I have learned that rejection is just another lesson in life. I never doubt myself. How have you been rejected ? The pain is only temporary.
By every other student (save one) in my classes, K-6
By every student in the school grade 7.
By most students in the schools grades 8-12.
By most other students in colleges.
By strangers in public.
I'm done with people. Period.
Actually, I am single a little over a year for the first time in my adult life.
It is not a bad experience, really.
Coming home and suggesting feed plans without going through six ick faces.
Those clothes were CLEAN! What are you doing?!
Why were they on the floor?
And then there is the look.
What other people think of me is none of my business. If I groveled before the opinions of others I'd never do anything in life.
I don't get rejected a lot. I tend to play it safe. Im pretty reserved. The closest I've been is being stood up or we just stop talking.
It's pretty hard to take an interest in someone in the first place (at least in my case). I like to think I have an eye for people who are special. If you've taken a chance, you've done your part. It's out of your hands and up to the world
When I was younger I took rejection a lot harder than I did as I got older and came to realize that it was for the most part just the bruising of my ego.
I would not compare what I have gone through with a child being rejected by a parent or other caregiver which is something that can leave deep slow to heal scars on the psychy of the child.
The pain is "only temporary" if the rejection is not constant....but if you are being constantly bullied (yes, bulling is rejection) it will mark you deeply and maybe forever.
I had a student who was called "narigueta" (big nosed) during her four years of HS. Once she told me: "I will do anything to buy myself A NEW NOSE." Two years after she graduated, she went to the school to show me her new nose. She looked beautiful and said to me "Please, don't ask me how I got the money."
As I said, the pain of rejection not always fades away.
The worst rejection might be separation and divorce. It's not just the separation, yet how the other caused it and when he/she says they are done and never want you back. And other things, like they never gave you a chance to fix it. The pain is temporary, yet while in it, it feels like it's gonna take too long. This is me right now.
Rejection always open the opportuny for somebody more worthy of you to Steal you away. Sometimes me being the "headgames mean fucker" I am. In a dance venue after observing my "target" I approach her just to talk... I can tell the type that won't talk to you unless you can dance... so she had not see me dance and rejects talking to me. So I go and pick best of the best to dance with. Suddenly the attitude changes on her so do mine. No Longer Interested talking to her or dancing with her even when asked. My Headgame. All in this Life should be Temporary... you control the pain! ....or better yet... Suffer None!
I do my best not to impose on people and just be myself. I hate the way a lot of woman are treated by a lot of men I really do. I love sex and women im atracted too but im very aware of who does and who doesnt like me even from a glance. I don't get rejected though either. I respect prostitutes but couldnt do that myself because I wouldnt want a women pretending to enjoy something that she probably isnt and I want them to fancy me or im not interested. I don't understand rapists etc and men intimidating women especially if there in a position of power. its fucking creepy. I know im not young anymore and I know im at best average to look at but my moral code is fully intact. im realisticly going to stay on my own but its ok because id like some female company but don't need it.
Many rejections...still waiting to be embraced.
It's a deep pain, and doesn't feel temporary when you're in it, but you're right. Lessons abound in this life.
Well, at various times I’ve been rejected as an employee, as a wife, as a sister, as a daughter and as a friend. Just the other day I was rejected as a woman (that’s still fresh and raw). Those who didn’t reject me love me very much, so that helps.
It’s tough, but either I give up, or I keep going. Some days I collapse in tears, but that doesn’t help, so I just do my best to keep going.