Go with the flow. Take care of yourself and family live a proper good life and things will go well. Along the way you will have problems and these are opportunities to grow, make the best of them.Don't forget to show your inner love to someone because if you don't you will be a lonely person.
My least healthy would be vegging in front of the tv for hours, effectively avoiding tackling my to-do list. My healthiest is, of course, spending hours on Agnostic.com sounding out ideas here and digesting valuable wisdom from all of you here!
(How's that for totally sucking up?)
Many years ago I picked up a book called The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck, and the opening paragraph has never left me.
“Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult-once we truly understand and accept it-then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.”
A bit Buddhist I know, but that was the Buddha’s calling, to understand the sufferings of life.
I haven't cried in years. Inside I cry like a baby but in the real world I know it does nothing and means nothing. What has happened to me is that I see my life from now and on backwards in great detail. I see my faults and the acts of others (parents included) as to why I have my faults. Since we all have faults I cannot "blame" anyone exactly for how my life has turned out. I see many truths but knowing this I can still see how a "re-do" of my life would probably be about the same. Perseverance is a key word here. The best we can do is try and try again. If we learn something from each relationship this is all we can do. It takes everyone that has b een in your life to make you who you really are.