What do you think keeps relationships going strong long-term?
Within the context of a romantic relationship, friendship.
No idea. I kept my last one going for 12 years by being a doormat and workhorse. Not doing that again.
accepting the suffering that is the toll for giving and receiving love.
Whoah! I just crossed you off my christmas list.
sorry, I didn't mean to be offensive.
@GoldenDoll is sharing each other's pain not part of love, not part of a relationship.
love, trust, sex, commitment, respect.
You live in Rochester NH?
I think this differs with every relationship. Some factors for me would include (in no particular order):
A certain level of compatability in several areas
Physical
Some similar interests
Similar philosophy
Non-believer (I think being with a X-tian could work now that my kids are fully formed, but I'd still favor a non-believer)
Compromise (there has to be some)
Honesty
Communication
Human realtionships are complicated things, IMHO. This just scratches the surface. LOL!
First, emotional stability for both is critical. Commonalities (mental, emotional and physical) are also very important but, in the end, it takes work on both sides. If one is trying and the other not it will not work.
I have been through failed intimate and friendly relationships. I have also been ones that have lasted. I hope I have learned something from both.
Determination. Working through problems with respect. Choosing them over and over again.
You asked two questions. What makes a relationship last and what makes them strong long-term? Long lasting relationships happen for many reasons, children, fear of being alone, financial reasons, fear of starting over, and some I'm sure I can't think of. I believe strong long-term relationships are based on being best friends.
Complete honesty and mutual respect for each other.
forget the honesty bit , be real
@markdevenish From what i have observed and read, when there is an infidelity, if a person is honest the relgionship has a much better chance of survival, than if they lie and are caught. Most describe havign been lied to as the greater betrayal. In cases where infidelity isn't involved, it is almost always dishonesty which results in a break up.
I don't think there is a golden rule. I have known several couples married for over 50 years and they have different reasons for the longevity. I also know a couple that was married three times and divorced twice. They had a set of ideas that were unique to themselves.
Understanding and choosing wisely in the first place
Being that I have yet to have a successful long term relationship, I can only guess. But from family members who have been married 40+ years, I think the one thing that they all have told me is communication is the real key. That and a recognition that the two of you will not always agree.