@david75090

Giving their best?

With online dating, 80% of people (men and women) post old photos and lie about their age, height, weight, fitness and/or profession.

I arrive early at a cafe', nicely dressed to honor the occasion. Raised to have good manners, I engage men in conversation. Enjoy meeting people. Here's what happened:

1. Most show up badly overweight and out of shape. And years older.

2. 75% of the men expected sex on the first date.

3. Every man with closed-lip photos had missing and/or rotten teeth.

4. Guys have the fantasy of being fit and hiking with me:

"You can whip me into shape."
"You can teach me to hike.”
“Will you be my guardian angel?"
"You can make me happy."

Many men are divorced for a darn good reason. In my experience, most guys can hold it together for about three weeks. Then their bad behavior comes out, the same behavior that killed their last relationships.

They go from relationship-to-relationship because they are unwilling to work on themselves.

@LiterateHiker Yep. You're doing very well. Apparently, they're not. Is there a common denominator in all that?

@david75090

People falsely advertise themselves. I insist on a phone conversation before meeting. Most men do good phone.

Online dating is like a blind date. You never know who will show up.

One man posted photos of his son. Advertised himself as 55. I blanched when he stepped out of his truck. He saw my face and instantly got defensive. He looked like the grandfather of the man in his photos.

"It's advertising!" he insisted. "I got you to meet me, didn't I?"

"It's LYING," I countered. He admitted to being 74. He looked 80.

I got a manicure for this?

@david75090

How old are YOUR photos? Why do you only show yourself from the chin up? It looks like you are ashamed of what's below your chin.

I dated my photos. Why didn't you?

Look in the mirror before criticizing me.

@LiterateHiker That's funny but I can see why you were annoyed. I met my current partner online and before that dated several women who were just as they advertised themselves. Maybe women are more honest than men. Regarding the unfit and overweight men, on my travels in the USA I got the impression that people,both men and women, were either normal size or grossly obese so you may have problems.
I recently saw a dating site for outdoor active people advertised here , do you not have something similar with you.?

@LiterateHiker I'm guessing that you're at the upper range of the physically fit in your age range and are looking for the same in your men. Sounds like you aren't getting your needs met. You must be meeting a bunch of wannabes who wish they were in your category but aren't.

Don't condone false advertising. That's annoying. It happens. Saw a gal on a dating site that I knew was a year behind me in school who listed her age as 62. I'm 68 so I knew that couldn't be right. I eventually asked her about it and she said she was getting too many really old guys contacting her. I thought, but didn't say, that we're in out late 60s and old guys would be age appropriate.

I looked at my replies where I criticized you in my comments, but didn't see it.

@david75090

I've had better luck finding a fit man since joining Fitness Singles two years ago. That's how I met Bill.

Here's a photo of Bill, MD, and me in December 2017. I took Bill snowshoeing for the first time.

"One of the happiest memories in my life was when you took me snowshoeing in the mountains," he said in March 2019.

Bill l is a competitive bicyclist who is 10 years younger than me. Last Saturday, he rode a 100-mile bicycle race in 94-degree heat. To train for the race, he has been riding 150 miles/week. He also lifts weights.

"I want to keep my muscles so I'm attractive to you," Bill said.

In the second photo, the men had finished riding 90 miles, gaining 3,900 feet of elevation. A week ago. Bill is on the left in the orange shirt. He is 6' 2" tall.

@LiterateHiker this is just funny and appalling at the same time.

@Stephanie99

Thank you. I edited the conclusion, making it clear we are divorced.

Reminds me of the vast majority of women on Match that I see, about 70% of the profiles I view, who are divorced and will only date men who are divorced, not anyone widowed. Probably because they think that all, instead of a minority, of widowed men are still emotionally married to their dead wives. So they stick to only dating the familiar, fellow divorcees, and wonder why they are all leftovers or not good at relationships.

@zeuser

Happily, I am dating a medical doctor who is emotionally mature. He is kind, patient, disciplined, caring, fit, and has excellent self control.

@dahermit

Through online dating, I have met over 100 men in the last 10 years. I screen them with a phone call first. Most men do good phone. With 90% of the men I met, I declined a second date.

Eighty-percent of people post old photos and lie about their age, height, etc. on their online dating profiles, research shows. I have reached the point where I feel surprised when a man looks like his photos.

Meeting different men has been fun, hilarious, shocking and interesting. I learn from everyone I meet.

@Bigpawbullets

Don't blame me.

Thorough online dating, I met over 100 men in the past 10 years. I screen me with a phone call first. Most men do good phone. I've reached the point that I feel surprised when a man looks like his photos.

With 90 percent of the men, I declined a second date. Meeting different men has been fun, hilarious and shocking. I learn from everyone I meet.

Happily, the medical doctor I am dating is emotionally mature. He is kind, thoughtful, patient, giving, disciplined, physically fit, self-reflective and has tremendous self-control. Bravo!

@LiterateHiker
Guy with the aircraft? "Women must be submissive"?

@bigpawbullets

Bill, MD, gave up on pushing me to have anal sex and act submissive.

"I miss you," he wrote three months ago. "One of my happiest memories was when you took me snowshoeing in the mountains."

That weekend, he texted: "It's such a beautiful day, I flew to Wenatchee to ride the Apple Capital loop trail. If you are willing to meet me at the airport, I'll take you for a ride."

Happy dance! I LOVE flying in a small airplane. "I'll bite," I replied. "Am going for a run. What time do you want to meet?"

"Where do you want to go?" Bill asked when I arrived at the airport.

We flew up Lake Chelan to Stehekin and North Cascades National Park. It was spectacular!

Returning, Bill followed the serpentine curves of Lake Chelan, flying just 200 feet above the lake. High ridges embraced us on both sides, The lake was still as glass. From the air, I could see currents changing direction. It was a magical moment.

A rainbow followed us down the Columbia River.

Hey kiddo! As long as you're happy!!!

@Francool

Relationships are learning experiences, not mistakes.

See my reply to @david75090, below.

@LiterateHiker yup I hear that, had read all the other posts before responding. I think it is sad but as I 'meant' Bill sounds cool.
I don't get why anyone should be dishonest as if you meet it would be so obvious. But then I do not give a fuck what people think about me and if I am not their cup of tea, fine.