Silence isn't necessary a problem. Some people like to concentrate on the sensations they're receiving when having sex.

The time to talk about preferences is before the act. If they're into sexy talk, then talk. If they aren't into it, leave them alone or find another partner.

you need to have sex a bunch of times, thats the best way to figure out what he likes

I like to eat during sex. Nothing too serious. A turkey club sandwich or a slice of chocolate cake. Sometimes I just snack on cashews or almonds. The problem is I can't get my girlfriend to eat also. I even offered to make her favorite sandwich, grilled cheese with sliced tomatoes and avocado, but she said no thanks. She doesn't mind my eating though. She just says she wasn't raised like that.
Any advice.

Maybe it does all feel good and he doesn’t have a the experience or imagination to suggest more. You might try reading erotica or watching porn and talking about what seems interesting, or not.

My wife and I are silent during sex. We have been married for 47 years. I like to fantasize during sex which I believe is fairly common.

sexy talk is a fine art, it is a seduction and not many men or women understand this skill. we are not born with it. I think if it turns us on we teach ourselves, but for him he is perfectly satisfied. If i were your man and i read your letter (aside from the great thing that you are asking what you want) i would feel inadequate and pressured. In my last serious relationship to the man i thought I was going to marry, after 3 years in the relationship he started to talk to me about what he wanted in bed. Before that whenever i asked him he would clam up. Now he is finally asking for what he wants. Great, but... so what he wanted was for me to orgasm during intercourse. Well I cant, or I never have and I told him this very early on so he wouldnt think it was something he did wrong. I explained in extreme detail how everything feels and what part feels good and how im very satisfied with all of it. He was still unsatisfied and i think that was the beginning of the end for him. Thats what he wanted and I couldnt do it it. I just can't do it on demand. Maybe someday i can do it with someone who brings that out in me, but i certainly can't just force it to happen. I didnt like feeling the pressure. I didnt feel inadequate but instead i felt like he wasnt giving ME what i wanted, which was the space to travel that road. Now everytime we would have sex i would feel pressured. Maybe your man doesnt worry too much and will definitely give it a try and you both can find new heights, but this is my opinion. Yes ask for what you want, but never ever call it a "problem". If you want to seduce, you have to inspire, not demand.

He may feel awkward about it for a variety of reasons. Until the right partner came along (pun intended) I was pretty quiet too. It always felt contrived.

It's good that you brought it up and he's willing to talk about it. Maybe ask him sexy time questions that require a specific answer to get him going.

I like quiet. After you have sex with someone multiple times it just sounds contrived. I don't want to have to think of things to say, I want my brain to enjoy what is happening. I don't like music going on either. As a musician my brain will wander to the music. I don't care for phone sex either. It is fun once or twice, but after that you have to think of new stuff to say, and that creates pressure and takes away from relaxing and enjoying what is going on.

have you tried a puppet show?

Reminds me of an Al Pacino/Michelle Pfeiffer movie, "Frankie and Johnny".
He was quiet during sex and his partner asked "why?"
He explained that when he was in prison, it was wiser to be silent during
masturbation.

I'm not very vocal during sex but I do talk. I don't need anything like the movies provide for us as it is disrespectful and crude.

Once had a beautiful girlfriend made no noise during sex. Her former husband was an under taker for 25 years.

I expect people to be very different in this regard. Some people come from very reserved or repressed backgrounds, so both by nature and nurture may not be very verbal in this context. Communicating about it is helpful, but to be honest I don't think role playing should be a goal in the context of sex, but rather, allowing each other to really be themselves.

This is particularly true of men, who have generally been taught that their feelings are both unimportant and scary things, and who feel particularly vulnerable during and around sex.

I have to say that when I have loosened up a bit in this area my partners have not been very receptive, so consider the possibility that you're more uninhibited and desirous of this sort of talk than many men have experience with -- and their operant conditioning via other women may not be to your liking. Be patient and take it slow; if he's capable of accommodating you he'll come around. At least when it comes to sex, there's lots of motivation to take risks when given explicit permission to do so.

I think men are afraid and with that are silent to be in a neutral position. One thing that I agree with is that he probably does not know what he wants and most likely has never experimented other than basic sex . He probably thinks he will upset you if he does say naughty things and about what he would like done to him and most likely has had no experience receiving either. He is afraid to ask or express his feelings
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Maybe an ice breaker to get him to open up is make a list of all the sex acts and make it a very broad range and put a tick besides all the ones you have tried or interested in or ones that really turn you on Plus the hard limits No ones also. Then have him read it, You will probably get some funny looks and then tell him to do the same and that there will be no judgement one way or another and see what happen.

,Ones he reads the list more than likely he is going to feel a lot more comfortable about what you like or want to try. Now he knows his thoughts are ok to express also and see where it goes

Beats me I get vocal maybe not loudly