do it again. I like women. I get as much out of a positive interaction as I do getting physical. Some of my best friends are women who are in relationships with others. I'm not trying trying to intervene. I just like to interact without sexual tension.
I really need to be in the situation to figure it out, I'm more into having kids naturally instead of adopting to be honest but it doesn't mean that that wouldn't be an option. First I have to get over my own biases of the situation if I really did like the person a lot.
I'd love to say I'd be all open-minded and stuff, but I really don't know how is react to a cock in the bedroom. I've had zero homosexual experiences, and attraction's a very visceral thing, and I just don't know if I'd be 'actually, I can't do this' or 'c'mere, baby'. Post - op would be less confronting for me initially, but either way I'd be having to learn a whole new world of genitals.
I'm 68 years old and have been married for 22+ years to the same woman. For me, at this stage in my life, I'd say that situation would be just too strange to cope with. We've several "alternate lifestyle" couples in our neighborhood & the constant drama they have in their lives would completely exhaust me.
I think it depends a lot on the person and how it comes up. If I wanted to have children that would be a legitimate issue however if not, I'd have to consider how this affects my view of that person. I can't say it's a deal breaker, but I also can't say I'm looking for a woman who's had a sex change.
In addition, I don't know how this would affect my attraction to the person until i was in that situation. I'd hope it wouldn't change but I can't say for sure.
I should like to hope it would be more based on the person, not what is or has been between their legs. As society (USA, Canada, EU & UK) becomes more accepting, this may just become a social norm in the not too distant future.
I have seen in the UK over my lifetime, homosexuality go from criminal act, to legal for 21 year olds, then down to 18, then 16. Recently same sex marriage has been legalised. I say good, lets evolve.