I was a christian for 26 years and was used to praying through the hard times to feel better. Now that I don't believe there is a god out there in control of everything, I've had to come up with other ways to de-stress. Sometimes I just remind myself of how far I've come and what I've been capable of. Sometimes I take deep breaths. How do you de-stress when things are tough?
Take out the source of stress - it just makes life not worth living, so why try to live with it.
I head outdoors for a hike, or watch nesting desert birds from looking over our yard railing.
Photo I just took of a male curve-billed thrasher guarding his nest in a sagebrush thicket growing in desert area adjacent to our yard.
By the way this particular male comes to my sliding glass door at night to say "good-night" to me with a loud "WIT! WIT!" until I nod to him. His mate also calls to me from the thicket, and I can hear other thrashers all over the mountainside also echoing the "wit, wit" call before the male dives into the thicket and everything goes silent for the night.
Maybe go out and drink with friends. The friends part is important since hopeful the situation will be fun and alcohol if used in a safe manor can be a pretty good distressor but it can easily turn into a depressor if your not careful.
I think everyone else covered most of the ways to distress.
The best way for me to de-stress is to do one of two things, or both together. I make a conscious choice to stop thinking about whatever has stressed me, but I first must resolve the stress-trigger as best I can. The best thing for me is to spend time with my dogs. They are about a 400 year old breed, and have been called "comfort spaniels" because they are incredibly good at offering comfort, as they are intuitive and empathetic, not to mention soft and cuddly! Just the act of hugging and cuddling is calming, but brushing or stroking the dogs can do the same thing. I can take that time to move my mind to more pleasant subjects...
Listen to Solfeggio Frequencies, Theta waves, Hypnosis. Also close your eyes and do nothing but focus on your breath for 3 minutes. At the end of 3 minutes you will be completely relaxed
I meditate. I talk to people. I positively affirm what I most desire. I lighten up. I get massages. I practice self care. I take a nap.
Everything is just temporary. Glass of wine, temporary. Work out, temporary.
I just try to trick my brain into releasing the chemicals I want. Ever just hug somebody for like 30 seconds? Works amazing for killing stress.
Of course, that requires cooperation and advanced warning. You can't just like wrap somebody up for that long without their permission.
Reading a book to learn something. When im done, i know more than before start the book. And thats amazing, and comes with amusing feelings.
Every morning, I start my day by going to the local YMCA (usually walking). I swim for twenty minutes, doing the backstroke with my eyes closed, and meditating in the pool. As best I can, my thoughts and focus are solely on my breathing and the movement of my body as I move through the water. When I am finished, I feel both relaxed and a bit exhausted from the workout.
I meditate daily so as not to built up stress...intense physical workouts help me as well, especially if it involved punching something...
Petting my black cats seems to calm me down and take me away from it all...
I like all of the suggestions people have given...one of each works for me!
Walk by any body of water,meditate,certain music,420,playing guitar, strolling through the park/woods...for different stress levels,different solutions
It depends on what I'm stressed over.
If it's something I have control over then I do whatever needs to be done as soon as possible.
If it's something out of my control then I remind myself of that fact and try to let it go.
Also, binge watching your favorite show on Netflix doesn't hurt either lol.