Accept people as they are and want/choose to be or move on.

What I can't understand is not washing/conditioning/combing it. If I'm doing my hair, why wouldn't I do my beard at the same time? And not trimming your moustache? It gets in the way, why make your life harder?

Annoy him further by placing small items in his beard such as pencils and paperclips or small toy birds and insects

Oh yuk. No beards please, only on someone els boyfriend/husband/wife/girlfirend.

Wait until he falls asleep and drizzle some syrup into it. Bit by bit it will get him annoyed that he will likely reduce its abundance of shave it off.
Just a little bit mind, he's got to think he got in there.

Tell him or drop him, be honest, as you going to live with it?

If you find beards repulsive, you should put that in your profile.. save everybody time.

I’ve worn a beard or goatee for 35 years now on varying lengths and styles always changing it. For any prospective girlfriends my facial hair is part and parcel part of the deal, just like my pups are non-negotiable

This guy sounds like a duck dynasty fan. Beards are awesome, I take pretty good care of mine and keep it short though. A lot of guys myself included definitely look better with than without, but some need it as a masculinity mask and turn it into a new metric for dick/truck measuring contests. If your masculinity is so fragile you’re worried that hygiene will make people see you as a hipster you don’t need a beard, you need a pacifier and a security blanket.

I feel the same way about my beard as I do about my . If you don't like it there's the door.

I'm not averse to a clean beard, even a long one. However, dirty beards are sickening; I recommend applying a few drops if Immac/Veet/Neet or similar hair removal cream each night while he sleeps.

Suggest that he wash it every time he showers.

Too gross for me too even think about...sorry either the beard would have to go or I would.

Good luck in getting an awaking out of him

A variant of the story of Samson and Delilah comes to mind but that would not be a good outcome.

I've had a goatee for decades because it works for me. Despite this, if I were with a woman who hated facial hair, I'd have no issue losing it. I can't imagine that would ever happen though since it looks so nice on me as evidenced in my profile pics.

But that's just a goatee. It's small and subtle. Long, bushy beards just look ridiculous on anyone.

Except Santa. His works.

Keep mine short tell him too big for mustache ride lol

Word.

As Edward Lear wrote:-
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It didnt magiclly appear , did it. Personal prefrence stated
is going to get results or not. My brother grew one for
hunting season,,,it then disappeared for the rest of the year.

I've pulled the plug for less.
Gross me out, and I'll pull it sooner.

Yeah, his beard sounds pretty bad. I wonder if there isn’t something more (mental or emotional) going on, since he went from neat & clean, to dirty. He has no excuse for not maintaining a clean beard.
I’ve had facial hair for years; I trim it frequently (unless I’m trying to grow it out) and it gets washed at least once a day, then beard oil applied. The bread trimming might take 10 minutes; the wash & oil maybe 2 minutes