Would you as an agnostic or atheist marry a Christian?
I've met a very beautiful woman on line. She and I share many common likes and dislikes, but she is Christian.
Would you personally pursue such a relationship? Why or why not?
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I always say if your faith in something makes you a better person, and you are happy with your beliefs,, by all means do what is best for you. I have no desire to command you to think like me or to order your submission to my ideas you are entitled to think what you wish.
Bangkokbob
Level 6
Aug 14, 2019
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i agree and that would be the end of that except for the habit of so many christians of NOT agreeing with that, and acting accordingly. i don't try to convert folks to atheism. christians are perpetually telling me i'm going to hell unless i take jesus into my heart or some such thing. people may think what they wish but some wish to think that they may control what i think!
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@altschmerz yep, and i got a lot of shit growing up and even as an adult for being jewish. now it's a double whammy! if i'm not going to hell for one thing, it's another lol. these people don't care about being offensive; they're ON the offensive! i think they think they're in the crusades.
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@altschmerz yes and it causes dizziness in intelligent observers/victims!
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@altschmerz holy cow, i would have said something to that boss early on! one possibility: "i know what christmas is. i do not live under a rock. anyone with a tv, anyone who doesn't live in a cave, is inundated for a couple of months out of the year with christmas movies, christmas stories on tv series, christmas decorations at schools and in stores, christmas parades and christmas news. i do not refrain from celebrating it out of ignorance. i do not celebrate it because it celebrates something in which i do not believe; to celebrate it would be against my religion and my culture. please do not call this my first christmas; it is not my christmas and never will be. feel free to celebrate it as you please; that's your thing. it isn't mine. thank you for thinking of me."
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@altschmerz i try to be diplomatic. people don't always respond to it. some people just get SO upset if anyone disagrees with them on any topic. i just had to block someone on fb (not, alas, an unusual occurrence) because... well two people actually. one was adamant that the public school system needed to be dismantled because it is brainwashing kids and they can learn on their own. my argument is that while a lot of education takes place outside the classroom, both the classroom's socialization effects and its presumed egalitarianism help kids and society, particularly the poor -- if you mom and dad are uneducated, how are they going to educate you at home? i said that the system needed to be fixed and i won't go into how here because this will become an even longer post but i think i was reasonable and i said not to throw the baby out with the bathwater. for my efforts i was called all sorts of mocking names, ending with "pathetic." that guy got blocked. then there was the woman who said that raw story was apparently a russian bot site because she read four stories from raw story dealing with racially motivated incidents (for example, white people calling the cops on black people who were minding their own business in public). many people explained to her that raw story was a reputable source of long standing and not in fact a russian bot site. she told one guy to break a bottle and shove it up his ass. i told her politely that her remark was uncalled for and got some vitriol thrown my way in response. she got -- can you guess? -- blocked. diplomacy only works with people who actually aren't hysterical to begin with, eh?
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@altschmerz not to mention if we paid teachers enough and put enough money into public education instead of stealing it and giving it to christian schools, thank you bitch devos, we would HAVE better public education! it's like shooting someone in the heart and then saying "we can't give benefits to this person; she's DEAD!"
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@altschmerz she fits in with uncle putie's scheme to put in people whose states goals are to dismantle their respective departments. sort of like putting hitler in charge of synagogue restoration. see how THAT goes!
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No. I remember when my boyfriend of three years told his parents we were getting married. “But she’s not a Catholic!” I should have run away like a gazelle being chased by a cheetah. I was related to those assholes for over 30 years. I make it my policy to never have anything to do with the religious or the republican.
Killtheskyfairy
Level 9
Aug 13, 2019
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" Dump and lazy , I understand !"
Pralina1
Level 9
Aug 14, 2019
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A Jesus fish, do you have any fish sticks? Dumb and lazy!
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Friends, yes. Marry, no. I need to be connected to someone who is in touch with reality as much as possible. I need to now that they will stand up and not just fall to their knees when times get hard. Not just hoping to get to a better afterlife but a better tomorrow and cherish each day on earth with the people you love. I need someone who feels that religious dogma is a waste of time, and focus on what’s most important, the here and now.
AngiePoo
Level 5
Aug 14, 2019
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I married a christian and I love her to death. When the subject of religion comes up in discussion, we debate a little but it never gets heated. We get along great. We just disagree on that issue and respect each other.
Nuke
Level 5
Aug 14, 2019
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That's really cool. You two must be very special people.
I spent 23 years with a Christian. My wife just passed on, but she was a REAL Christian - a good, compassionate person. She never pushed her faith on me and i never tried to convince her that she was wrong! Live and let live was our life.
IanMMcLeish
Level 3
Aug 14, 2019
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As a survivor of a 27 year marriage at the end of which she divorced me and took everything I ain't marrying nobody again I don't give a damn what they believe
Drsmash253
Level 7
Aug 14, 2019
4
No I would not... only because I have bad experiences with religitards trying to convert me at every point... he or his religious family would try to convert me or manipulate me into converting and I am sick to death of that shit.... sorry not sorry
demifeministgal
Level 8
Aug 13, 2019
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I would never marry a Christian. I'd never marry anyone else, for that matter. But in terms of pursuing a relationship, it would depend. Chances are good that any devoted Christian and I would have significant difference of opinion on major issues and that some of our core values would be in conflict. But if I met someone great in every other way and she were nominally Christian, perhaps only because she was brought up with it, that might work. Faith really couldn't be terribly important to her and it couldn't bother her that I'm a non-believer.
resserts
Level 8
Aug 13, 2019
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I have absolutely no intention of ever marrying again. Or having another
"romantic relationship".
That said, I would have no interest in pursuing anything with a believer.
KKGator
Level 9
Aug 13, 2019
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You've been hurt. 
We all have. Doesn't make me special.
@KKGator No, but empathy costs nothing so here's a (((hug.)))
@Sgt_Spanky Thank you. You're very kind.
Yes I would ,as long as they were not fanatics.My mother is a catholic and my father has always been agnostic for their 36 years of marriage with no problems except for a discussion about belief once in a while but this is not often
juli15
Level 7
Aug 13, 2019
4
My wife of 44 years is a Christain and attends church almost every Sunday but she not a fanatic about it.
is she hot? I can put up with a lot of ignorant crap for smoking hotness. especially a hot redhead with green eyes.
JeffMesser
Level 8
Aug 13, 2019
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She's hot, but no red hair. Maybe I should make that a condition.
@AstralSmoke no red hair? I don't know. That's a tough one. I may be a misogynistic pig, but I am a misogynistic pig with standards!
I understand you, but...would that relationship be for a long time commitment?
@Merseyman1 usetabe I could only guarantee 2 minutes. but I could probably get 5 now. just not a furious five.
I wouldn't pursue it. Even if it doesn't appear to be an issue now, the likelihood of it cropping up at some point is high.
Unless she is Christian in name only and not actively practicing her beliefs. I called myself Catholic long after I stopped believing, but before I openly identified myself as atheist.
Tinocca
Level 7
Aug 13, 2019
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No. And hell no. I ask right off. It's a deal breaker.
Freespirit64
Level 8
Sep 24, 2019
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That’s one of my criteria as well.
MizJ:
Exactly, dealbreaker.
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